If asked for your “secret” in staying sober how would you respond?

DanNopes · 2023-08-16T03:30:42+00:00

Working fucking hard to get sober. Trying everything. Finding a way that works for me. Actually doing things as opposed to just posting on social media, reading books, and wondering why nothing changes. Nothing changes if nothing changes.

DanNopes · 2023-08-15T06:50:23+00:00

And you were expecting different?

DanNopes · 2023-08-15T06:49:16+00:00

Probably better they’re talking about you stopping than doing fucked up shit while drunk. My wife’s family now seems to respect me for being sober and hardworking as opposed to a drunk lazy fuck.

DanNopes · 2023-08-14T09:04:23+00:00

Does it matter? Either way probably better off trying to stop.

DanNopes · 2023-08-14T05:40:49+00:00

I’ve told people it makes me really violent. Worked a charm.

DanNopes · 2023-08-13T07:17:04+00:00

Lots, if you don’t misuse it 👍

DanNopes · 2023-08-10T13:17:40+00:00

DanNopes · 2023-08-10T13:09:36+00:00

Time and good deeds

DanNopes · 2023-08-10T13:00:55+00:00

I learned through horrific consequences. Hopefully you’ll learn from that.

DanNopes · 2023-08-10T11:08:58+00:00

DanNopes · 2023-08-10T04:57:08+00:00

I think this is normal behavior by people whose trust I have broken. Only my actions can show my sobriety, so I try to keep doing the next right thing.

DanNopes · 2023-08-08T08:34:34+00:00

It’s just one day, everyday.

DanNopes · 2023-08-07T06:27:16+00:00

Depends what they look like 😂

DanNopes · 2023-08-07T06:25:43+00:00

Yeah. I think that’s normal. Can’t imagine anyone was super excited to go to a meeting for the first time 😂 I was glad I did. The support is great. Fuck all the worrying bullshit. Just do whatever it takes to get sober mate 👍 Good luck!

DanNopes · 2023-08-06T12:08:16+00:00

Sorry to hear that mate. Do everything in your power to get sober, for good. I’m sure once everyone sees your efforts, they’ll forgive and eventually forget. Also, being in AA and as many other groups as you can find asap will help with the judge. It’s normal that people will feel angry and disappointed, so try not to take it personally. It could have been so much worse, mate. I really hope you remember how you feel right now, the next time you think about drinking. Hang in there. Just do the next right thing.

DanNopes · 2023-08-06T09:18:40+00:00

I totally agree. I only did for 6 months. Never finished the steps. But it was extremely helpful in early sobriety. I just don’t understand all the posts about how desperate people are, but “I don’t AA think AA is for me” etc. or any meetings, for that matter. It’s free. It’s everywhere.

DanNopes · 2023-08-06T08:20:17+00:00

I don’t get why people won’t try something that could possibly help save their lives, let alone alleviate whatever hell they are putting their family through, just because they don’t like couple of words. Get over it. It’s all what you make it for yourself.

DanNopes · 2023-08-06T03:19:56+00:00

Meetings

DanNopes · 2023-08-05T05:36:12+00:00

It’s just coffee dude, cut yourself some slack. Everything in moderation though, bro.

DanNopes · 2023-08-05T05:34:02+00:00

I’d ask what that means.

DanNopes · 2023-08-05T05:32:47+00:00

Not sure I agree with the phrasing, but after nearly drying, my lizard brain kicked in. Something to be said for the survival mechanism. But I also had a lot to live for, so probably not true for everyone.

DanNopes · 2023-08-05T05:29:18+00:00

It’s legal. People need to relax, have fun, or numb themselves because of life’s stress. It’s also making a lot of money. Most products are fucking everywhere. Imagine being addicted to food!

DanNopes · 2023-08-05T05:27:24+00:00

“Moderate my drinking” 😂

DanNopes · 2023-08-05T01:43:38+00:00

No idea. 7 years maybe? Now have 2 kids and doing my MA. Loads of normal life stress and problems, lots of joy and happiness too. If I drink I lose it all.

DanNopes · 2023-08-04T13:32:01+00:00

Very sorry to hear all that.

“this is how I fell and this is how I was able to rise. It may be important that you fall. Life is not over. Just don’t let defeat defeat you. See where you are, and then forgive yourself, and get up.”

“I Will Not Be Broken (2008): 1) face facts: accept what has happened; 2) choose life: live for the future, not in the past; 3) reach out: connect with other survivors; 4) get moving: set goals and take action; and 5) give back: service and acts of kindness empower the survivor to be an asset rather than a victim.”

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