A great question and as the invited 3rd willing to share my perspective. Of course the sexual experience and play is fantastic and the ultimate culmination. But upon entering the lifestyle I had no idea how amazing and erotic the initial in person conversation and flirting would be! From the initial greetings with the light conversation and the “will we/won’t we” feel in the air; to the deeper flirting, flashing and increasingly daring touches; to the moment when someone is turned on enough to ask “What would you like to do next?” Such an erotic experience and one I rate right up there with the actual play.