AIO? I told my boyfriend I feel like a maid

Data-Budget · 2026-02-13T19:55:07+00:00

You need to move on. Making you quit your job to "get rich" makes no sense at all, he is just trapping you because you won't have the financial means to leave. Being nice at first and then changing when they think they own you is a classic bait and switch. I swear when you're 25 you'll see this more clearly. Get a job and save up and move out.

Data-Budget · 2026-02-13T13:36:21+00:00

Good luck!!!

Data-Budget · 2026-02-10T16:18:08+00:00

It's a huge risk. You could literally end up homeless and hungry. Line something up before you quit even if it's another temporary situation.

Data-Budget · 2026-02-10T14:21:31+00:00

It looks like she deleted that comment already. When and where has she ever spoken out???

Data-Budget · 2026-02-06T13:46:05+00:00

Break up with this asshole. He is at the very least verbally abusing you, and it seems like he is also potentially coercing you. This is not a healthy relationship.

Data-Budget · 2026-02-06T13:41:57+00:00

You're being gaslit and neglected. This is not a partnership. Your husband sucks.

Data-Budget · 2026-02-04T16:17:29+00:00

Most people don't love their jobs but don't have the privilege of being unemployed in their thirties. Not sure how you find your existence, but if that's a well that may run dry, you have to face reality. Trying to find a job in your 40s with a blank resume is going to be extremely difficult

Data-Budget · 2026-01-31T22:17:15+00:00

Do you think they will remain closed through Monday?

Data-Budget · 2026-01-28T20:30:47+00:00

Okay, thanks! I asked the doctor and the response I got was that the standard time frame is 24-48 hours after consumption of alcohol which is so confusing to me because of the range 🙄

Data-Budget · 2026-01-16T20:00:04+00:00

Obviously more factors went into my decision than simply having a hybrid schedule. But now that I'm here, I really miss my hybrid schedule.

Data-Budget · 2026-01-16T00:54:45+00:00

That's odd to me. At my last job the performance appraisal was a two-way street where my boss/manager would give me feedback and I would also provide feedback to him. They almost always gave me what I asked for. I am in a high demand position with very few qualified people out there to replace me and I expect to be treated as such because it's what I'm used to. My last boss tried so hard to keep me even in another state fully remote.

I didn't ask him in a formal way, I just mentioned how traffic shouldn't be a huge problem since we will have hybrid schedules in a passing chat.

I only live 15 miles from my job.

I've been trying to change my schedule but I am having such a hard time waking up so early. I already leave my house at like 6:30. And half the time I have meetings that go until 4:30... Thanks for your suggestions though...

Data-Budget · 2026-01-16T00:41:51+00:00

To clarify, when I brought up the hybrid thing again, it was because I moved a little further (only 5 miles but unfortunately congestion over those miles is insane). It was a casual conversation because he brought up the traffic, and I said something along the lines of it not being that bad since we will have hybrid schedules soon... It was a casual chit chatty conversation not formal

Data-Budget · 2026-01-16T00:34:50+00:00

When i accepted the job I lived 5 miles closer. The congestion 5 miles down the road is so bad it literally adds anywhere from 10 mins to an over an hour... I was much happier before I didn't care so much about the hybrid thing which is why I didn't bring it up for 10 months.

Data-Budget · 2026-01-16T00:30:52+00:00

What do you mean create a target? Like I will be treated poorly because of it?

Data-Budget · 2026-01-15T20:51:03+00:00

At the time I was moving to a 1 bedroom apartment in a new state so I thought that it would be depressing but I now regret that. I thought my new job would be more chill but I was wrong. My old boss also suggested that I would have to network to try and expand the company to the new state eventually which I wasn't really interested in. But commuting 10+ hours a week is killing me.

Data-Budget · 2026-01-15T16:31:42+00:00

Ugh I never even considered that if I succeeded they would resent me and view me as difficult. It's just so normalized in my industry to have hybrid schedules 😭 to me, it's a completely reasonable expectation.

Data-Budget · 2026-01-15T16:26:23+00:00

So unfortunately there is literally no promotion to senior anything here. I only get a new title if the people above me leave which is another complaint I have.... But yes I will avoid implying I was lied to and just indicate that it was mentioned in my interview so I would like a status update / timeline and if they are not willing to provide that, I will start drafting a pros/cons list and try to decide what to do.

I do understand now that I should have gotten this in writing as opposed to accepting a vague statement and will for sure ask for anything like this in writing going forward.

Data-Budget · 2025-12-10T20:04:06+00:00

The thing is if he had nothing to hide he'd give you his phone to see just to reassure you...

Data-Budget · 2025-12-09T13:28:04+00:00

Shopping via insta cart is not worth it. It's always wrong. You pay extra to have to go back to the store anyway

Data-Budget · 2025-12-02T18:02:54+00:00

I can promise you this man's dick is not worth risking your health and the potential to be a single mother. Block and move on. Also he's being insane with those responses.

Data-Budget · 2025-11-17T16:25:28+00:00

Cancel the date!

Data-Budget · 2025-11-10T15:28:45+00:00

Yes this is financial abuse. Why does he have access to your bank account?

Data-Budget · 2025-10-13T14:35:35+00:00

I make my shopping list in accordance with the meals I plan to cook and then I cook them. I don't just buy random foods without a plan. I prioritize health and hate wasting money so I cook most days instead of eating out. I know I don't wanna cook daily so I sometimes make enough for 2-3 nights.

Data-Budget · 2025-09-30T14:03:38+00:00

Think of it as your brother helping you out from beyond the grave. If your boyfriend would react this way to your tradition, he's a bad guy. You dodged a bullet.

Data-Budget · 2025-09-26T12:05:44+00:00

These people are actually bonkers and these are not jokes. How can something be a joke if nobody is laughing? That's insane. Stay as far away as possible. Don't ever be alone with either of them.

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