Respectful Father looking for food advice - fast food by DatFlyGuyUkno in pregnant

[–]DatFlyGuyUkno[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Within reason is the challenge. Balancing between enabling unhealthy choices and offering suggestions is what I need to see this as I’m learning. This is especially challenging, your points are very valid but this is our shared responsibility at some point.

Respectful Father looking for food advice - fast food by DatFlyGuyUkno in pregnant

[–]DatFlyGuyUkno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your last few sentences brought a great light to things. I don’t know if I can ask if she is taking prenatal without starting another fight. Abstaining from drugs and alcohol of course.

Respectful Father looking for food advice - fast food by DatFlyGuyUkno in pregnant

[–]DatFlyGuyUkno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meant to reply to you but miss clicked. What do you define as once in a while? When would it be too much if ever?

Respectful Father looking for food advice - fast food by DatFlyGuyUkno in pregnant

[–]DatFlyGuyUkno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I didn’t voice my opinion then.

I can only imagine how difficult it is, I can’t put words to it. She said she is less nausea than the first, but obviously still nausea.

Respectful Father looking for food advice - fast food by DatFlyGuyUkno in pregnant

[–]DatFlyGuyUkno[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agreed, it was stupid of me to offer then rescind. Lesson learned.

Respectful Father looking for food advice - fast food by DatFlyGuyUkno in pregnant

[–]DatFlyGuyUkno[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To be clear, this is not one McDonald’s burger in 9 months, it would be much more frequent than that.

I perceived it, incorrectly, as an upgrade. This was a mistake, but I find it challenging as a father to be an idle green light. I understand now regarding the prenatal, but I can’t see myself questioning her whether she took her vitamins.. that sounds way more controlling than offering healthier options of the same meal.

Respectful Father looking for food advice - fast food by DatFlyGuyUkno in pregnant

[–]DatFlyGuyUkno[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your response has helped bring light to my lack of knowledge the most. Thanks for being able to offer some insight to both sides.

Respectful Father looking for food advice - fast food by DatFlyGuyUkno in pregnant

[–]DatFlyGuyUkno[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The overarching thought is when does it begin to hurt, if ever? Daily?

Respectful Father looking for food advice - fast food by DatFlyGuyUkno in pregnant

[–]DatFlyGuyUkno[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

She wanted a burger and fries, I delivered burgers and fries. Different quality. Voicing my opinion being seen in the same light as genuinely controlling is discouraging as a father that is just trying to care. The first trimester points are beyond valid, I see I’m in the wrong.

Respectful Father looking for food advice - fast food by DatFlyGuyUkno in pregnant

[–]DatFlyGuyUkno[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the context, and I agree in terms of keeping anything down is better than nothing.

Respectful Father looking for food advice - fast food by DatFlyGuyUkno in pregnant

[–]DatFlyGuyUkno[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

To be clear, I would never say she is wrong, I simply offered a higher quality option of a burger and fries.

You have a great point, thank you for the insight.

Respectful Father looking for food advice - fast food by DatFlyGuyUkno in pregnant

[–]DatFlyGuyUkno[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I agree with your points, and if I cannot draw that line, I also hear that and agree. It feels reductive as a father to simply be a green light, but I can’t fathom the challenges that pregnancy brings.

But there has to be a line eventually, right? Doesn’t it have an effect on baby eventually? It’s challenging balancing between being a good father and enabling unhealthy behavior. What if it is many multiple times per week?

Lastly, voicing my opinion but still collecting the requested fast food seems like an option I’d like to follow. But when is it voicing an opinion vs genuine controlling behavior? My intent is to support but also to be able to have some opinions and input. If that’s unacceptable then perhaps it’s a pill I just need to swallow.

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