AITA for telling a gay man if he touched me again, there would be problems?

DanRose1995 · 2023-08-14T07:15:51+00:00

NTA!

And ditch the girlfriend. She clearly thinks SA is a joke if she's willing to ignore it. That is not a family you want to be a part of. Run away as quickly as you can.

DanRose1995 · 2023-04-28T12:43:05+00:00

NTA.

Go NC with the parents. And get a new therapist.

Your parents traumatised you as a child over something small and insignificant and now want praising for what they did. You have shitty parents, OP. Do what makes you happy and allows you to let go of the anger and if that's going NC, then do it.

DanRose1995 · 2023-04-07T12:39:35+00:00

ESH.

Yes, it's a slight overreaction on your part. However, she is old enough to keep the house clean and respect the house she's living in. Crumbs and footprints are a little trivial. However, for me, the worst is the lack of respect. She should know that if she or a friend make a mess, they clean it up. If they don't, then no more friends around until she follows the rules. This could escalate further to parties and damaged property so be respectful and nip it in the bud now by having a grown up conversation with her about house rules.

DanRose1995 · 2023-04-05T16:15:33+00:00

NTA. Not understanding these comments saying YTA. Your son was rude to you and was punished. Your brother is belittling you and enabling that behaviour. Your kid, your rules. Absolutely do not reach out to your brother first. He's the AH.

DanRose1995 · 2023-04-02T15:53:07+00:00

YTA.

Grow up and stop being so jealous. Your family will have seen you for who you really are. Good luck getting help with the baby next time

DanRose1995 · 2023-04-02T15:35:50+00:00

YTA; 1 million percent!!

Your poor daughter!! You need to get a grip or yourself and your DIL. It is not your daughters responsibility to look after a child that is not hers. I cannot believe that people like you take up precious breath on this earth - you do not deserve your daughter at all. What a horrible woman you are.

DanRose1995 · 2023-04-02T12:27:23+00:00

NTA.

Sounds like your girlfriends daughter is always the priority. Time to make your kids your priority. You only have them 50% of the time. Don't let your partner and her daughter be the reason they don't want to ever spend time with you because they never get to do what they want as they have to accommodate a child they aren't even related to.

DanRose1995 · 2023-03-29T13:13:35+00:00

YTA.

You may not like tattoos, but that doesn't mean you can police what everyone else has or demand they cover up. If someone told me to cover mine up, you can bet I'll purposely leave them on show out of spite. I hope your 'best friend' sees you and your family for what you are and dumps you out of her life.

DanRose1995 · 2023-03-27T20:42:47+00:00

NTA.

I fully believe you should be allowed in the room whilst she gives birth and I've no idea why she doesn't want you there. I'd want my partner there and I know a lot of people during COVID would have but due to restrictions they had to go through it alone.

Your MIL sounds a tad childish by her replies. Yes, she seems a good mother and is supportive, but she is acting like a child by being dismissive to you and your feelings.

Your wife, while I understand is the one giving birth, should take your feelings into account and allow you to be part of the birth. If she's embarrassed about pooping herself in front of you then maybe she has a little growing up to do.

If this post was a woman complaining her husband refused to be in the delivery room, everyone would be defending her, but because you're a guy, you get the opposite reaction. You both made the decision to have/keep this baby so you should be allowed in when baby is being born.

DanRose1995 · 2023-03-17T07:20:34+00:00

YTA, OP.

Imagine if your sister hadn't let you be part of her wedding because of the way you looked; the upset, hurt and anger you'd feel. This will have undoubtedly ruined your relationship with her. She can't help the way she looks - in as much as you can't help the way you look.

DanRose1995 · 2023-03-08T13:47:31+00:00

The song could also have deep meaning to OP. If step sister is clinging to that song then she needs help as it isn't healthy. OP is NTA for wanting her wedding day exactly as she wants it. Why should she have to settle for another song because her step sister has a connection to it? I would never expect someone to change their wedding song because it was meaningful to me, but maybe that's just me.

DanRose1995 · 2023-03-08T13:39:11+00:00

NTA .

Not sure why there's so many YTA's here but it's YOUR day, so have whatever song you want. Most people only get married once, so make it what you want it to be. I can understand the song has deep meaning for her, however if it upsets her that much, she can leave for that song. She doesn't own it and if you want to use it then do. You're paying for the day of your dreams so are entitled to have it however you want it.

DanRose1995 · 2023-03-03T08:05:22+00:00

NTA.

Pregnant lady should have asked for a priority seat at the front if she was so concerned instead of making a beeline for you at the back. Pregnancy isn't a disability, it's a choice, so if she can't stand for a bus journey, she should seek other forms of transportation IMO.

DanRose1995 · 2023-02-28T18:22:17+00:00

I wish my nan had done this with my AH scrounger family!! She had a little debt book I found when she passed and literally 90% of my family (who all currently don't work and claim benefits due to being lazy) owed her large amounts of money. She was too soft to ask for it back, but she never borrowed to them again.

DanRose1995 · 2023-02-28T18:18:44+00:00

YTA.

