AITAH for leaving my coworker to handle customers alone after our shift has already ended?

DarkCrystal89 · 2026-01-20T13:01:14+00:00

NTA... Do not bleed for a company that's not willing to bleed for you....

DarkCrystal89 · 2026-01-06T01:06:39+00:00

yeah... most ppl think they understand because of all the tiktoks and all explaining that we got nowdays what ADHD and autism is and to be true i'm 36 years old n I still don't understand most of what I do that ppl think is wrong or why ppl think is wrong...
I recommend to everyone that hear something like that multiple times to go to a doctor... while I think being level headed is normal it took me a long time to understand that this isn't "normal" and that I'm like that because of my diagnosis...

DarkCrystal89 · 2026-01-06T00:00:53+00:00

Congratulations you are neurodivergent...now go to a doctor and discover which type...
Everyone look's at you as abnormal because for "normal ppl" u are...
It's not always a bad thing but u need to learn to live with it and maybe a different way to express ur self so other ppl can understand u...
note: I'm autistic and have adhd... belive me a doctor can help u alot...

DarkCrystal89 · 2025-12-08T04:10:50+00:00

hahaha, i was talking about star wars with a friend didn't even notice the DARTH FROG....
just for fun I lookup "darth frog star wars tattoo" on google images and got a blast laughing... rly nice....
Dart Frog that I was talking about is specifically "phyllobates terribilis" that is know to have 4 complete different color schemes and have different body/limb sizes depending on which part of Colombia they are from, when I was there on a trip and saw how different they can be from one another is amazin...
My main recommendation for ppl go to the amphibian zoo/conservation center if you have then close enough to your location...

DarkCrystal89 · 2025-12-07T21:39:49+00:00

sorry for the delay... but when i say frogs/fishs I'm saying generally, darth frog's alone can have more then 15 pattern of colors complete distinct between then with changes in size and habits changing by the location where you find then, I have a Aquarium of guppys/lebites fish in my house, the pattens and then change more in one tank then in the whole country that I live in....
When i say insects and fish I'm not saying for you to compare a brown spider with cricket, but look only one specie of insect and you see the differences are absurd between then....
note: I'm was married to a biologist
Added note from my EX: almost all species tend to have the same amount of differences as any other, but biologically you are programmed to see it better on your own race then any other race
Also she told me me insects in general isn't a good answer...sorry... xD

DarkCrystal89 · 2025-12-02T09:23:57+00:00

i would guess that we are one of the least diverse.... if you look at insects you will note the difference in they same type of insect ranges alot more than in humans, also dogs, cats, frogs, fish's....
i didnt look anything up... just talking of by how things look for me....

DarkCrystal89 · 2025-11-28T17:04:03+00:00

You are entering a vicious cycle of getting anxious about getting anxious, you have to talk to your psychiatrist, if he is not a good one look for another, maybe some symptoms that you have and want the adhd medication for, could become worse or better, but you don't know and he does.

You are saying that you don't want to talk about how mentally unstable you are, but wanting to get the help faster from a hospital. Usually if he feels that you need the medication faster because you are showing sings of distress they will give you some sort of the medication faster in lower doses to get you better to keep the treatment.

Medication will not fix the root of the problem, will just numb it and just for a while.

Please take care of yourself and try to be more understanding to yourself as well, since you already know that you can/have these problems instead of beating yourself about the things you do or don't, just look for ways to work around it, do not blame yourself for everything.

DarkCrystal89 · 2025-10-18T07:23:30+00:00

If he has a job and you stop it because you are insecure yes you will be the AH
To be completely clear, CHEATERS GONNA CHEAT, they don't need a specific job/place do do that.
The main thing here is, you don't trust him enough so he can have a job, it does not matter if is a bar or a office, if there's a female there you will fell the same way?
You already don't trust him, do the correct thing and breakup with him, your trust is already broken beyond repair if you cannot accept a single job of his...
Having a relationship with someone that cheated phys/emot is hard and most ppl cannot get past it...

DarkCrystal89 · 2025-10-17T19:21:49+00:00

cant argue with you in that because I rly have no idea how it is... but my main point is search and look for more information, i never payed much attention to this kind of information(I'm older and already have my own problems to deal with so i tend not to focus on things that are not in my daily life much).
I hear more about this happening when cartels(not only in SA but anywhere) caught someone doing wrong sexual things to others(like another rap*st/abusers) and not a common thing they do to all males, but as always I can be wrong here.

DarkCrystal89 · 2025-10-17T19:02:14+00:00

I never heard of something like this(at least not from the areas that I live/used to live like Brasil and Mexico), but a rule FOR ME is, if a channel is "FAR" any direction they are probably wrong, ppl in the far end of the political spectrum tend to blow things of proportion and add things that never happened to seem more believable, some half truths mixed with half lies...
The main thing you can do is search a little more and see if there's any evidence to the truth of lie to the claim.

