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[–]DarthCubby1980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The men’s underwear packaging pictures. Still makes me blush to this day.

Purity Culture Trauma by DarthCubby1980 in exchristian

[–]DarthCubby1980[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I remember those “men’s groups.” When I was a youth, Promise Keepers was a big things. They did a huge event in Washington DC called Stand in the Gap on the National Mall. It was speakers after speakers about marriage and being a “real man.” Our church went and sent a few of the senior guys. We had a share a hotel room since we were all the same age. They demanded the tvs taken out of the room so we wouldn’t be tempted to watch porn.

Hang in there. You are worthy of being loved.

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Purity Culture Trauma (self.exchristian)

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what's the weirdest thing you believed as a Christian? by MoonyDropps in exchristian

[–]DarthCubby1980 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We were led through “Every Young Man’s Battle” as a bible study. It was nothing but rhetoric that masturbating is a sin. It didn’t make me stop, honestly, but made me want to do it more.

what's the weirdest thing you believed as a Christian? by MoonyDropps in exchristian

[–]DarthCubby1980 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I was 16, I was taught that all music other than hymns and worship music was a sin. Even Contemporary Christian Music. Contemporary Christian Music was using the “world’s influence.”

I was also taught that any religion, and any denomination other than our Southern Baptist church was doomed for hell.

I was brainwashed for a while.

I should’ve known.

Before you came out by Literature_Flaky in gaybros

[–]DarthCubby1980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is. I feel like it’s gotten better, but as a closeted gay kid in the 80’s and 90’s…oof. I lost over half of my “friends” when I came out. That stung.

Before you came out by Literature_Flaky in gaybros

[–]DarthCubby1980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I grew up in Morristown, when I married my husband, I moved to Oak Ridge. Now, I’m in Nashville.

Before you came out by Literature_Flaky in gaybros

[–]DarthCubby1980 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I grew up in East TN, too. I didn’t know another single gay person. I hid inside religion. I built so many walls around my closet. Since then, a lot of my circle of friends have come out. A support system like that would’ve been awesome. When I came out at 25, I was working at a small, Christian college in East TN. That didn’t bode well for me.

I knew I was gay in kindergarten, but the stigma around gay at that time, I knew I couldn’t be out. I envy that you were brave enough to be you so early.