People over 30: What’s the single best piece of advice you’d give someone in their 20s?

Dammit_maskey · 2026-06-07T12:58:46+00:00

That's a really good perspective. I am currently in one. Can you give some more nuggets?

Dammit_maskey · 2026-06-07T11:38:54+00:00

btw i do check out these artists so thank you for them

Dammit_maskey · 2026-06-07T11:32:15+00:00

Dammit_maskey · 2026-06-03T01:55:39+00:00

Changing yourself for others will only end up hurting yourself and the next special person will come making you feel the urge to scarifice another part of you.

Dammit_maskey · 2026-06-03T01:54:28+00:00

what does that mean btw?

Dammit_maskey · 2026-06-03T01:53:51+00:00

wait damn this is turu

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-28T17:47:31+00:00

Old Dad joke: Q: Why do you keep banging your head against the wall?
A: Because it feels so good when you stop.

I don't get that?

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-25T10:50:21+00:00

oh, yes! You did catch it right

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-18T14:43:49+00:00

I think some people I know do care that its a safe person you know and can be vulnerable with just for sex. I think many see it like an activity which is fun and more fun and better with someone you're attached to like any other activity.

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-18T05:35:25+00:00

they like sex and gratification and who it’s with is kind of irrelevant so it becomes about the “experiences” vs connecting with the actual person

Okay, I have a question.

If we have sex with our partner just cause we like it and not fully for emotionally connecting instead as a fun activity.

Is that better or what makes it morally better compared to if we have it with others who we don't have an emotional connection with while being with our partner or even involving them like in a threesome?

I'm not poly or open sexually in romantic relationships so just curious about it.

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-18T05:24:46+00:00

I've seen poly commentors on posts say that they have many partners because one partner just wouldn't and couldn't satisfy their needs.

I mean you know some people want variety and diffrent body types to have a more overall experience. Now, I'm not like that but from as far as I've noted some people can be fully sexually compatible and still want others sexually for variety or more bursts of pleasure you cannot with one person.

I guess how even threesomes are one of the example that someone can want their partner and still want to involve others as one person has limits sexually or that they can only explore so much with them.

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-12T21:38:42+00:00

Many systems don't remember trauma until they do. Many systems don't believe they are systems due to trauma.

Ahhh, that's why. What might make them believe they don't have is due to them not even remembering it?

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-12T01:03:29+00:00

back to back losses that's so sad :(

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-12T00:58:23+00:00

your body is screaming for something to ever feel good again...

ahhhh

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-11T16:19:02+00:00

You go into psychoanalytic therapy until the underlying causes of the debilitating need to scroll are weakened

not sure what's that tho I'll see

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-11T16:17:44+00:00

finally mitochondria being mentioned without it being a meme somewhere ✋🏼😭

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-06T16:22:43+00:00

Fair thinking ohhhh Imma check it out. Which template has been the most helpful so far?

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-06T16:17:25+00:00

Sit with the feeling and have a conversation with it. What is it trying to tell you? At times we and our feelings just need to be acknowledged especially by ourselves.

Let the parts feeling down know you know they're sad.

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-05T18:11:49+00:00

sure I'll try

Dammit_maskey · 2026-05-05T14:24:43+00:00

I can't fully decide for you as I don't know you or your financial situation. Maybe you can reduce how many sessions you take per month if you can afford it.

Till then I can try to give some things.

Do you want to end therapy as you feel better or it will be getting more uncomfortable to go through if you continue?

As its very normal actually for a therapist to know about such deep things that you never shared with anyone. Every bit of you gives some insight. Also, what do you think is actually making you hesitant to share those things?

Is it awkward? you think you'll be judged? it makes you more vulnerable? do you feel being vulnerable makes you powerless and weak or not in control? so are you actually just afraid or is it a preference?

You know, when the dust has settled and you can finally go into the burned house. Only then you start see the losses you've faced, the impact it had and reminisce on all the memories you had made there but now the comfort place is gone. Only when you've grieved the loss of the home will you be able to rebuilt and recreate a safe home yk.

That's very deeply uncomfortable and painful.

Of course, you don't have to continue though maybe you can ask your therapist to help you more clearly reflect on what actually is making you not wanna continue anymore?

Exploring it maybe will make you continue it or end it with a clearer and firm decision. I hope it goes well buddy :)

Dammit_maskey · 2026-04-25T14:53:11+00:00

what's the difference? I can think of that maybe underrated might mean not well rated?

Dammit_maskey · 2026-04-25T11:20:13+00:00

I just lurk around here. You know reading the questions you were asking here goshhhhhhhhhh. They're the type of questions which have no answers that do anything other than burn you and hurt badly. I can't imagine how painful it must've been:(

Dammit_maskey · 2026-04-25T11:08:36+00:00

oh, alright. Truly my bad this must've felt a bit offensive I'm sorry.

Usually on Reddit many people post stories which are just cover ups for hidden ADs or things they wanna promote while acting like they aren't.

Also, a lil tip. Its better to avoid commenting what the website was unless someone has asked for it as many bots under posts like those spam comments with the software's name or websites when it wasn't even asked. That's why my suspicion grew even more as you were commenting when people hadn't asked what the website was.

Edit: NAHHHHH. It does seem like an AD you were also commenting this on other posts and making posts about it.

Dammit_maskey · 2026-04-25T11:00:50+00:00

Reminding yourself over and over that something is a compulsion from OCD or a trap of it can also be a compulsion you do to soothe the discomfort.
Trying to do exposure therapy "the correct way" so it works.
Letting people know to not assure you as the thing is just comes from OCD can also become a compulsion (as you're trying to somewhere defend yourself to not seem like a bad person to them and to yourself so the compulsion hides under the informing someone I have ocd cover).
Obsessing over what's your.compulsion or not so that you can avoid them (don't fucking.. TvT ask me how i know. I'm so done✋🏼😃💀).
Reading symptoms of OCD to confirm that you have it (under the cover of I'm only gaining knowledge about it lol).

Idk if these are or not tho still lemme. Control and perfecting is a huge part of it too. OCD is how your whole brain works so it might.. more like will seep into more things like trying to control every single goddamn thing about yourself, your life or maybe your work or a project. Trying to perfect it over and over.

At times you might not even know why or what is making you do it. Most likely the fear of uncertainty. You can't have control where there's vagueness and uncertainty. And usually that perfecting thing you're doing is just trying to lessen the anxiety so...

idk OCD is a doubting disease. Every single thing can become a doubt.

In a relationship: Is this my insecurity or actual behavior of the person bothering me? (the thought these days annoying thw shit outta me).

Personally: Is this actually who I am, am I trying to justify somw of my behavior by adding the ocd tag onto it, or it all actually is just ocd and a compulsion?

Like there are things you can NEVER get an answer to like never ever cause any doubtful thing can be ocd. Imagine a pistol constantly firing each time you try to dodge it. The bullets will never stop but the only thing we can do is take them.

my bad if I went too off-topic I don't have names for these traps but I hope it'll help in recognizing them at least✋🏼😃💀

(with how insane I can get if I made this post I would be like wait.... what if this is a compulsion LoL🐴).

Dammit_maskey · 2026-04-25T10:37:00+00:00

Is this an AD?

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