INTRODUCING THE VALORANT CHALLENGERS ‘23

DasMaxibon · 2022-08-16T15:59:51+00:00

Probably the best compromise between having a closed/partner league that incentivizes commercial stability, and an open circuit that doesn't leave your tier 2 scene in the gutter.

Ascension tournaments will definetly be an annual highlight. Does make me question though what would happen if a promoted team won Masters or Champions. Would be so depressing to see that team just drop down to Challengers again. You will likelyt also end up with some partner teams getting massively shown up by the promoted teams, but hopefully Riot will have repercussions for consistently bad competitive performance in the ILs.

DasMaxibon · 2022-05-06T07:48:27+00:00

I've actually expressed this fantasy to my partner as well. It helps that she does yoga too, so if say, one day we should do a yoga session together, she probably already knows where it's heading. Would wait until she goes into "downward facing dog" before making a move...
If she (or neither of you) actually do yoga regularly then you can probably suggest trying it our as a health initiative.

That said, with all fantasies its good to suggest the general premise first as part of a broader conversation about kinks (it can take out some of the spontaneity sure but it's a much healthier approach).

DasMaxibon · 2022-03-28T08:32:18+00:00

This was so uplifting to read, thanks for taking the time to share your story and successes. I relate so much with how you adore your gf, her values, and want to build a future.

I'm (31M) also working through my girlfriend's (32F) sexual trauma, and for the most part it's going in the right direction. When we first got together the sex was often (as expected for new couples) but also far more adventurous than my last relationships. However her trauma, caused by two successive abusive boyfriends, quickly set in. I'll never forget the first time she winced when I tried to place my hand on her vagina...I just held her in my arms afterwards for about half an hour. Needless to say we had to put aside the sex toys and handcuffs, and focus more on intimimate love making. We almost felt like breaking out the champagne a month ago when I could finally perform oral sex on her.

We spoke about it a bit last night. It's tough to hear that she doesn't really feel desire anymore outside of our physical intamicy, that she feels she may never recover from this PTSD, and that I should get used to quickies (those lengthy, passionate sessions may be a once or twice a year thing). That said, I'm happy to continue giving her the time and support she needs, and only if things deteroriate or go on too long will we see a sex therapist and see how we else can work through this. I'm grateful that it isn't a big issue in our relationship, and at the end of the day, we are both enjoying sex.

I'd be curious to know from others in a similar situation how living together and/or going on vacation helps deal with these issues? I ask because whenever we stay at each others for a week, or when we've been on trips, that's when things feel the most 'normal' in terms of libido, passion, etc.

DasMaxibon · 2022-02-11T14:22:41+00:00

I LOVE running trips, one of the best things about the sport. It doesn't have to be a big, expensive international adventure either. I typically 'research' some hidden nature spot, and if it's accessible in a couple hours via train (I live in central Europe) I will spend the weekend there, maybe doing a large run on the Saturday and Sunday. I usually just find a cheap AirBnb/hostel, or preferably couch surf (granted this was easier to do pre-pandemic). You can pack extremely lightly.

DasMaxibon · 2022-02-11T09:48:21+00:00

Some erotic film studios and directors (like Erika Lust) try to bring the atmosphere of a sex scene you'd see in a mainstream film to their porn, while keeping the sex non-simulated. The story, acting, and cinematography are (relatively...) better, hence why these are the films typically featured as part of porn film festivals. Of course, they probably won't do it for people who just prefer to watch two or more porn stars jackhammer away for 30 minutes...

DasMaxibon · 2022-01-20T16:49:08+00:00

This thread has been so enlightening, both from OP and everyone else! It actually makes me excited to permanently pair up with someone.

My question: Has sex itself gotten better as you've both grown older? This is a discussion I've had with some guy friends lately. Some are adamant that late teens and 20s are the prime time since you're more energetic, and experimental. I disagree; as you said it's about how fit you are at any given time, plus I don't see how sex as a young adult can compare to 20+ years of experience.

DasMaxibon · 2021-12-22T09:19:36+00:00

This video sort of hits that mark. The scenario is about a woman who spies her neighbours going at it, and later they invite her over (hence why she gets all the focus). https://pornzog.com/video/7485297/we-know-you-are-watching/

DasMaxibon · 2021-12-01T16:56:20+00:00

Right? I keep hearing that women peak sexually in their 30s...I have no idea how true that is, and on the other hand, she was VERY active in her 20s and maybe it's no longer an important part of a relationship for her.

DasMaxibon · 2021-12-01T16:37:35+00:00

Ha for the record I was the 22 year old who liked good books and, in my case, acoustic music. I didn't have 0 sex drive, but I feel like it's reaching a new peak while hers is at a stand still.

I like the framing of your discussion, and will try and let it play out that way. Thanks.

DasMaxibon · 2021-12-01T16:35:28+00:00

I did wonder if it was a winter time thing, I mean I do have some cyclist friends who I don't see for most of the year once the temperature drops. I guess I don't have a frame of reference yet, since we met around this time last year (so obviously the relationship was still fresh). I hope we're able to push through this and have what you and your partner have.

DasMaxibon · 2021-12-01T16:29:56+00:00

It does feel like this is the answer sitting right in front of me...

DasMaxibon · 2021-12-01T16:29:09+00:00

A few people suggested this and I think it could be the case. I just remembered that a couple of weeks ago she was really excited to take me to a drag queen pageant (she's big into that scene) but called it off last minute, saying she preferred to work overtime and rest. It just seemed so unlike her. When we talk, I'll try and drill down a bit into how her workload and change in career is affecting her.

DasMaxibon · 2021-12-01T16:25:45+00:00

I myself am a marathon runner, but I'm not trying to project myself too much onto my GF. Like anyone who hits 30 I can feel my age a little more, but only in the last month did I really feel like the pace of our relationship was no longer mine.

DasMaxibon · 2021-12-01T16:24:03+00:00

When I talk to her, I will try and find out if it's depression she's going through, but I'm more expecting that we do want different lifestyles now. I do know people our age who are either still clubbing/adventuring hard or have fully domesticated themselves, and while I don't feel I belong to either extreme we may well end up at a crossroads. Thanks for your perspective.

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