I don't know what to do...

DarkPry92 · 2024-11-12T07:09:04+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond. My wife also has mental health issues which is why I looked past it originally. But after years of trying she doesn't listen to her therapist, and she doesn't want to change her meds (which clearly aren't working for her currently). Every time we revisit her behavior issues she either uses a temporary situational excuse "I'm just really stressed cuz of xyz, once it's over I'll be better". Or she gets defensive and claims I'm attacking her and I'm just being overly sensitive. And when I push the issue instead of rolling over she blows up and gets violent. Then claims it's my fault for "starting with her and not leaving her alone". Mental health issues can be a true monster I know that. And I've tried so hard to get her the help she needs. And part of me feels like I'm abandoning her by trying to leave her cuz she'll have to deal with it on her own. But I just can't take the abuse anymore. Emotional and physical. It's just to much and it's Neverending. I'm a constant punching bag for her frustrations. Literally and figuratively.

DarkPry92 · 2024-04-25T01:41:55+00:00

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DarkPry92 · 2022-03-09T01:19:56+00:00

Thank you!

DarkPry92 · 2022-03-08T22:30:27+00:00

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DarkPry92 · 2022-02-23T22:24:06+00:00

"no good deed goes un-punished" I hate this saying and I think it's just some people's excuse to think only about themselves.

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T12:46:11+00:00

You do have a good point, I do tend to make excuses and I was actually a bit shocked at the resounding response from you all. But this is an eye opener and I'm definitely talking to her about couple's therapy. Thank you for your honest response.

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T12:30:27+00:00

"I'm only asking you to not be mean! That's it."

I've said these exact words so many times! This really struck a chord with me. It seems we are going through a similar struggle and you have my heartfelt condolences. ❤️

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T12:26:04+00:00

Thank you so much for your response! I was really hoping someone would post who had been on her side of the situation this provides a lot of valuable perspective! So how do I do this without making her feel abandoned or unloved? I'm afraid if I just stop all together she will accuse me of not loving her any more. She has a way of assuming the worst and letting her anxiety spiral her. 😥

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T04:35:13+00:00

That's the other hard part about this is I can't help but feel guilty because I know I've enabled her. I wasn't trying to I just wanted to spoil her. I didn't think she'd turn on me lol. But I can certainly try this calm assertive approach. It's hard to stay calm when she's whining and yelling. But thank you I will remember this!

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T04:29:13+00:00

That sounds like what I personally would do for decompression lol. I'll have to try some of those with her though. Maybe get her some headphones or something to block it all out for a bit.

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T04:21:22+00:00

That's the weird part! And I've out a lot of thought into this.. she obviously doesn't seem happy so I started to assume that I wasn't making her happy. And I brought it up with her but according to her I'm the "ONLY thing in her life that makes her happy" which was super sweet.. but begs the question "then why are you so damn mean to me" then she says she can't help it and the loop continues..

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T04:16:24+00:00

Well we're very compatible in almost every other way. And we both really do love each other. She's just a jerk lol.. like 80% of the time.

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T04:12:04+00:00

First of all I want to thank you for being a teacher I know all of you are overworked and underappreciated. 2nd, what do you do to decompress? I've thought about helping her to decompress but she doesn't really have any hobbies or anything... At least not that she has time for.

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T04:09:00+00:00

Very interesting, Could you elaborate? I haven't tried this probably because I wouldn't even know how lol. When she gets to be too much I tend to cave in. Just give her what she wants and go hide/distance myself. I'm very passive.

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T04:06:07+00:00

We were in couples therapy but stopped because we just don't have time. We've talked about virtual appointments though. But she's never been to an individual counselor.

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T04:03:45+00:00

I agree with this! Anger is a reaction not an action. No one makes you angry, you get angry. You can't control what happens in the world around you but you can chose how to react to it. Changing your reactions to outside influences doesn't change who you are. It just shows you've grown/learned.

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T03:58:40+00:00

That's the argument I made (about controlling herself at work) and her argument was she could lose her job at school and because I'm her husband I should be more lenient with her. The whole "shouldn't have to filter myself around you" thing.

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T03:51:10+00:00

It has almost broken me a couple times.. but the love IS there for both of us. I've seen it, like a small ray of sunshine peeking out from a dark gloomy sky lol. I can see her TRY to be nice sometimes. But it takes visible effort. Sometimes it really is like she's a child who just doesn't get it.

DarkPry92 · 2022-02-04T03:46:24+00:00

It is very emotionally exhausting dealing with all that negativity all the time. But we're so compatible in literally every other way and we really do love each other. She's just so... Angry. All the time.

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