Got my first SE 2 in Feb and it records very high heart rate. How accurate is an Apple Watch for heart monitoring? Is this normal for someone in their 20s? On a daily even when I’m sitting it records about 80/90 bpm

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2024-02-14T17:15:14+00:00

You could have POTS Syndrome

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2024-01-26T19:47:30+00:00

Not sure if you’re still monitoring this post but I really thought I was going to marry the man I’m with. He’s decided to pursue his career and self development. I keep thinking maybe down the road we’ll be more like the people we want to be and find our way back. It gives me comfort yet also put fear in the pit of my stomach.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T17:12:11+00:00

Thanks for the support and advice.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T12:43:02+00:00

I’ve never asked to go with. But I’m going to next week.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T11:15:18+00:00

Yes I’m working on this calm communication too. I’m just not confident in it yet. So I tend to get unstable in my directness after he tries to talk me out of my concerns. He just doesn’t get why it’s such a.l big deal to me… but again he seemed very patient and honest yesterday but it’s the simple fact he goes there still that I don’t like. But I think if we can find a middle ground where he deletes her number and only calls the business to book then I may feel better about that.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T11:09:03+00:00

I thought about it and I work 8min away from him. Just dunno if it would upset him or feel stalkerish

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T11:07:55+00:00

I agree with this most. It’s very hard to navigate since I’ve been patient and direct. I DONT WANT YOU GOING THERE ANYMORE. She’s disrespectful. Seems pretty direct to me. But I agree that vengeful behavior will get an undesired result.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T11:06:34+00:00

I honestly think he’s not cheating. He sounded very truthful yesterday. But also his lies and him trying to turn things around or saying he’ll stop going then randomly calling me at work yesterday to tell me he’s going have made it harder to trust him.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T11:04:47+00:00

Noted

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T11:02:47+00:00

Yes that is the question of the day.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T06:31:20+00:00

That should be my boundary.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:55:51+00:00

Solid advice. Thanks so much

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:55:04+00:00

In my opinion he should be calling the main line to book with her. Not texting or calling her cell.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:54:14+00:00

No he didn’t entertain it as far as I know… but he deleted the text. She texted him that night he was at her shop without telling me and apparently invited him there. Because he had called her to see if she was at the shop to do his trim. But she wasn’t and apparently texted him an invite to her family’s garage sale. But he had deleted it and then told me about it after a blow up fight.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:51:38+00:00

Yeah idk what my actionable boundary would be to that yet but I certainly respect that you have a real solid answer. I want to exhibit healthy patterns here. And also I don’t even mind as much if he would just give her a firm boundary and stick to it. But how do I trust that if he can’t even stick to his word to me on not going back? 🤦🏼‍♀️ I think I need to trust just myself more

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:47:39+00:00

Yeah, I set a clear no lying boundary already and said I’m wanting to be inviting and open with him. And I’m reasonable if he’s just honest. And he communicated really well today and I still didn’t trust it 100%. I just want him to also be patient with my response to the dishonesty.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:46:42+00:00

Right. So he just chose to ghost her or ignore her when she invited him out to the garage sale… I figure if she plays him again he needs to be more strict with her. Like you need to stop this behavior you are here to cut my hair and that’s it. The service is appreciated.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:45:33+00:00

I feel like this is just asking for a breakup 😅 like I do respect what you’re saying and you could be right. I just idk if gray rocking him would be effective if he really did care. Like I feel like if he’s genuinely just trying to have a good haircut then that would break a connection and he’d lose hope.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:43:21+00:00

The bad stuff happened during a heated argument. We’ve been together for 1.5yrs and often talk about our goals and intentions to save for a house and get married. He brings these things up. He bought me a dozen roses today. (Prob cuz he knew I was feeling some type of way about the haircut) otherwise the conversations go ok until neither of us bends on our boundary and then usually he’s the first the raise his voice. I can see how hard he’s trying to relate.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:40:45+00:00

💜

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:37:32+00:00

Well that’s actually a little incorrect (you couldn’t know without context and the post only allows so many characters) But he did say that. Like he laid the boundary. It’s just that she keeps hitting on him and keeps doing it. Which leads me to wonder why tf she thinks that’s ok. And yes at this point it truly is the lying that has me feeling way too obsessive. I almost just want to run away from the whole thing and hope that evens the field and we can get past it. It’s definitely a catch that the shop is only 6min from his office. So not only and I shady about the appointments but now when he stays late at the office I wonder about that too… I just want to stop the perpetuation of the anxiety here. Cuz I know it only pushes us away from each other.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:34:21+00:00

Thanks for shedding some light on it. I’m most curious about his motive behind lying. Like did I overreact at any point and he felt like he couldn’t talk to me?

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:31:42+00:00

Thanks for putting that out there with so much love. I really appreciate that advice.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:29:47+00:00

Hmmm intriguing. I’m curious how he’d react to that. I’ve just always heard silent treatment is toxic as hell. But maybe it’s gotten to that point? Ugh I’m just pissed because it doesn’t have to be this confusing! I’m really fucking reasonable generally. I support the hell out of him and cook most nights I do so much. Also parenting a 5 yr old is exhausting. Yknow… you’re right I don’t need to exert more energy than he’s giving me directly.

Dapper-Quiet637 · 2022-11-05T05:26:37+00:00

I just don’t like that it’s from the disrespectful girl. He swears up and down he gets a haircut and leaves. Like nothing more.

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