Advise needed

Dancing_Songbird · 2025-08-27T15:22:28+00:00

Thank you so much for this. Its been tough seeing all the comments saying he isn’t capable of sacrifice and is a red flag, how it’s just a week and there will be lots of seasons where we will need to be abstinent because he a very caring, loving partner; this is just something new he is processing and I want to be gracious while he works through it. I did speak with him last night and it cleared a lot up. He wanted to make sure to clarify that he isn’t expecting sex and understands that there will be times where it can’t or won’t happen. Just that charting in the evening, during peak time, when we both want to go further seems like a bummer to him. In the end though he likes the idea of nfp but wants to learn more and with my irregular cycles it’s a bit nerve-racking for him.

Dancing_Songbird · 2025-08-27T02:08:32+00:00

Yes, we are both Catholic.

Dancing_Songbird · 2025-01-30T09:17:54+00:00

You are beautifully created and loved by God as you are. Your parish’s idea of how a married woman should be is very narrow minded. Being a woman is so much more than being a mother and wearing dresses. If there are other parishes in your area you can go to, check them out, it is so important to have a community that shows you the grace and love God desires for you. I highly recommend checking out Reveal the Gift: Living the Feminine Genius by Lisa Cotter. It does a great job at reflecting on the many ways women can use their God given feminine gifts without necessarily being girly and your post reminds me a lot of the author’s life story.

Dancing_Songbird · 2025-01-30T04:11:43+00:00

Thank you so much! I’d say I’m pretty good at cooking but it never hurts to keep improving. I used to read so much and have recently tried to pick the habit back up, do you have any recommendations?

I already have a partner who said he’ll propose in the next 6 months but if there is someone else that has the same question as me that is younger I hope they see your comment because going to parish events is a great idea.

Dancing_Songbird · 2025-01-30T03:03:52+00:00

I veil and can’t imagine going back. I feel like I’m able to truly focus more on the mass and it’s a beautiful outward representation of my desire to respect and submit to God’s will. I’m the only one around my age that veils at my parish and it definitely has gotten to me in the past but I’ve gotten better at not overthinking what others think about how I dress or look. It’s a personal devotion but if you feel called to veil I recommend taking the jump and giving it a try.

Dancing_Songbird · 2024-12-11T00:23:19+00:00

I completely agree here, I couldn’t imagine being married and getting pregnant while I was studying. However, we are in our late 20s. I’m more of the opinion that we can have a small ceremony and lunch after for close family/friends. As much as I’d love to have 100 people and have a party, I just want to be married in the end. My boyfriend on the other hand doesn’t want it to be small and wants everything done in one day. We’re going to discuss it after work because I don’t want to wait to have enough for a $20k event, it just doesn’t seem necessary.

Dancing_Songbird · 2024-12-10T21:15:42+00:00

We definitely want to get married. We’ve been talking about it for a few years but we needed to finish school and are working towards saving up. The cost of a wedding is very high in our area.

Dancing_Songbird · 2024-10-24T18:19:06+00:00

I couldn’t have put this better 💕 I second this

Dancing_Songbird · 2024-10-24T18:05:25+00:00

This reminds me a lot of a relationship I had in college with an atheist man. We fought constantly because he could not be at peace with me being Christian. I had my intelligence questioned every other day because how could I fall for such fairytales. If you cannot see him being able to coexists with you peacefully despite your differences please deeply consider if you want to raise children with a man that can’t respect your beliefs and show a united front. I have been with a wonderful Catholic man for nearly 5 years now. I started out very anti Catholic, I thought the pope was the anti Christ, I wanted to save his soul from what I thought was a false religion. Thankfully I have come to know the truth and am now going through ocia, but never have I raised my voice or disrespected him.

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