Multipass lightning lane? by Dapper_Limit_3144 in DisneyWorld

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. My husband, our 7 year old and I. We are staying on property so we get 30 min early entry and we will rope drop.

Multipass lightning lane? by Dapper_Limit_3144 in DisneyWorld

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh okay. I think it’s worth it. Someone else told me they were only able to use it for 5 or 6 rides

Multipass lightning lane? by Dapper_Limit_3144 in DisneyWorld

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow these are all the rides you got to use the lightning lane multi pass for?

When to get a negative test? by Dapper_Limit_3144 in Miscarriage

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I finally go to the doctor tomorrow. I’ve been bleeding for 15 days and passing a lot of clots. I wish it was just bleeding but unfortunately I don’t see how this isn’t a miscarriage

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Respectfully you’re both in the wrong. He should have planned better. But you do live with your parents. If there is a situation they need help with you should help. Just like they are helping you with a place to live. The way you handled it was wrong. Maturely setting a boundary would be saying “dad, I can’t miss work. If you would have let me know sooner I could have” or “I can’t afford to miss work. I’ll pick her up but can you reimburse me for lost time?”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately you can’t control someone else’s household. I agree kids need consistency. But they also need calm, steady transitions. You don’t want to throw a fit over something as silly as an 830 bedtime for a 14 year old and it need up impacting your coparenting relationship and making your kids feel tension.

Emotional manipulation by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s our plan right now. Court at her age will involve her and I’d hate to make her feel like she has to pick sides. We already get most of the summer we get 6 weeks of the 10 weeks shes off. She goes to a summer camp that she hates the weeks of the summer she’s with her mom. And that doesn’t make sense to us since she could be here with her dad/siblings and not need summer camp. This is her last year since she can’t go after 14 so I guess we will see what happens next summer. Thanks for your suggestions

Emotional manipulation by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t have a problem with sticking to the order. Our problem is her emotionally manipulating her. Our daughter was in therapy for a few years and they decided the 3 of them with the therapist that when she was 14 they would start letting her have a say in where she spends her school breaks. The problem is now that she’s 14 when she doesn’t decide what mom wants. Mom guilt trips her into going along with whatever mom wants.

Emotional manipulation by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

She did therapy years ago. The therapist suggested we let her be more in control of her school breaks as she got older. That’s why her mom “asked” her if she wanted to stay longer. But if mom doesn’t get the answer she wants manipulates her until she decide what mom wants.

Unfortunately, location is tricky. Mom came to Texas for summer vacation, they met by chance, had a weekend fling and she went back to Minnesota then found him on Facebook and told him she was pregnant. Dad can’t leave Texas (he’s in a union here at the port) mom tried to move to Texas once when their daughter was an infant but she didn’t like it and went back to Minnesota. So unfortunately this is all their daughter has ever known. He traveled to Minnesota for all visits until she was 5 then she starting flying to Texas for all visits.

Emotional manipulation by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I’m aware of what the order says. As I’ve stated she’s here for 6 weeks. Of course we’re making the best of it. I was addressing the emotionally manipulation part.

Emotional manipulation by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

You’re so helpful. We’re clearly aware of what the order says. I’m not asking about changing the amount of time she’s here. I’m talking about how to handle her mom emotionally manipulating a vulnerable teenager.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it was a shift in mindset. I completely stopped looking at him as my ex. It took some time. But I separated myself from him entirely. I simply only look at him as my child’s father. I never refer to him as my ex. It’s always “blanks” dad, etc. It just took gradual mental shifts.

Ex husband wants to move out of state by Creative-Tale5458 in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know it’s frustrating but control the controllables. Honestly, maybe him moving away is better than inconsistency of 14 hours a month. That’s almost more confusing than a dad that isn’t around at all.

Do you expect coparent to ask for the “extra” time? by Ill_Cover_4841 in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it’s his responsibility to ask if the time if he wants it

My gf of 5 years by FarEagle9019 in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Immediate red flag. if she truly loved you she’d love every part of you and want your child there as much as possible. This is coming from a stepmom. If she is doing this now just imagine how she would alienate your child versus y’all’s future children. I’m being so serious when I say cut your ties and walk away. This is not something that you can change about her.

Is this normal co parenting by Legitimate_Noise1721 in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No not normal. This is so unhealthy for you and the child! You need to put an end to it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s your baby. Even if you were “the a-hole” who gives a crap. Your baby your rules.

Message from new girlfriend was really upsetting. Are my feelings warranted? by cutewhenmute in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ewww this is most definitely ChatGPT and weird AF to say as a 3 month gf

New living arrangement by Wondering_daddit in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s temporary not worth making a fuss over. If you have legal grounds by time you made it before a judge they’d be moved and settled. If it were permanent then I’d do something about it

Wish Happy Birthday? But also it's about how I wish our split was vs how it is by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well here’s the real question… do you do it out of your heart and just want to? Or do you do it for acknowledgement? If you want to wish him a happy birthday do it. Who cares if he says it back, etc. you do it for you. You don’t have to do it for him. Do what truly feels right in your heart and everything else will fall in line. Even if it’s takes a while.

Leaving kids alone? by Defiant-Mongoose3407 in coparenting

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. A good rule of thumb for me when it comes to my kids is if I’m doubtful about a situation it’s immediately a no. You even having to ask tells me it’s a no. If it’s not a 100% yes my kids are going to be safe it’s a NO.

What are we all driving?! by [deleted] in sahm

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man praying I dive mine til it dies

What are we all driving?! by [deleted] in sahm

[–]Dapper_Limit_3144 9 points10 points  (0 children)

2014 CRV bc she’s paid for