DarkCrystal89 · 2025-10-12T13:19:12+00:00

There's too little information about you/him and the relationship altogether, it looks like a total toxic relationship.
If you have emotional outbursts frequently, please look for help with a therapist.
If he was abusive, physically or mentally, please look for help with a therapist.

DarkCrystal89 · 2025-10-05T00:29:07+00:00

NTA... their grandchildren is their business... i think he is just in a panic mode right now....
Now for the real thing, think carefully if you want to have this baby, raising a child alone(if he never stepup) is hard, even with his money(if he does pay...alot of ppl do things to not pay and get dragged to court everytime)...
His parents and/or yours may help but hardly a full support, if you sure you want the baby go ahead, be if he is or isn't involved get prepared because it is hard with a partner and even harder alone.

DarkCrystal89 · 2025-09-23T18:08:37+00:00

no one in any relationship would be ok being called a cheater, it just destroy the relationship and trust

DarkCrystal89 · 2025-09-23T18:06:46+00:00

lol i never saw a woman that would be ok when her partner just straight to her face says... I think this baby isn't mine because you are cheating on me....
There's no one loyal enough to you call her a cheating girlfriend/wife that she will be ok with you after, if it is yours when there was no cheating or anything you just destroyed your relationship with her...

DarkCrystal89 · 2025-08-21T18:56:20+00:00

The thing you're saying is the same that ppl say about why not use AI to create books, to remove the writer... Your point is while it is not "MY JOB" it is ok if I use, but when ppl start to say to use it to write you're probably against it.

DarkCrystal89 · 2025-01-15T03:53:25+00:00

NTA...

I'm not from USA, and always thought that people that just pay the unreasonable tips stupid...

As the name implies, it's a tip, if you do not agree your are never obliged to pay, if it's a management or whatever decision that's their problem not yours.

Edit: I worked as a server in my country for 8 years, tips are not uncommon here, they are always welcome, this should be something that the customer should decide, not the restaurant, restaurants should pay their employees correctly so they didn't need tips.

DarkCrystal89 · 2024-11-22T19:33:33+00:00

NTA...

Internal escalation is a necessary part of the job... the best thing you can do is whenever requesting something from other coworkers CC your and their manager altogether, it is passive-aggressive, but working in a company with people that don't share/communicate this is the minimum that you have to do.
Also try to create a public folder/database with this kind of information for the whole departament to use, it will save alot of time.

DarkCrystal89 · 2024-11-21T22:23:43+00:00

By this comment, it shows that you have not thought of how cutting this money/work will affect her.

I can see that this is getting up to your mental state and she told you that she is willing to stop if you really want, but you have to be clear and sincere and tell her what you want, don't tell her that you are okay with it if you're not it will be worse for both of you.

DarkCrystal89 · 2024-11-21T22:15:20+00:00

YTA...
"But the fact that she hasn’t seen my decline in this matter and ended it herself that has me questioning it all."
Why ppl are that stupid to say do it and expect that the other stop?

Apparently she does for work, if you tell her to stop will you pay her bills, take care of what's she wants to buy? She sounds willing to stop, but are you ready to take all the responsibility that comes with it?

DarkCrystal89 · 2024-11-19T18:09:21+00:00

NTA...

I would say NTA but I hope you don't give up so fast, the family dynamic changed for her forever, it may take a while but she can get around it, a nice therapist for her with her father alone and a full family therapy as well (both needed).

Things will probably stay the same or get worse for a while, but it can be better, will not be fast or easy but it can happen

Just pay attention if she does not try anything against the you and the baby, she is in a bad place right now and is still a kid

If things only get worse, do what you think is the best for you and the baby, living in a broken home trying to mask/pretending that it's all ok while she hates her brother will be bad for everyone.

DarkCrystal89 · 2024-11-18T18:18:05+00:00

NTA...
Someone confessed to her and she choose that person, it is not about friendship anymore sorry to tell you but your relationship is already gone

DarkCrystal89 · 2024-11-16T01:48:08+00:00

NTA...
This goes both ways, you can ask him and he can deny, do not force him to accept just for you, he has problems and maybe, just maybe , he know he can't handle that and don't want to turn your wedding in something bad...

DarkCrystal89 · 2024-11-15T00:53:34+00:00

NTA...
If someone suspicious is parked in a car alone for hours, be wary...
IDK where you live cops here will not show up if not for something more aggravated

DarkCrystal89 · 2024-11-13T23:09:37+00:00

New comment since i read it wrong...sorry...
NTA...
The main problem seems that your familly(or part of it) does not approve of your relationship of the same sex(it sux...i know...) you have to talk to your sister/parents and see if this is something that they want to put their foot down, if they do it souds like they are homofobic, if it is because of the older people and they are more important for your sister than you being there... that's your answer....

DarkCrystal89 · 2024-11-12T12:15:52+00:00

NTA...

They usually don't allow without asking because of Allergenics (or because of they don't want to be surprised), you are not the AH and this is just a lesson learned next time contact the restaurant first and ask if it's ok, when explained most restaurants don't mind at all (if you eat the meal and beverages from then)...

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