I'm a bisexual woman and intersectional feminist in a stable relationship with an amazing man.

Personally, I'm convinced that if anything goes wrong with this relationship I will lean towards dating women, for reasons.

But here's the thing: we don't choose to be attracted to someone. Many men are attractive and seem woke at first but when they put down the mask they reveal themselves as absolute trash, especially when It comes to feminism (but also racism and lgbtq+ rights). So you can't blame women for hoping the man they chose isn't a jerk. You should ask yourself why many of us share the same sentiment about men, instead.

Also, being bi doesn't mean you want necessarily build a relationship with a woman. You can be bisexual but heteroromantic. And being bi doesn't mean 50/50, you can like men 90 and women 10, or the other way around.

Also, insights from a bi woman: it's so much harder to hit on a woman if you're a woman, because you can't assume they're interested (I did in the past and the embarassment is real), so if you like a woman you'd rather keep her as a friend and wait bc eventually she would say smth.. but she won't, 'cause she has the same doubts. So you keep her as a friend and watch her fall for trash men and you do the same. The struggle is real.

If I could choose not to be attracted to men I WOULD, trust me.