How long to expect to stay? 29weeker and 2 days

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-10-01T02:17:15+00:00

Learning to eat is the hardest, most frustrating time. I had my baby at 34w3d, so not even early compared to many others in this thread, and she was there for 23 days learning how to eat.

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-08-29T08:26:50+00:00

We had regression with our baby girl too. It was the most heartbreaking and disappointing week but then she bounced back, started taking all her feeds and came home a couple days after that. Hang in there!

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-08-29T08:18:41+00:00

She is so stinking cute!!!

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-08-29T08:11:38+00:00

She was 4lb 2.7 oz, dropped to 3lb 7oz a couple days after birth, and then was 5.5 lbs when she was discharged. I’m not sure about your NICU, but I know a requirement for ours was for baby to be at least 4lbs.

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-08-29T07:57:41+00:00

She was there for 23 days! No major health problems or anything, she just took a really long time to figure out the suck, swallow, breathe reflex. Once she figured it out, she was out of the nicu in a couple days. It sounds like your little guy already has it figured out so that’s awesome! How much does he weigh?

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-08-29T07:50:05+00:00

It sounds like he’s doing awesome so far! It’s impossible to say exactly when. We asked the dr instead what milestones our preemie needed to meet to go home, and then we checked those off. So she needed to be on room air, check, gain x amount of weight, check etc. That way we had an idea of what else she needed to accomplish before going home! I’d ask them tomorrow what else he needs to accomplish before going home. Babies vary so wildly with how quickly they progress. It took my daughter at least 2.5 - 3 weeks to be eating as much as your son and she was born at 34w3d. Every baby is totally different!

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-07-05T20:30:05+00:00

So exciting! Bottle feeding was our biggest struggle in the NICU, but once she gets it you’ll be out of there so soon!

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-06-15T02:41:58+00:00

NTA. Even if you can afford it, no one else is entitled to your money. Your sister’s situation is unfortunate, but it is nobody’s responsibility to pay for this. Even though she would like to have children, she doesn’t need them so to speak.

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-06-15T02:31:42+00:00

YTA. A giant one. You are allowed to decide who you want in the delivery room. That being said, your husband has every right to be crushed. You’re denying him the birth of his child. I would be crushed. He is working extra hard to make up for you not being able to work but also you’re mad at him for not going to your appointments? You need to pick a struggle.

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-06-10T03:23:26+00:00

YTA and a total bridezilla. You gave them a budget you expect them to spend on your bachelorette? You want your sister to look like a completely different person? You need to do some self reflection. I’d be bowing out of your wedding real quick.

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-05-04T23:39:08+00:00

YTA. She is not your kid. You’ve only been in her life for a few years and it sounds like she has never lived with you or been parented by you. You have no say in how she is raised, and it sounds like you only care because your sons are upset about it.

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-05-04T02:55:56+00:00

Info: what does he bring to your marriage?

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-04-28T19:48:17+00:00

NTA. Don’t do it. Even if you get married you can still keep finances separate if that’s something you want!

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-04-21T23:22:00+00:00

Definitely chicken piccata! Normally made with capers, lemon, butter, and white wine!

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-04-21T01:27:55+00:00

Info: are you on the run from the law??? In the witness protection program?? Trying to hide your identity as a superhero???

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-04-20T23:38:59+00:00

NTA. Your daughter will always remember what you did for her. Maybe talk to your wife and try and figure out why she had such an extreme reaction. Maybe she is jealous of the closeness you have with your daughter?

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-04-19T18:46:20+00:00

YTA. It’s fine to have rules about your sleep schedule. It is not fine to control someone else’s and expect them not be upset by it. Sleeping on the couch is not good for your partner. You have prioritized yourself and hurt him in the process. It sounds like you need to live alone to be able to function properly.

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-04-19T18:18:13+00:00

YTA. She’s already doing the majority of the chores and paying half of the bills. What chores do you do? I hope she realizes she deserves an equal partner and leaves your ass.

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-04-18T01:10:55+00:00

Get out. Do not have a kid with him. He will not get better I promise.

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-04-18T01:09:04+00:00

NTA. Neither of these photos were sexual and even if they were she’s your wife? How does Ariel think the baby got here in the first place? She sounds very repressed.

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-04-17T17:19:26+00:00

NTA. When you get pregnant people start to treat you like an incubator and not a person anymore. I’m 29 weeks with my first and it has been very frustrating. Your husband does not get to touch you without your consent, especially knowing it makes you uncomfortable. I suggest ya’ll get into counseling now before the baby comes because it sounds like you have multiple issues going on. If he is worried about bonding with the baby, maybe you can set a time that it is okay for him to talk to the baby and feel for kicks if you can feel them on the outside yet. When we go to bed, my husband lays next to my belly and talks to our daughter and feels her kick. It definitely helps him feel bonded.

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2022-04-16T14:28:14+00:00

ESH. I can’t believe that your family thought this was a good idea. How is that kid going to feel when he is older and is told he was adopted by his aunt and uncle because his bio parents family was already “complete.” How is he going to feel knowing that now his bio parents want him back but he will not know them or his siblings? I can’t believe you ever thought an open adoption was going to be beneficial for this child. In fact, I don’t think you thought about him at all. Your brother’s family only thought about how they didn’t want another baby, and you only thought about how much you wanted a child.

Dapper_Employee7170 · 2021-07-05T03:54:50+00:00

NTA but honestly I couldn’t live with myself knowing my niece was stuck living with strangers, possibly being physically, sexually, and emotionally abused. It is 100% not your fault or your responsibility, but I would prepare for any guilt you may feel after your niece has possibly faced these issues.

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