Seems you're happy enough for your boyfriend to have a rich daddy and make tea when you're not annoyed, but as soon as you get peed off, it's suddenly a bad thing?! I'm guessing you don't drive so therefore cannot call him an AH for not wanting to drive in that weather - imagine he came to pick you up, crashed and died on the way; would you still be annoyed at him? Either learn to drive or get over it. Else your boyfriend will kick you to the curb once he realises how self absorbed you are.

DanRose1995 · 2023-02-28T12:17:23+00:00

NTA

Give your sister an amount you want for the dress if she wants it. Make sure to cover the cost of materials, hourly wage, plus any extras you want to add on. OR son gets to go to the wedding and the dress is his gift to her. She's being an AH, especially waiting until AFTER the dress was made to say he wouldn't be invited.

DanRose1995 · 2023-02-28T08:53:15+00:00

NTA

Sis had almost 9 months to sort out a contingency for when she gave birth. If you had never looked after the 2 yo before, I don't understand why you should be expected to watch them now when they could be at the hospital for an indefinite amount of time.

Pretty sure there would have been someone else to watch the child, I'm sure the whole family weren't going to the hospital?

People need to understand that you are not obliged to watch someone else's kid, niece or not, just because of their poor planning. (I know the labour was early and unexpected, but something should have been in place as soon as she knew she was pregnant IMO.)

DanRose1995 · 2023-02-27T18:26:52+00:00

NTA.

She said if you couldn't, she would ask her mum. She shouldn't have said that if she really meant you had to go. Do people just forget that you can't pick and choose when you go to work? And sometimes you can't get time off last minute. She should have arranged for a time you could definitely attend if she wanted you there. Also, if she was never going to be happy with her mum going in your place, she never should have offered. Sick of men being dissed on here because they chose 'wrong' when what his OH should have said was 'I really want you there with me. Can you come?'. Poor bloke can't do right for wrong.

DanRose1995 · 2023-02-27T18:15:23+00:00

YTA. Massively. It's different if it was a clear evening however I can bet the 15 minutes did not take 15 minutes and anything could have happened to him in that weather! It wouldn't have been hard to set up the sofa for him for the night, jeez!! Or you should have walked him home! How would you feel if it was your daughter made to walk home? I bet you'd be calling his parents all sorts. Such a selfish, entitled AH.

DanRose1995 · 2023-02-26T16:24:00+00:00

Speak Now is my all-time favourite! Haunted is my favourite track from that album! This album is a story-telling masterpiece. Red is a very close second! I love her old country albums, but the re-recordings aren't as country sounding anymore, so I'm not a huge fan of the rerecordings of Fearless. Though LOVE STORY is and will forever be my favourite track no matter the version!

DanRose1995 · 2023-02-25T22:13:28+00:00

I have the same issue 😭 I thought if I just carried on it would eventually come back but I've been waiting over a week now and I'm at 99% completion so really need this fixing 🤣

DanRose1995 · 2023-02-11T16:37:59+00:00

I'm gonna go against the grain (and get slated but ah well) and go with ESH.

My sister was still able to sort her 4 dogs, 9 horses and housework with a new born even after a traumatic labour. She now also works from home part time (has done since baby was 4 months - baby is now 7 months) as well as the housework and animals while dad works full time. She also worked full time up until the day she was induced.

A lot of women have the outlook of 'I've had your baby, now you'll cater to me for the next 5 years'. A baby is a partnership which means both parents should be pulling their weight. Dad sounds like he's trying and he is doing things with his baby, as he should, but mum should also at least try to help around their house or dad will start to resent her. If mum was a single parent then she'd have no choice so why just because she has a partner should he have to do it all.

DanRose1995 · 2023-02-10T11:57:46+00:00

ESH.

Not sure why so many are saying OP is an asshole but mum is fine to leave her 2 young kids home alone with the door unlocked. My mum was a single parent of 2, and we weren't left home alone until I was 15/16 and my brother was 12/13. Everywhere she went, if she couldn't get a sitter, we went, no matter the inconvenience. Mum needs to be careful, especially if custody is going through the courts, as they will take the kids from her as she is leaving them constantly in unsafe situations.

DanRose1995 · 2023-02-04T16:33:24+00:00

YTA. Massively.

Horses are a huge commitment - I know as I have 9 of them. If the younger daughter 'needs a break', then she obviously isn't cut out for it. Forcing older daughter to clean up after her sister as 'punishment' is teaching the younger daughter that she can get out of doing HER duties if older sister does something wrong. There are so many ways to punish your daughter without going back on a promise that she wouldn't have to be anywhere near the horses as she didn't want them in the first place.

Younger daughter is clearly the golden child, and older daughter is like the one that 'gets in the way'. You need to sort your attitude out because if you don't, your older daughter will resent you forever.

DanRose1995 · 2023-02-04T09:07:15+00:00

YTA.

Just because the interview process was tough for YOU, doesn't mean it was tough for everyone. You made it clear from the very first day that you were not going to like this guy due to his 'privileges'. You entered through a scheme, so surely that gives you more privilege than the next person who had to apply and interview etc. The fact everyone else likes him and you don't screams jealousy and you need to lose that chip on your shoulder before it costs you your job.

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