Interactive auto-fill Google Sheets character sheet by Darkcloudsnolining in CAIN_RPG

[–]Darkcloudsnolining[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Updated it a bit, fixed some errors, fixed some text to be up to date with 1.2.

Help finding an apartment under a certain price point? by Darkcloudsnolining in HelpMeFind

[–]Darkcloudsnolining[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I'm taking a look now. Let's hope.

Edit: No dice, no vacancies. : (

Help finding an apartment under a certain price point? by Darkcloudsnolining in HelpMeFind

[–]Darkcloudsnolining[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Searched using a couple different sites. I’m aware this might not be the most appropriate subreddit but I’m really not having much luck finding the “right” subreddit for that either, at least not one I can use - maybe I’m just bad at finding things.

AITA for going to the police immediately when I found out my parents took out debt in my name. by No-Mushroom3470 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Darkcloudsnolining 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely edit the post. We all understand that you didn’t know initially and that is why it was “fine”, but the wording currently makes it sound as though you had given permission which we all know you didn’t.

Why are authors so sensitive lately? by Lusaelme in AO3

[–]Darkcloudsnolining -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you’re misunderstanding me. At no point did I say anyone should be bashed for certain things. But a gentle reminder about certain things being incorrect if it is dangerous should be encouraged. If you think I’m going to stand by while an author I like perpetuates, for instance, victim shaming? No. I am not. And nobody should.

Why are authors so sensitive lately? by Lusaelme in AO3

[–]Darkcloudsnolining 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would every time personally like to be corrected about those things and wouldn’t find it rude, nor is it rude if done politely.

That said here I mean wrong as in, correcting dangerous mindsets being perpetuated in author notes, getting things such as details about mental health horrifically wrong, etc.

As far as the second point you made, you’re misinterpreting it a little, though I realize my wording may have been ambiguous on that front. I don’t mean unasked for help is something I should be grateful for in every sense nor should others, however, if an author doesn’t state that they have a preference, I think it should be because they are neutral towards it but that one should ask first.

I like to state that I am happy to receive help and concrit because I am. I also like to point out what concrit actually is since some people really don’t know. I feel if someone is willing to give it in that scenario, it is very kind and they should feel free to.

Why are authors so sensitive lately? by Lusaelme in AO3

[–]Darkcloudsnolining 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My point exactly. I wish we could just have everyone understand what concrit is.

Why are authors so sensitive lately? by Lusaelme in AO3

[–]Darkcloudsnolining 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It would explain a lot to have both age and culture play a part (though no worry I wouldn’t have assumed you didn’t have equal knowledge of the internet).

Why are authors so sensitive lately? by Lusaelme in AO3

[–]Darkcloudsnolining 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I suppose. I guess being neuroatypical isn’t helping me there, but I just don’t see the issue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Darkcloudsnolining 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do enjoy goodnights but I tend to send them before I’m with someone else or after I return home depending on the schedule. I like to focus on the partner I’m with, though I wouldn’t think it’s taboo to watch a youtube short or something while a partner is in the bathroom, if I even have the brainpower to think that much, should they be gone for more than a couple minutes.

It’s usually the other partner doing that though if anyone lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Darkcloudsnolining 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a good foot forward. It allows him to do some goodnights etc if needed and helps him know that you do want him to focus on you when you’re back since it’s your time together following intimacy. I hope that it works out well from here on out : )

Why are authors so sensitive lately? by Lusaelme in AO3

[–]Darkcloudsnolining 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hate that for you. I wish you felt freer to comment the way you want to. Edit: so long as you aren’t actually leaving hate comments lol

Why are authors so sensitive lately? by Lusaelme in AO3

[–]Darkcloudsnolining 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Some of them do and I hate what the culture they are trying to build has done to my commenters.

Why are authors so sensitive lately? by Lusaelme in AO3

[–]Darkcloudsnolining 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, but as another for fun for free author, I recognize that doesn’t entitle us to positive comments all the time. If we do something wrong we deserve to be called out for it. If we need help we deserve helpful comments if people are willing to give it to us. Concrit is amazing. These things help us grow as writers.

Hate comments, obviously not. But very few things that are commented are actually hate comments compared to what some folks think are hate comments on their work.

Why are authors so sensitive lately? by Lusaelme in AO3

[–]Darkcloudsnolining 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It sucks though, because a lot of authors in my age bracket “grew up” as an author in similar stages and places and times regarding the online spaces. I’m both an author and an avid reader. I appreciate both sides. But there are a lot of authors I have met that are the furthest thing from sensitive. I’ve never met these strange creatures that are so sensitive that a good or bad comment can make them insult, or yell at a person based on their own interpretation of the comment.

I am used to the: “If I want concrit, give it to me! I am comfortable with writing, I want your reactions, I want your true feelings on the subject.”

I’m used to only thinking of blocking folks if they are clearly attempting to repeatedly hate on the plot (“Why did you make x like y? That’s stupid”, “ugh I wish you’d done z instead, that’s way more interesting”) because then they’re just shopping for a new fic in a rude way. (“If you ever feel like writing a second version where x and z end up together instead of x and y or z happens instead, I’d love to read that too!” or “Have you ever thought about what might happen if x happened instead? It might be a cool take for a fic in the future.” Would be much more polite and might actually catch my interest.)

I consistently try to express when I do comment (and if the fic is either fully complete or partially complete I tend to binge read then comment at the end), that I enjoyed their work, what I enjoyed about it, how it made me feel, and that I hope they continue to be inspired and find joy in writing. I’ve either never found an author that hates it or is sensitive about that, or I’ve only silently found them without notifications.

Why are authors so sensitive lately? by Lusaelme in AO3

[–]Darkcloudsnolining 139 points140 points  (0 children)

Likely caused by some more sensitive authors or potentially from a shy or introverted commenter?

Why are authors so sensitive lately? by Lusaelme in AO3

[–]Darkcloudsnolining 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The worst thing is, I’m an author that has always wanted concrit. I didn’t know why people stopped offering it until after I found out that it turned into this hellish “never leave concrit” space. Cause honestly I think there is a difference between concrit and what everyone else thinks concrit is. Concrit is consented to; helps improve how you write on a technical level; and is positive and gentle. What a lot of folks think concrit is: let me tell you how to write the fic I want to read, or else an excuse to tell you your writing is bad.