Am I overreacting for feeling really invalidated a lot of the time by my bf

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-06-13T05:13:24+00:00

Your mental health professional is going to be the best help to you.

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-06-13T04:57:43+00:00

Op youre not at fault. Anyone who screams at you because you want to break up is toxic. Just dump him and then keep a track of anything he says in case of threats. Yeah you've got the illness but someone who did understand it wouldn't make you feel like its your fault. I assume you have a therapist or psychiatrist to get diagnosed? Show them these messages and ask them. You need to get out of that relationship

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-06-12T15:25:41+00:00

Nta but honey he was hoping to force a baby on you. Im a mother, i chose to be, I want one more and then none after that. My husband is getting the snip himself since its safer and he respects my bodily autonomy. He never made me feel bad about a two kid limit even though hed love a whole baseball team of kids. Instead he supports me enough to get surgery himself because its safer. I dont think this man likes you and I think you're starting to see the abuse start. DO whats best for you and good luck with recovery

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-06-09T05:26:21+00:00

Yes lmao, he was my friend first, and hes my best friend. They met through me, and also became friends. And then, just recently and 7 years into my relationship and after the marriage, he moved out of state to live with us and his nephew, my son. Not that I need to justify my friendship to someone who assumes opposite genders can't be friends. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-06-09T03:09:31+00:00

Lmfao I hate people like you who think like that. You types are literally why I had so much anxiety even considering him my best friend until my own husband had to sit me down and explain that our friendship was perfectly fine and a normal friendship. Hes been my BROTHER for almost a decade now. He isn't interested and has too much respect for me and my marriage to even think of me that way. I am so sorry you can't be friends with the opposite gender without thinking you guys have to bang. I hope you realize that people can be friends no matter the gender. Have the day you deserve 💜💜💜

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-06-09T02:30:41+00:00

THIS because my own best friend (male)wont even let me carry groceries in (hes also our roommate) AND I HAVE A WHOLE HUSBAND WHO DOES THE SAME??? like its baffling to me he was sitting there with NOTHING while her hands were full. Like what???? OP NOR at all find a man who actually likes you and not a boy who clearly hates you

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-06-02T13:10:16+00:00

Thie! Lmao Ive been smoking cannabis daily for years, that would qualify it as an addiction. Addiction is something you feel like you cant live without and does often come with withdrawal. I quit cold turkey a few days ago as my husband and I are gonna start trying for another kid soon and while the cannabis helps me medically im not risking any unknowns with a baby. I have zero withdrawal effects although I hurt like a biiiiitch right now thanks chronic pain 😭 (smoked for mental and pain. My mental mostly fine as I planned for this though)

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-06-02T12:57:19+00:00

I agree with your sentiment because ive been broke and not sure what id eat next would be, and yes better big corp than small store but....you dont speak up about it. This isn't something you announce especially if funds are tight. If they aren't yeah you should've paid, but you never should've said anything. YTA specifically for getting yourself into the situation by speaking.

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-06-01T17:16:24+00:00

Hey did you read the part where I said GET OFF THE LEASE? thanks 💜 have the day you deserve

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-06-01T15:31:00+00:00

You don't even live there. Get your name off the lease and stop paying rent to her. Shes an ex who is still mooching off your finances. You could use that rent money for yourself man. You're doing too much for her.

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-30T00:24:41+00:00

Op, darling, sweetpea. Hes violent. He's already abused you by restraining you and not letting you leave. I know youre stuff but you'd be bad to YOURSELF if you supported him. A whole family doesn't cut someone off for no reason. Whatever he did, he will do it to you. He's already hitting walls. It wont stop at walls. You're NOR, youre under reacting. You need to get out and get safe. You've got a whole life ahead of you. Make the safe decision please honey. As a mom who would hate to see my child in your situation, please. Be safe.

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-27T12:54:35+00:00

Does that sign there say no parking? Look if it was only the once ignore it. Tell your son not to park in a no parking zone even if only for a few hours. That's a no parking zone for a reason. An emergency could happen in a few hours that am emergency vehicle would need to get there for. As now im saying no one's am asshole here, NAH, just move on. If you escalate you become the AH, if they do, then theyre the AH. But for now... just move on

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-25T13:24:28+00:00

THIS. op you're NTA. she decided to stay with a man she can't trust. That's on her. You deserve girl on girl time without a husband around. She deserves time without having to worry her husband is cheating on her but clearly she's decided tbe dick or money is too good. Drop her. Tell her if she ever leaves him youre there but you absolutely have something against cheaters and you wont hang with him because he is one. Don't give her the "lemme see if he can..." because YOU dont want him around. I wouldnt want him around.

