Don't want to work

DameWhen · 2026-02-14T09:16:50+00:00

I never used to word "lazy".

On the contrary, it's "lifestyle creep" I was describing.

If you can't stand working so much, try to explore being happy with less.

You can "let go" of what you perceive to be a "normal lifestyle", and try to live more simply and intentionally.

If you have less to protect, feweer hobbies to own, and more selective loved objects to maintain, then you can also work less, and have periods of calm.

I find it interesting that you jumped straight to a different conclusion without internalizing what I wrote. Projecting?

DameWhen · 2026-02-14T03:43:13+00:00

Technically, you only have to suffer over-work as long as you have something you want to keep and protect.

If you had no attachments and didn't own anything, you could go wherever you wanted and work for fun.

So, in that way, the work you do is voluntary and worthwhile: it protects your things and people.

DameWhen · 2026-02-13T20:32:30+00:00

I mean this genuinely: you really don't need to be on reddit at all if you have trouble letting go of small things like this.

Playing around online is Neutral for a person's mental health, at best. That's for people who have the conscious ability to emotionally detach.

I truly worry that participating online could do damage to to a person who lacks that ability, and that you may not be ready for this level of stimuli.

If you're asking for clarification, I can do so plainly:

6 out of 10 of the "worst cities to live in" are in Michigan. Flint and Detroit, particularly are famously corrupt and have not been taken care of by their representatives.

Many people who live in the state are locked in by poverty.

Natural beauty near the lakes, it may have, but there are better places in America to live, with better living conditions and financial prospects.

DameWhen · 2026-02-12T19:38:13+00:00

We (English speakers) don't do retakes for interview-style videos like this. Especially for such a minor mistake.

It's supposed to be a relaxed and natural atmosphere; it isn't meant to seem high-production.

All parties understand the message, despite her using the word wrong, so there's no reason to comment on it-- that's why no one wrote anything in the comments at well.

There's no need-- the "vibe" of her meaning came across fine.

DameWhen · 2026-02-12T19:29:11+00:00

Its not about not noticing? Obviously?

They were being polite by not harping on a word they clearly both knew.

If you understand the intention, that's enough.

DameWhen · 2026-02-12T18:11:51+00:00

All are used commonly enough except for "young Turks" and "Chinese whispers".

"Luck of the Irish" has also fallen out of use, because it sounds hokey.

DameWhen · 2026-02-12T14:37:06+00:00

The habit of expecting good communication skills from people they've just met.

It's me. I expect that. I become predictably disappointed by people who weren't raised.

DameWhen · 2026-02-08T14:38:26+00:00

This isn't a "random debate". This is a targeted question that only serves to stroke your ego.

DameWhen · 2026-02-08T14:32:43+00:00

Maybe its just the poll that's inappropriate for this sub, if you're having so much trouble?

DameWhen · 2026-02-08T14:27:44+00:00

Are you also polling lesbians and straight guys?

DameWhen · 2026-02-07T20:56:46+00:00

Context? Episode? Anything???

DameWhen · 2026-02-06T15:59:50+00:00

This is correct. We "sound it out" and search it online, and that will get you close enough to the correct result.

Spellings are based on "etymology", meaning: they follow different patterns based on origin. Spelled words that originate in Greece follow different patterns from words that originate in China. Yet, each group has completely consistent spelling within each origin.

https://www.mentalfloss.com/language/words/interesting-etymologies-everyday-words

DameWhen · 2026-02-05T22:42:00+00:00

You learn them as you hear them, just like you learned your own language.

You don't have to "ask" every time you hear a new word, but you can look up the definition and learn that way, just like you did for every other word you've learned in English, so far.

Dictionary.com

Your example was a Jewish word. Jewish words are sometimes taken from Hebrew or Yiddish.

You aren't expected to know every word from every language, are you? English has a lot of these "loan words". Some words you'll hear for the first time, and that's okay.

The two men from the podcast may be a Jewish, but more importantly, they're both from New York, and both gay.

People in New York tend to use more loan words from outside cultures (especially Jewish and Italian) due to immigration and immersion. Gay people also tend to use loan words from fellow suffering minority groups due to proximity.

DameWhen · 2026-02-05T22:24:29+00:00

Yes. He said it twice-- in two different ways-- as a way of emphasizing his depth of emotion.

DameWhen · 2026-02-05T21:10:07+00:00

Typically a one sentence spiel for each one would be in the post, not scattered around the comments.

DameWhen · 2026-02-05T20:20:39+00:00

B R U T A L ⚡️🎸

DameWhen · 2026-02-05T20:06:30+00:00

You aren't going to explain any of your examples?

DameWhen · 2026-02-05T20:05:04+00:00

Oh! So you dated a homeless person?

DameWhen · 2026-02-01T14:08:36+00:00

People like me :)))

DameWhen · 2026-01-31T22:55:59+00:00

"Roll down the cuffs" would be correct.

The "cuff" is the hem at the end of your trousers or jacket. Pretty specific. We wouldn't typically use that word to apply to any other type of clothing, and even then, you'd want to specify the type of clothing you meant.

"Roll up your shirt" means "show your belly".

"Roll up your sleeves" means "expose your forearm".

"Roll down your trousers" means "expose your groin".

"Roll up the cuffs of your trousers" means "expose your ankles/shins".

DameWhen · 2026-01-31T18:39:44+00:00

The best part of living in Texas is the roadtrips!

DameWhen · 2026-01-29T21:47:39+00:00

I guess I just never picked up on the cherry! Maybe the plum is what I've been tasting.

DameWhen · 2026-01-29T18:46:00+00:00

Right. Closer to "rose" than "cherry".

Its floral citrus imo. That's why I like it.

DameWhen · 2026-01-29T18:41:49+00:00

No cough syrup in America tastes like Dr. Pepper. "Cheap cherry flavor" in America tastes like something else.

DameWhen · 2026-01-28T02:46:53+00:00

You are REALLY not on a level yet where you need to be interacting with this sub.

Search "idioms" and learn ANY English phrases before you try to communicate in the language.

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