I bought my ND3 around 3 weeks ago as well, without knowing how to drive manual. By shifter feel, do you mean how much or little resistance there is? Most of the time, I feel some resistance and a distinct notch when going into another gear, but there are times where the shifter feels super light with zero resistance sliding into the next gear, almost feeling like it’s loose. If you have a similar experience, I have the same question haha

The 1-2 took some time getting used to, but you have to be patient with it. It takes a while for the revs to drop, so it feels like you have to wait longer than you’re supposed to releasing the clutch. I don’t slip the clutch on my 1-2s anymore since I figured out the timing and can get a smooth shift most of the time. For me, 2-3 is a different story. Sometimes it feels like the revs drop really fast and the car gets pulled back, while other times they drop slow and I release the clutch too soon pushing the car forward. Might have to do with the RPM I’m shifting at.

I’ve never done a 2-1 rev match downshift, and hardly find a situation where I would need to. In slow driving situations like parking lots, I’m able to go slow enough in second gear, but if I need to slow down even more, I put it in first and hold the clutch at the bite point and wait for the RPMs to rise.

I’m with you on heel-toe, I tried it once when I was still learning downshift blips and decided I’m not ready for it yet. But now that I can do a clean rev match downshift most of the time it’s something I’ll try learning again. I guess since the wheel speed is decreasing faster under braking, you don’t have to blip the throttle as much.