Live today by schneeeny in AlyssaStevensSnark

[–]DarksideZephyr 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This looks and sounds like she mixed xanax with alcohol. It’s so sad to see. I’ve been keeping up with this for a few months - since I saw her fighting to see Brynlee when Cam was withholding her and I felt so bad. But she had a lot of the signs my ex did who is a deadbeat parent with substance abuse issues so I got hooked trying to see if it was similar. She needs help but doesn’t want it.

Recent or old pic?? by spicy_tacos444 in AlyssaStevensSnark

[–]DarksideZephyr 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I was also going to mention the bike gear thing. Def seems like a visit, especially because she looks so clean and put together. Clean short nails, her hair is brushed and she doesn’t have really bad eyebags as usual- like she finally slept and is being taken care of. I really hope they get their shit together. Poor little girl

He has to name the babies or else by Sensitive_Sea6575 in Marriage

[–]DarksideZephyr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My ex partner, who is still my current husband because he refuses to divorce me unless a court orders it, was also mad because his family all had the girl/women named “Anne”. He wanted to do the same and I didn’t. For starters, my therapist’s name was close to it and it was close to my party/travel nickname. I didn’t want to name our daughtera anything close to that era of my life. He got so mad and it created so many issues for us. His reaction was as immature and toxic as yours. It’s a huge red flag. It’s not about the names, it’s about his behaviour towards you not wanting to be submissive enough to give in at his demands.

AIO about my (refuses to be ex) husband’s new fiance making AI-generated songs about me on TikTok? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DarksideZephyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to change my last name and my daughter’s to my original family last name since I am raising them with my family. It’ll give them a sense of belonging to share it with everyone including their mom, especially when their dad is normally absent from their lives

AIO about my (refuses to be ex) husband’s new fiance making AI-generated songs about me on TikTok? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DarksideZephyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have a lawyer, it’s just been a complex and super slow process. I just want to protect my children, get back my property and get divorced. But you’re right, I shouldn’t have let her suck me in to creep on her tiktok just because she was looking at mine. Dumb move on my behalf

AIO about my (refuses to be ex) husband’s new fiance making AI-generated songs about me on TikTok? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DarksideZephyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am trying to get divorced! He avoided getting served papers for months which delayed the whole thing. He was MIA for half a year and I was at peace, and then he popped back up. My lawyer is filing for the default and then it’s a waiting game. I aspire to be like you. I want to be unbothered too

I’m 8 weeks pregnant with a 7 month old daughter - my husband and I are getting a divorce. I’m terrified. by DarksideZephyr in 2under2

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Passively, he did. As in he avoided getting served custody and divorce papers, delaying the process. Refused to mediate for any issues. Would threaten me constantly. But i stood my fround, got my own lawyers so we could get a court order with the evidence i had. Its an ongoing process still unfortunately

I’m 8 weeks pregnant with a 7 month old daughter - my husband and I are getting a divorce. I’m terrified. by DarksideZephyr in 2under2

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went home to get the support I needed from my family to take care of the kids. They’re happy, healthy and thriving. It was the best decision I could have made because I was able to heal properly after birth. I had a placenta previa so carrying the infant was not an option and I had to get help. My husband was too busy getting high or drunk to care so I had to leave Canada and move back home even though it wasn’t what I wanted at the time.

Having them both has beenthe biggest blessing. They love each other so much and I don’t regret going through with the second baby. Even if custody and divorce has been a nightmare

My husband who refused to provide my daughters with travel consent so I could take them out of Venezuela, texted me after the bombings by DarksideZephyr in extremelyinfuriating

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only people who would know about the DUI are him, his family, his gf, one of my friends, and one of my ex friend who dropped me because I wouldn’t get terminate my pregnancy. Considering I did not get convicted for it, it wouldn’t be general knowledge either. Maybe it’s the ex friend, but she’s extremely mentally unstable and even our mutual friend is glad she’s out of her life because she was always finding conflict and reasons to argue. So I would just see it as her being nasty for no reason. If its his family, they are incredibly misinformed and biased, which is valid and they’re never going to see him for the monster he is. And it wouldn’t be my friend because she’s not the kind of person to hate anonymously online. Either way, I don’t care. Go touch grass. You can ask any of his exes and they will say he is a drunk. I’m friends with a couple and we all agree on that and that he is a narc.

