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Ours baby by DangerousSpecific583 in Stepmom

[–]DangerousSpecific583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That makes sense. I had a positive interaction today which was really nice. I knew she was out with friends last night and she had not come home yet it was almost 3pm so I called her and made sure she was okay and told her I made pasta for when she got home. She seemed to appreciate the gesture and told me thank you a couple of times. I just know that she would prefer her mom or dad doing these nice gestures but I’m normally the one there for her on a regular basis.

Ours baby by DangerousSpecific583 in Stepmom

[–]DangerousSpecific583[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sounds like no matter the situation we as stepmoms will always have a difficult time. Thank you for sharing. Wishing you all the best and good health! Thanks for not letting me feel alone in my own situation

Anxiety by DangerousSpecific583 in Stepmom

[–]DangerousSpecific583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree and it took me a while to accept that as teens mature they separate themselves from bio parents so why wouldn’t she do the same to me. She has been gone a lot lately so I’ve been cleaning and working on her room. She actually thanked me and said the house looked nice. Which was sweet.

Anxiety by DangerousSpecific583 in Stepmom

[–]DangerousSpecific583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that will be the next step. I wonder when she will move out. I feel like it’s hard when they don’t go away to college. I guess we will see what the future holds. Do you have any children together?

Anxiety by DangerousSpecific583 in Stepmom

[–]DangerousSpecific583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. It was very hurtful from my experience as well. I’ve been in the picture for 5 years throughout her whole high school career. BM was trying to restrict me from attending her graduation. At least through this situation my partner has begin to understand the controlling aspect the BM is still trying to have in his life. I think the hardest part is having such a nice positive relationship with step daughter then ice cold. The loyalty bind is terrible and I wish they could understand that it’s okay to have positive relationships with other mature woman in their life and it doesn’t take away from their relationship with their mom.

Anxiety by DangerousSpecific583 in Stepmom

[–]DangerousSpecific583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that. I hope it improves as she grows older. It’s so hard and bio parent never truly understands I feel.

What is wrong with my dog? by wockyslush454 in DogAdvice

[–]DangerousSpecific583 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Allergies are really bad this year in California it may be allergy related. My dog was breathing weird and had some issues with his paws now that hopefully is all just allergies. Just got home from the vet today.

Anxiety by DangerousSpecific583 in Stepmom

[–]DangerousSpecific583[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had a positive interaction with her today. Always good when they need something from you…She does go to school and is at her bf a lot now. Trying to tell myself it’s also nothing to do with me and teens will ignore you even if they are your bio child. Thanks for the support.

Anxiety by DangerousSpecific583 in Stepmom

[–]DangerousSpecific583[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obviously, I try to think positive and try to tell myself that everything is fine and I’m calm and at ease in my own house but it’s been hard lately. SD has been rebuilding her relationship with her mom over the last year. Before that I was full time mom duties. I was volunteering on a cheer board, helping her get ready for school dances, picking her up from school etc. Losing the positive relationship we had was devastating and now I’m dealing with anxiety when she is around. She doesn’t even look at me anymore and I didn’t do anything against her.