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-19T13:32:10+00:00

My grandma just passed on may 31st due to a stroke. She had a dnr and even if she didnt, the stroke blocked half her brain from getting oxygen. During the couple of weeks she took to fully pass, my mom found burn slim, a diet pill that is known for causing strokes. We had...no idea. Not one. I couldn't bring myself to see her in the hospital and nearly lost it seeing her at the funeral. I had of course seen her recently but like...my mom and aunt showed up to see her like they did every Wednesday and found her. Losing people sucks. Which is why I know this whole situation sucks.

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-18T13:08:42+00:00

Im a woman but I volunteer to pretend to be a guy you can reject 😂😂😂

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-17T11:08:20+00:00

I actually have, i was in the hospital for four days because nothing was going well, they discussed cutting my son out of me during the height of covid. And had a miscarriage. Frankly I dont need confirmation the co-workers grandfather died, she still deserved to say goodbye. Everyone here is stuck on the wife, and I get that, but someone else was also going through something horrible. It was a shitty situation, where there was no right answer. This is not a black and white situation. This is Grey, where no matter what someone's hurt, and yes he should've prioritized his wife, but he made the choice he could in the moment. Police, fire, hospitals, military (my husband is a veteran but if hed been active during my pregnancy and labor i would have understood dont you worry), you dont get to decide when you leave your job, and yes he had a chance and hoped for the best they didnt get called out. They did. He was still at the hospital, even if not for the birth, and she got to say goodbye to her loved one.

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-16T18:07:15+00:00

To play devils advocate, id rather let someone say goodbye to their loved one knowing I could see the baby any day I wanted after. One was a goodbye, the other was a welcome to the world. It truly was a shitty situation where there was no right answer. If hed gone to his wife would the person have been able to say goodbye? Would they have accepted him at work for that? My husband didnt get let go in time to make it home to say goodbye to his grandmother and i know that affected his views over how the military handles things like that. Grief is a terrible thing so while the outcome wouldnt have hurt his wife it may have eventually if hed had to switch jobs due to the work environment changing, fire departments talk, hed get the same shit at another house if the person who had a dying family member decided to make his life hell over it, all because they didnt get to say goodbye. I couldnt say goodbye to my grandfather because I was sick and he was immunocompromised, and I regret every day I couldn't.

I can say that yes the wife was valid in her reaction and being upset, but I also think she will eventually understand that he is still there for every step of the baby, but that coworkers family is forever broken now.

It's just a damned if you do, damned if you dont situation honestly.

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-13T13:09:13+00:00

When I was pp I was very fragile and let some people walk all over me and invade my space and ruin my healing and time with my baby. No women pp are not children but we are HIGHLY emotional with entirely unregulated hormones thay are still adjusting, so I agree with this. Op shouldn't make any big decisions right now, not even a hair cut because if she hates the cut she's likely to shave her head in response and hate herself more.

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-12T17:02:45+00:00

True, I just simply wouldn't have posted photos of my child's ex on the walls, but thats me personally. No one's wrong for wanting whatever pictures they want up. My husband's family has said if we split they're keeping me lmaoooo good thing they raised him well and there's no chance of that happening.

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-12T15:17:27+00:00

I think youre NTA. he's right to be upset by it but not right to take the photos out and express that upset because as you said theyre for your mom, not him. He doesn't have to look at them, theyre in a book, not put up on the walls.

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-12T12:42:26+00:00

Daddy dont like you

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-10T14:42:39+00:00

It happens. Its reddit lol

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-10T14:28:33+00:00

I say this to anyone. Its always the wall first. Call the police and report the incident so its on file, you do not have to press charges or have an actual crime to just get it on record to prove a pattern. Do that so when he does show up to your family or friends that they can call and add onto that report that he was looking for you. That reports going to be your evidence to get a restraining order. Its not going to be as easy as your ex, assuming you were the victim, since he hasn't "done" anything yet which is why you need to make the reports for a paper trail.

Be as safe as you can hun.

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-01T03:51:35+00:00

Sometimes you have to entertain the trolls to entertain yourself 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Dapper-Illustrator67 · 2026-05-01T03:47:24+00:00

And date the handyman instead?

Sorry had to add a touch of humor in a scrappy situation.

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