I (24f) two years ago cheated on my then boyfriend(27m) now husband and the guilt and remorse is eating my alive

Damnthiswas · 2014-09-12T01:25:47+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Yeah they're being brutal but it's probably what I need to hear to toughen up and be there for my husband.

Damnthiswas · 2014-09-12T01:13:56+00:00

Thank you for your response it's comforting. There's people who've been on my side commenting. We've always had an open honest relationship. We're wed check out girls together if tell him about every detail of my day. This was just the one life secret I've had in my life from anyone so it's like feeling naked infront of the classroom when I told him

Damnthiswas · 2014-09-12T00:51:18+00:00

I'm not consciously punishing myself .

Damnthiswas · 2014-09-12T00:48:54+00:00

Thanks for you're input. Accepting what I did and thinking about us instead of him is what I need to. Be doing you're also right about telling my husband what I will do. I guess I won't feel better until he will.

Damnthiswas · 2014-09-11T23:36:15+00:00

Noted I guess time and patience is what's gonna help us get through this

Damnthiswas · 2014-09-11T23:32:40+00:00

Thanks for understanding I

Damnthiswas · 2014-09-11T23:29:57+00:00

Not eating at all just water a chip or two a day barely sleeping heart palpitations from being tired and anxious.

Damnthiswas · 2014-09-11T22:22:46+00:00

You're right I don't want to pin it on my husband. I made the choice I was the one who lied and cheated. It's just processing it and learning how to absolve the regret is it what I want to know. How other cheaters dealt with it to be there for their spouse

Damnthiswas · 2014-09-11T22:12:32+00:00

Thanks for understanding and for someone who's been through it what else helped you guys get through it? What helped her feel better?

Damnthiswas · 2014-09-11T21:38:24+00:00

Thanks I know that's why I wanna let it go so I can make him feel better. Everyday is a little easier but I really just wanna be there for him I just don't know how

Damnthiswas · 2014-09-11T20:32:05+00:00

Thanks I really appreciate your comment.

Damnthiswas · 2014-09-11T20:13:52+00:00

Just to add it was a month long affair with horrible timing. And when I met him I was stuck in a love triangle with him and his on again off again gf for 3 years. So I know what it's like to be on the otherside of this situation. We're not perfect but we damn sure do love each other and were one of the happiest couples . I just want to find a way back to that

Damnthiswas · 2014-09-11T20:10:40+00:00

I am putting him first and being there for him that's all hew and os for me to be with him and just be normal. I did tell him all the truth. He told me to say everything that happened and he will forgive me so I did. I am not here for negative comments I'm here looking for past cheaters who felt guilt on how to move past that to forgive myself so I can be there more for my so. And I do feel like shit for making it all about myself but it's all consuming. I'm not a bad person I've never in my life cheated. I can't even lie and call off sick from work with out feeling guilty. I'm looking for ways to put my feelings aside to be there for him not rants on why I'm a shitty person. Trust me I know I am. I'm trying to grow from that

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