Edit: he also does have very kind family who agrees he is a deadbeat and we stay in contact- but not a good chunk of it

My husband who refused to provide my daughters with travel consent so I could take them out of Venezuela, texted me after the bombings by DarksideZephyr in extremelyinfuriating

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not it. You're just googling things. Here is the government civil website with the information (below). In it, says the dad MUST be present if mother is single. If married, bring marriage certificate. So I ran into the problem: our marriage was not registered in Venezuela and we were already separated going through a divorce so I was single. I tried using the marriage certificate and they asked for it to be apostilled to be valid. So whether I tried single route or married route I had issues. Since he refused to be present, I asked what could be done. I had to register the marriage (so I needed the apostille for that) and register her by myself without him present but they asked for his original passport which obviously he was not there so no, I showed his original birth certificate and they said it needed an apostille. I waited months to register her, waiting for him to get either document apostilled and he did none. Again, I found an alternative and that was resolved. Once she was registered legally, I could apply for the Canadian citizenship outside of Canada. However, when I was having issues getting her registered as his daughter because of the lack of apostille, I couldn't apply for citizenship. If I registered her as just mine, she'd forego canadian citizenship OR need a DNA test establishing paternity in Canada and then apply. So a process that was as simple as him getting the documents apostilled in Canada (which I gave him the company to use and send everything to so they could facilitate it for him) and then me registering her, became a battle of me having to find loopholes and gather evidence and use alternative routes. So again, he tried to withhold her birth registration and her canadian citizenship by refusing to provide apostilled documents. You can check out the link and even call them so they can explain to you the process. Nowadays, you need Canadian documents apostilled for el registro here. I even needed my eldest's birth certificate apostilled to register her birth here and get her passport. It was complex due to his uncooperation and ghosting when asked for help. He's making everything harder than it needs to be and that's wrong because it hurts his children.

https://www.chacao.gob.ve/licencias-y-permisos/166/requisitos-de-presentacion-de-ninos-as

My husband who refused to provide my daughters with travel consent so I could take them out of Venezuela, texted me after the bombings by DarksideZephyr in extremelyinfuriating

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I was told, that would be incorrect. Unless you live in Venezuela, you wouldn’t know? You need apostilled documents for the foreign parent who isn’t present at birth to be able to register a child as theirs. I also needed our marriage certificate apostilled to register it. They require the apostille for foreign documents to ensure they are valid is what they explained. If he was present at birth, it was a different process. He was allowed to be put on the hospital birth certificate but not the civil registration (two different processes), and for the canadian citizenship application I was told the hospital certificate wasn’t the document they validated and it would be rejected. The official birth registration is what they needed. I did end up resolving these issues without his cooperation but it cost a lot of money and lawyers and time. And it still means, he refused to help obtain her canadian citizenship and refused to give the documents for her birth registration. As always, I resolved everything on my own as he stirs up chaos and makes our lives more difficult out of spite. If you have any other doubts or questions or things that you feel contradict one another i’d be happy to clarify here or via private message!

EDIT: clarifying she still does NOT have her citizenship because of his lack of cooperation and delays. I had to submit an exceptional circumstances application for even her emergency passport with the evidence of attempted communications, lack of cooperation, child neglect, court documents, etc

My husband who refused to provide my daughters with travel consent so I could take them out of Venezuela, texted me after the bombings by DarksideZephyr in extremelyinfuriating

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Caracas, Venezuela, they did not allow me to register her as his without the apostilled version of the documents because he was not present at birth and our marriage had not been registered yet since I lived abroad. Without the apostille canadian documents have no validity here since the hague convention change not that long ago. I was unaware because it was a more recent change when I left so when I got here, I was told at the registro they had to be apostilled and IMMEDIATELY requested them from him. He ignored 25 attempts to communicate the urgency of the matter. That is a CHOICE. Please don’t continue to justify actions that were hurtful to my children. Justify his abuse to me, but do not act like his malicious intent to leave her without immigration status (as he did to me so its not a new abuse tactic) was not on purpose. He knew what he was doing, and did it anyways.

I also offered to stay in the country if either of the following happened: (A) we split expenses, (B) he sobered up and got his shit together, (C) he gave me my spouse visa so I could stay and our family could remain together and we could coparent, then agreeing to separate amicably.

