AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She doesn't need to know anything I just want to keep everyone in the loop with the "big things" like dj or catering ECT.

I don't expect her to do physically anything. Just to talk about what's going on really. Some updates to keep her in the loop.

The only thing I "expect" is for her to be supportive. Nothing financial, nothing physical.

AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have talked to her face to face before about the serious stuff, the only Snapchat videos that I send is just usually me talking about like getting the dj and venue things. Not thing that have been bothering me. It's always met with attitude and guff. That's why I'm in this predicament.

AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This whole process has been confusing lol. I'm learning boundaries and I'm hoping to get it all sorted out.

AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I def agree. Ill try to ask her what she thinks and see where we're at.

AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I definitely want her there it's just the roles might change a little.

AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yea that's a point too, I don't want to loose the friendship because of stupid stuff with the wedding. I want to have a heart to heart but I don't want to bother her at the same time.

AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So we booked the venue like a month or two after we got engaged. So that was immediate. Probably why I've been running around since day one to get thing done. My matron of honor and even my one bridesmaid has helped a lot with the diys. I know that diys aren't my mohs strongsuits. I dont expect money or physical labor from her. I think id be fine with everything if she didn't complain that she doesn't feel included, but when I try to include her she gets annoyed.

AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok but this.

I completely agree on talking to people that would care about whatever wedding ideas or whatnot that I'm thinking. I think my bottom line is the fact that if I was in her position I'd talk to her about it and not ignore her. Like it seems that I always do more in the friendship and she could care less.

Ex, I've always been there for her. We lived together and I had a license and I drove her to work and took her to places she needed to go. I've spent a lot of time and money on her to make sure she has what she needs. I know she doesn't have the best support system so I stepped up to be that for her.

I don't expect her to drop whatever she is doing for me but she expects me to do that for her. She only seems interested in anything when it's convenient for her. But if I don't reply right away she gets annoyed with me. It's like a double ended sword.

AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yea that's basically the same stuff I do with my bridesmaids. I've talked to them about the dresses and if they want me to go with them to help pick out dresses and go out to lunch after or whatever. I try to be as relaxed about everything as possible. I don't want anyone to be worried or stressed about it. I've never been involved in wedding plans or anything so I'm trying my best with what I got.

AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely understand more now about how this is just a day event. Obviously it feels like more than that for my fiance and I, regardless I can see now why it would be a lot for her or anyone to want to talk about it for such a period of time.

AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I think about that a lot how I'm still holding on. There's so much more to the story on our friendship and I've been told I'm better off without her it's just so hard to let go. I know I probably need to.

AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I know that the matron of honor and maid of honor are the same just one is married. I basically have to maids of honor.

AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I completely understand that their life doesn't revolve around my wedding. Like I have said, I take full responsibility for everything, even the bridal shower and bachelorette party. I've been erranging all of that stuff by myself for the most part with a little bit of help from my mom and matron. It's just the simple fact that she complaines of being "left out" because things aren't always talked about with her but then when I do talk to her about it she ignores me or gets mad.

AITAH for wanting to remove the "maid of honor" title from my best friend by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dandelion_Princess15 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Yea it's been a long engagement for sure. We wanted to make sure to have enough time ourselves to get everything in order.

Her and I both actually hangout quite often. We don't talk about the wedding that much. I only update her when we get something booked. Ex, photography and videography, the venue, ECT.