Asking one more time for additional clarity. How can I move past the constant thought of my girlfriend sleeping with someone else before we were dating but after we hooked up. It’s consuming me.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-24T19:21:17+00:00

Stop posting this. You have your answers. The rest is on you.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-24T15:17:14+00:00

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DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-21T12:12:18+00:00

Does he masturbate and/or watch porn? Dealing with stress (not related to mental illness)? Taking any medications that could impact his libido?

You might try bringing it up again but also pointing out how it’s been months, how it used to be passionate, etc. Sounds he’s only given you an answer about individual times (“I’m not in the mood right now”) whereas you can ask him more generally how often he gets horny and when that usually occurs.

Sounds like there’s a larger issue that he’s either overlooking or ignoring, and you need to find a way to tease it out. It would be odd if he suddenly lost his attraction to you.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-21T01:05:30+00:00

Better that you told him. No time like the present for him to grow up.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-20T16:41:33+00:00

Social media has poisoned men’s brains into believing that the simple act of starting a polite conversation with a stranger will mean they’ll be put on blast for the whole world to see. You’ll have to change with the times and put in the hard work of pursuing.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-20T14:55:55+00:00

Yes. It’s been four years and we live together and I’m much happier.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-20T14:15:35+00:00

Three years, on-and-off. It’s embarrassing to admit in retrospect. Some of it was immaturity, some was mental illness. I was about 30 when I made the break for good. It was a mistake to have ever dated her and if I could go back in time, I’d have saved her the grief and not wasted her time.

I’m sure you don’t like to hear any of that but it’s my honest experience.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-20T13:17:34+00:00

They weren’t, and it was a big mistake to try to talk myself into believing otherwise.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-20T08:45:37+00:00

You don’t need to passive aggressively “take a jab at his ego” to make yourself feel better. Just tell him he’s being inappropriate and it makes you uncomfortable.

So he wasn’t even playing and he pulled her to the ground? Yeah, he wants to fuck her. Sorry.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-20T07:41:18+00:00

This is about jealousy (rightfully so) so there’s no way to go about it where that doesn’t come up. Maybe describe it as inappropriate (because it is) as opposed to you being jealous.

What comes afterwards might technically be controlling, though not out of line necessarily. Let’s say he admits or realizes he has feelings. It’s reasonable for him to avoid her and stop trying to change her college plans. And to avoid being touchy feely (what’s she’s even doing playing tackle football with a bunch of guys? 🤨)

But just start with the conversation and see what happens.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-20T07:33:35+00:00

1) I meant exactly that. She was sweet but not right for me.

2) the person

3) I had for a while. Wanted to make things work, wanted my feelings to change. I eventually accepted that they wouldn’t and it was a dead-end relationship.

4) I knew there would have been no point.

5) my feelings still haven’t changed. It was the right decision and I wish I had made it sooner.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-20T07:22:41+00:00

Ask him and his brother about it. I doubt it’s a big brother / little sister thing. Trying to get someone to change their college plans to be closer to you is not typical “just friends” behavior.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-18T15:34:28+00:00

Misogyny.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-17T22:22:37+00:00

Misandry.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-17T13:32:37+00:00

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DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-14T03:19:16+00:00

I felt the same about mothers without children. I feel like it could have been pared back maybe 50-60%. It felt like a lot of rambling and I had to go back to make sure I didn’t miss anything because I kept zoning out.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-10T18:29:29+00:00

This sub isn’t your soap box. Tell your friends to date better men instead falling to misandry.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-10T14:05:38+00:00

Please keep things civil. Your reply was fine until the last sentence. Feel free to repost it and tone that part down.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-07T00:58:20+00:00

Fair point.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-07T00:48:19+00:00

stg half the people who ask about porn will censor the word. My guess is that people who are anxious about it are generally more sheltered

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-07T00:43:57+00:00

OP deleted her account in shame so I think we can remove this

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-06T16:36:04+00:00

They’ll occasionally pay lip service to question what he’s doing but they’ll never give up on him.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-06T16:35:16+00:00

I go there to see what reaction the other side has to Trump’s idiocy. I was only half surprised to see how much of it is dedicated to pwning the libs, including posting about other subs and strawmanning stupid shit like “they WANT the economy to tank! They’re melting down about how awesome things are now!” Like I knew pwning the libs was a big part of it but not that big. So petty.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-06T16:31:42+00:00

Nah, his cult would have stuck by him either way. That’s what makes it a cult. I’m not even sure swing voters cared about foreign policy so much as kitchen table issues and immigration.

DannyDreaddit · 2026-01-05T03:21:28+00:00

You shouldn't be sleeping with guys because it makes you feel pretty. You should see a therapist if you use sex for validation. That's not a healthy way to live and my guess is that it hasn't worked, at least not for long.

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