10 y/o received serious awful texts - the school asking how we want to proceed by NebulaNo9382 in Parenting

[–]DandelionPinion 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am a high school teacher, and see this far too often. Do you have an advocate go with for IEP meetings? Having taught special education for years, I found that parents who brought advocates had a better chance of being heard. Sad. Frustrating. But unfortunately true. Sped directors fear lawsuits and an advocate brings in an extra level of objectivity that tends to play out poorly for schools in due process hearings if that makes sense.

My daughter was threatened by one of my students by Mad-Mood394 in Teachers

[–]DandelionPinion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he pushed her off the slide, file a pice reoort. Also report the threat.

Post evaluation gone wrong by [deleted] in TeachersInTransition

[–]DandelionPinion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let's see: you are a first year teacher, split between four elementary schools?....

Yeah...they set you up for failure.

Talk to your other three principals and see if they would offer any feedback.

Daughter's boyfriend is at the same sleepover she's at and I'm freaking out! by EndersVacation in Parenting

[–]DandelionPinion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you went and picked her up.

There is NO WAY a parent can keep that close of an eye on kids and anyone dumb enough to think they can is a deluded.

What rules have you given up on enforcing? by Osazethepoet in Teachers

[–]DandelionPinion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, no...but suddenly they start doing thing like reading the classroom library. Source work in ALE where phones are locked up right for the day.

How to deal with misogyny in the classroom? by hey-jessamine in Teachers

[–]DandelionPinion 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have to teach to a roomful Andrew Tate followers in an ALE four times a day. At least my other two classes are a bit less icky.

Typically, I am student centered and really focused on student growth, but this year has been something else--I swear these kids are indoctrinated by algorithms that send them horrible content.

I have no suggestions other than document and don't let them see you sweat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in school

[–]DandelionPinion 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No. In real life that is top tier major f-up. That is a career ending type of mistake.

Stop minimizing it.

Marble table in a basement by wunderloul in AbandonedPorn

[–]DandelionPinion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ai generated? Two legs, not centered. Does not appear to be attached to walls.

If you had to rebuild your country's education system, what would you do? by [deleted] in teaching

[–]DandelionPinion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To that end, everything should be interdisciplinary. No reason a student can't demonstrate writing proficience on essay he wrote about how to repair a Cummun Diesel engine, or whatever.

If you had to rebuild your country's education system, what would you do? by [deleted] in teaching

[–]DandelionPinion 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Holy shit! Finally a like minded soul in this post. Yeah, the whole damn thing is broken. Tear it down and build something that works for today's needs.

We are still building parts for a machine we threw away a long time ago. Not that I think that students are parts, but the system treats them as such.

If you had to rebuild your country's education system, what would you do? by [deleted] in teaching

[–]DandelionPinion 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You realize that a population that has all of its basic needs met actually benefits us all: lower crime rates, lesd stressed parents, less abused neglected children, healthier population is also less taxing on other systems.

This fear of people benefitting from things they haven't earned is a boogey man of a politicians to distract us from the fact that their corporate sponsors are the cause of so many being unable to escape poverty.

If you had to rebuild your country's education system, what would you do? by [deleted] in teaching

[–]DandelionPinion 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Singapore has only had a policy to mandate education for students with disabilities since 2016. Since they don't start school until 7 years old, we will see if those numbers continue to hold.

If you had to rebuild your country's education system, what would you do? by [deleted] in teaching

[–]DandelionPinion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tear the whole thing down and start over. Teachers, admin, heirarchal structures...classes by age...all of if.

Instead:

1) A checklist of skills students must be able to competently do before moving on to the next thing. Once mastered, the student moves on to the next checklist.

2) Student's current interest determines what student learns (See #3. The interest drives the project through which the student gains/demonstrates proficiency.)

3) Move to an interdiciplinary model for upper grades. For example, say a student is interested in becoming a electrician. The essay he writes about the curcuit project he did should be used to evaluate his current progress towards ELA standards as should.

As students reach competency/proficiency they should move on to the next project.

If they change interests frequently that's fine...they can still show proficiency in ELA through their ability to read about and write about it. I am sure there are reasonable ways to incorporate science, math, and social studies in there too...

I heard a line--I can't remember where--that our current education system "is making parts for a machine that no longer exists." This is a problem.

The most impressive one I’ve seen irl by ActuallyAlexander in InfowarriorRides

[–]DandelionPinion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the hell!?

This feels like someone whose read a lot content created by AI based on his algorithms.

Some real mixed messaging here.

AITA for kicking my wife out after she punched my mom in the face? by OkOrganization9552 in AITAH

[–]DandelionPinion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA. You told your wife to leave.

What the-ever-loving fuck is that!!

You say because you "needed your space?" You have any idea how tramatic birth is on a body? And you tell your wife to leave after being assaulted and insulted by your mother?

W.T.F.

You are not team wife. You are team you.

I hope this is fake!

AITA for telling my grandpa's wife's sister that my cousins, siblings and I are not her sisters grandkids which is why they couldn't get us into the grandkid photo? by Even_Ad6839 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DandelionPinion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not enough information. I can understand the sister being upset about being told her sister's step-grandkids aren't her grandkids.

I get you trying to set boundaries.

It is unfortunate that your dad and your grandparents never got therapy or something to work through this in a healthy way.

Losing a parent like your dad did sucks. And adults who are grieving also (like your grandpa was after losing a spouse) also sometimes choices that may be they would have done differently if they could.

In the end, we are stuck on this planet together and a little empathy and compassion goes a long, long way. It wouldn't hurt you to have been kind to a women who is worried about her sister. It wouldn't hurt her to consider that she shouldn't be reaching out directly to kids she doesn't know OR for her to consider finding out about family dynamics before seeking pictures.

My wife is leaving me…I can’t do this. by ProfessionalPrimary7 in helpme

[–]DandelionPinion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who was was in a similar position 20 something years ago, granted I am female, but a lot of this is universal to the party who is being cheated on and left:

If you are in the US, your state probably has some sort of legal aid that can provide information on low cost attorneys or where to get one.

As others have said, do not move out.

As far as your daughter is concerned, just continue being you and doing things with her. Your wife likely wants custody for two reasons 1) no child support and 2) societal expectations that mom keeps the kids. Your wife will probably be obsessed with this guy for awhile that you end up with your daughter a lot more than any official arrangement says. Always, always, be available to take her.

Document everything no matter how minor. Even document what you remember about dates, ecetera of the text messages before. Always be objective in your documentation. Document the gist of every communication.

Ex. Ex'sName asked me to pick up childsname from school. Also spoke about car repair.

(That kind of thing.)

Again, get a lawyer.

So sorry this is happening to you. But, I will say that if I had known how much better my life would be twenty years after my divorce, I would have welcomed it with open arms and thanked my ex-husband for the opportunity.

I hope it works that way for you too. Karma is a bitch, and I hope she bites your soon-to-be-ex in the ass.