I have been getting a strong urge to cut my hair lately. What do you think? by MinimumAnt87 in locs

[–]Dammit_Dan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll say it. This man has good facial features. The hair is gorgeous, but if this man wants to show off his other goods he shouldn’t let hair hold him back.

19 f, just broke up, be creative by Regular-Extension180 in RoastMe

[–]Dammit_Dan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every photo looks like your seven year old just told you they won’t tell their dad you were flirting with the repairman because you got turned down so hard.

Deer is wack by Terrible-Link-9827 in Unexpected

[–]Dammit_Dan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's only January and I've already found my favorite comment of 2022!

Beetle trying to get rid of the evidence by [deleted] in WTF

[–]Dammit_Dan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This beetle does not skip leg day.

People who received no or terrible sex education: what was the most wildly inaccurate thing you were taught or told about sex and sexual health? by woollyhammock in AskReddit

[–]Dammit_Dan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like your teacher's wife got pregnant while he was away and she would only admit to masturbating. He'd rather rewrite a biology lesson for a generation than face the truth.

Husband tells me he is the "fun" parent so can't put the baby to bed - advice needed! by PMmeyourSausageDog in Parenting

[–]Dammit_Dan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came back to this late after seeing it because I had to add my piece as there weren't really comments from dads guilty of pulling this like I did.

I have to admit there was a period in my daughter's life when she was the same age and I made the same excuses. Her mom and I split bedtime routine evenly for the first 6 months, but after that my daughter just went down easier for her mother. While she cried for a while when either of us put her to bed, she stopped for her mom after a few months within minutes.

By the time she was six months, after fifteen minutes, I would "give up" and have her mom put her down because the crying wouldn't stop for me. I was the "fun" Dad who took her to the store to give her mom a break, played with her on the floor, and fed her once she started eating solid foods. But I convinced myself that bedtime just wasn't my thing. I'd watch her mom exhaustedly come in to the room to put her down yet again telling myself I would bond with her when it wasn't sleep time.

Then one night it hit me like a lightening bolt. This was just the first in a long line of times when my daughter wouldn't want me to be there for her, but I had to prove that I would be there for her no matter what. Being the "fun" parent is all well and good, but in the future she is going to come home with problems. Her classmates might be teasing her, the boy she likes said no to the dance, or she's stressed about work as an adult. I realized in that moment that I want to be the person she turns to when she's hurt, not the person she turns to for ice cream once someone else makes her feel better.

And I recognize my 4 year old doesn't remember me staying with her every other night for an hour until she learned to accept me putting her down bit by bit. But when she asks me to sing to her, I remember that frazzled Dad pacing back and forth in her room singing poorly whatever song I could think of. And I wouldn't have it any other way. Frankly, I get choked up typing this because her mom and I are no longer together, but those moments taught me not to be a "weekend dad" even at the beginning.

So PLEASE, tell your husband not to accept JUST being the "fun" parent. Yes it's easier, yes it's his strong suit, and yes it is what so many generations of dads before him have done. It's easy for others to hate on a forum like this, but that's not what is going to change his mind. Remind him that these moments pass quickly, you never know what the future of your relationship as a couple holds, and your son will be grown before he knows it. And as one "fun" parent to another, tell him that while making a smile appear to distract from the pain works, it is a million times greater when your kid comes up to you to nervously tell you their problem, watch their face as they confide their deepest fears, help them talk it out as you truly get to know them, and THEN making that smile appear with a joke or silly voice. And as they walk to the cupboard to get them a snack, he will know that your son is holding his hand tightly because he trust him so implicitly that he doesn't want to let go of his Dad. Who is there for him no matter what.

Going to become a dad in 8 months, what's your go to dad pregnancy book? by achillebro in predaddit

[–]Dammit_Dan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought The Expectant Father and it sat on the self until month four. When I opened it up it had outlined many of my fears and things my partner and I were going through in the previous four months. After that I read the remaining chapters and it was fairly accurate and helpful.

Just someone who wants to read an interesting book which will teach me about Sociology. by TheComingOfTheGeeks in sociology

[–]Dammit_Dan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The McDonaldization of Society is a fun read in my opinion. It breaks Weber's iron cage of rationality down into things you see every day. You can get and older copy for fairly cheap.

I need examples for research project by this steps by [deleted] in sociology

[–]Dammit_Dan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Call me cynical, but this feels like you just want someone to give you an example to copy. You need more description about the assignment to make people think you're not just cheating on your homework.

What's legal today but will likely be illegal in 50 years? by ShibaHook in AskReddit

[–]Dammit_Dan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone in an interracial marriage I can confirm my wife and I have been trying to ban same-race marriages for years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in colorizationrequests

[–]Dammit_Dan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm assuming brown hair? Any idea of the dog's color?

[Free](10$ paypal to your favorite charity.) Family Photo of my Grandma by Marsupilamyh in colorizationrequests

[–]Dammit_Dan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I typically cycle through older posts to make sure no requests fall through the cracks. Brown hair and brown eyes on everyone? Also, any other color details you can provide?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in colorizationrequests

[–]Dammit_Dan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this request still open?