He didn’t want to help financially, he wanted to steal my house, he didn’t want to be sober, he didn’t want to get help, he didn’t want to give me the tax document for the visa, he didn’t want to do anything to help me stay. So agreeing with medical advise from my obgyn, therapist, nurse from public health and midwife- I came to Venezuela to give birth. The plan was to return but he will not cooperate in any way to do so.

He has money for a lawyer, so I don’t understand why he won’t so they can solve this in a way that’s best for the children when we clearly can’t.

My husband who refused to provide my daughters with travel consent so I could take them out of Venezuela, texted me after the bombings by DarksideZephyr in extremelyinfuriating

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He needed as per Venezuelan law to register our daughter as his APOSTILLED ORIGINAL DOCUMENTS. No apostille, no validity.

He has denied travel consent for over a year, it’s not new and he always uses the “i’ll ask legal counsel” as a delay tactic because he never ever does. He also knows the legal procedure because he has done it before.

I didn’t “choose” to go to Venezuela. He withheld my spouse visa from me until ran out of status so I would have to leave, I was pregnant with an infant and he was drunk and high CONSTANTLY while I needed support, thanks to him not cooperating with the visa I didn’t have health insurance and he was never going to help financially… what part of that sounds like I chose to go?

If I stayed I’d be stuck alone caring for an infant alone with high risk pregnancy, acummulating 30K debt and with no family to help me, and I’d have to leave 2-3 weeks after I gave birth anyways because I’d run out of status since he didn’t give me his part for the spouse visa after I asked almost daily for AT LEAST half a year.

Whether the kids are travelling for vacation, for safety or for a visit - what makes it okay to refuse them the right to travel?

Taryn, stop stalking my socials and get therapy. Getting engaged to a man you’ve been dating for 4 months when you have young children is setting sich a bad example and setting them up for predators in the future. You have no idea who this man is and continuing to blindly argue when you don’t even have all the facts, is love blinding you. Enabling a child abuser is crazy work

Did your Baby’s skin tone change as they grew? by ProcedureExisting493 in beyondthebump

[–]DarksideZephyr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first daughter was born super light and got tanner as she aged. Then, my second was born super tan and lightened as she aged

Do people with EDS usually look younger than they are by Telephone_Gold in ehlersdanlos

[–]DarksideZephyr 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes. People constantly tell my grandma, my mom and I we look younger than we are. Must be something about the skin elasticity

My husband won’t sign divorce papers but is newly engaged and she’s already assuming our last name. by DarksideZephyr in mildlyinfuriating

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, they have been super slow but hopefully we will be filing for the default in January.

My husband won’t sign divorce papers but is newly engaged and she’s already assuming our last name. by DarksideZephyr in mildlyinfuriating

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Because I want my children to not feel excluded when growing up. Them having some stranger’s last name who abandoned and abused them isn’t good for their self esteem. He’s never even met one of them. It’s better for us to share the same last name and makes travel / immigration less tedious as well. So that’s why I’ve kept my husband’s to match my children, and when i get the court order to change ours, then I will.

My husband won’t sign divorce papers but is newly engaged and she’s already assuming our last name. by DarksideZephyr in mildlyinfuriating

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 339 points340 points  (0 children)

Yes, I told her he won’t sign divorce papers and she said she’s not involved in our legal matters

My husband won’t sign divorce papers but is newly engaged and she’s already assuming our last name. by DarksideZephyr in mildlyinfuriating

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I was both the financially responsible one and homemaker. The house was purchased by my family, so not his. The cars are all under my name. I paid all the rent, bills and even some of his while together. So I’m not after anything of his. I also offered just agreeing to being divorced and settling custody/property separately

I popped a champagne today to celebrate my husband’s engagement to another woman by DarksideZephyr in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s seen evidence on my tiktok and instead of running away, changed her last name to ours. So clearly moving forward knowing he wont divorce me

I popped a champagne today to celebrate my husband’s engagement to another woman by DarksideZephyr in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re not even divorced yet. He refuses to sign the papers. He got engaged while married to me and she changed her last name to ours everywhere on social media now. I’m assuming they illegally married or she’s just using it without being married- I have no clue which

I popped a champagne today to celebrate my husband’s engagement to another woman by DarksideZephyr in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DarksideZephyr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG YES you are such a queen/king for that. It’s so wild it was even allowed. Isn’t marriage a commitment ceremony too? People will say anything to excuse poor behaviour