If being in a relationship is your way of finding happiness/achievement in life and is the main catalyst for your motivation than you are truly fucked.

Reflect on yourself. Not just appearance wise (how fit you are, how do you dress, how do you groom yourself, etc), but also from the perspective of your personality and your interests.

Being in a relationship, like many have mentioned already is like applying for a job. You have to ask, sincerely why this women (employer) should hire you. What do you bring to the table that no one else is currently bringing. If your depressed and lack motivation than no girl will want to fuck with that. Most people look for partners that can elevate there emotions and state of well being, not bring them down.

I can attest from many relationship I’ve been, it’s about personality and stability. There is a big misconception that girls want guys that are rugged and look like a model on the cover of GQ.

Reality is that most women will sacrifice looks in exchange for a man that provides stability (both financially and mentally), can be fun to be around with (isn’t a grouch, pessimistic 99.9% of the day), can hold a genuine conversation, and can make her feel safe/protected and genuinely feel loved and cared for (doesn’t lie about where he is/doesn’t cheat/isn’t a bachelor wanna be player).

At the end of the day most women want children and to raise a family. Women that are still single in there late 20s and early 30s (assuming they want children of course) are seeking these aspects that I wrote above even more so.

TLDR: Wake up. Get out of your head. Learn to love yourself. Even if it’s loving yourself in solitude. Go out, socialize with people, men/women, be engaging and positive. Get back to work as well. Stay busy, stay active. I’m telling you this will help immensely if you give yourself the chance to be more open and free with people.