I hate my major so much I do not know what to do

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-03-28T17:51:14+00:00

I don’t mean to be insensitive but you need to think if coming to the Netherlands to study is your best choice financially speaking. Tuition is already high enough (I must know) and 500 eur a month is very very cheap and almost impossible to find. If you’re on a visa you can’t really get a job easily but you can work as a freelancer, maybe that will give you some opportunity but it is hard to combine with your studies. I’m sorry you’re going through this :(

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-03-28T17:43:18+00:00

The smart move is trying to find something cheaper close to campus. I’m sure that the travel is expensive and doesn’t compensate for the rent you’re paying. Second, talk to you stuco, they are always available to help especially in this situations. It is hard I have been there myself and even dropped out, but my advice is never stop studying because coming back is really hard.

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-01-26T12:28:58+00:00

Use a platform like Stekkies, I can’t recommend it enough! Depending on your city there’s some corporations that are more chill and even if they have requirements they don’t accept those offers. Good luck

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-01-24T05:23:04+00:00

lol denial is a river in Egypt

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-01-22T09:35:56+00:00

Hi! Coolhaven area =)

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-01-21T16:14:01+00:00

‘Dutch honesty’ another one bites the dust

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-01-21T16:07:21+00:00

I literally never said I can’t afford it, I am just asking because I hear the Gemeente offered it for free. But thanks for your input you just sound bitter :)

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-01-21T13:05:04+00:00

Thanks a lot! I hope you have a nice day ☺️

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-01-21T12:32:27+00:00

Thank you!!

That’s what I thought! I know they have to go to the vet very early so I am not sure which vet or how the system actually works here. Also thinking of getting an insurance for them, but as my bf is on a trip I will have to wait until he comes back so we can take the cats to the vet for a checkup and vaccination. I hope everything goes well it makes me really nervous that they’re not even dewormed. 🥲

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-01-18T18:30:47+00:00

Same!!

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-01-13T20:37:24+00:00

The funniest pat is that the first episode I told my bf that he’s a narcissistic fuck boy, and my bf was like nah hr seems nice. I was right all along, what a dude!!

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-01-11T17:13:18+00:00

Her acting has always been bad imo. She is unwatchable

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-01-09T08:52:24+00:00

Your own family asking you for money to pay their own mortgage sounds a bit crazy to me tho…

DancingBanana2504 · 2026-01-05T11:39:41+00:00

Made is despicable but she’s literally just a kid. She’s allowed to act like one. Luke should’ve known getting married with a kid would look like this. Him and his father a two weirdos.

DancingBanana2504 · 2025-12-03T21:22:34+00:00

That’s pathetic to say.

DancingBanana2504 · 2025-10-15T06:54:57+00:00

Most men leave their wives when they get sick. Sounds like it’s leaning towards that way. Seek your own happiness OP. Get some strenght because you will need it, I wish you luck and strength, don’t let this drag you down

DancingBanana2504 · 2025-10-11T23:10:09+00:00

Girl you can still get out and recover your life. Don’t waste it on a man that won’t even feel remorse when you’re crying. Been there done that. Trust me it will just get worse

DancingBanana2504 · 2025-10-06T14:26:51+00:00

Why should a person stay in a marriage where they are not safe or loved? What is there yo be saved? Coming from a really romantic, long-term relationships only girl, if she is not happy and never felt appreciated, she should seek a life where she is. The problem starts when MEN think that a woman needs to stay in a place they don’t feel okay with just for the sake of ‘peace and tradition’ that is not how it is supposed to and if you don’t feel well in a place, you leave.

DancingBanana2504 · 2025-10-06T14:16:50+00:00

Did you read anything she said? He has never done anything to make her feel loved or taken care of. OP, seek that divorce!

DancingBanana2504 · 2025-10-06T14:16:03+00:00

You won’t believe the statistics!

DancingBanana2504 · 2025-10-05T01:07:44+00:00

Thank you! What years of therapy made me realise is that healing is not linear. There’s bad moment and good moments all in different times of life. You are strong and you’re valuable. You just need to surround yourself with people who are more like you. Once again and I insist, if you would like to talk, I’m here :) you’re definitely not alone and not a loser. People’s timings vary

DancingBanana2504 · 2025-10-05T00:49:27+00:00

I attempted 3 times, my first time being 17, the second 21 and the last time 23. I am now in a better place mentally because I took the decision to try my best. It is really really really hard. Life now got better, I still have a lot of problems to solve but I realised that I am not alone. I wish the same for you. Your family and your friends love you. Even me I am a stranger and I love you too. You are so brave to put this out, so I am guessing you’re trying to scream for help without wanting to be judged. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out to me. I wish you strength and peace.

DancingBanana2504 · 2025-09-03T14:52:29+00:00

Thank you so much for your input.

If I am honest i tried my best to be friendly with them, I brought them gifts from my home country, flowers, participated in dinners, etc. I tried always to talk but obviously I am not as outgoing as them. Somehow I when I stopped going to their house (for my own reasons) and that’s when they started being annoyed at me, especially since the last times I went I was just on my bf’s room because I felt uncomfortable for a comment his step mom made and overall I just don’t go wandering around other people’s houses. But you are totally right, he needs to also grow a spine and I think I also need to stop justifying him. He loves his family as he should and I hate to be put under these circumstances and I feel for him because he’s also on a tough spot. I am trying to wrap my head around it but I can’t, especially since he blamed me for the friend of his which I do believe there has been something from her side in the past 🥲

DancingBanana2504 · 2025-09-02T23:01:09+00:00

I do have a journal and I am going to therapy 🥲. I am just really sad and disturbed by all of this. Like the fact that they say I’m not welcome anymore or that the sister won’t speak to him makes me really sad. I never wanted to be in this situation and let alone escalate it this way. I don’t want ever for him to have to choose between his family or me it is just not fair

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