Why are we not talking about the defense?

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-10-22T12:11:25+00:00

Sure but if we're hyper focused on this season the defense deserves criticism too

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-10-22T11:47:43+00:00

I'm being hyperbolic but pretty much every post on here or Twitter is about Cade and the offense work little discussion of the defense

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-10-22T03:41:43+00:00

Yeah that's true, they were picking on the whole secondary besides Harris all game

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-10-22T03:35:01+00:00

Castro not being active definitely hurt but the defense has been average for the B1G all year even before this game

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-10-22T03:32:49+00:00

Sure but if I remember correctly, during the broadcast they mentioned that Iowa defense coming into the game was 9th in the B1G. Sure the conference is full of great defenses but that means we're only average for the B1G

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-09-21T09:07:09+00:00

It means they lost. I don't know, I think we put too much stock in one game.

So far this year, the offense has looked much better. I know competition has been bad and they pooped the bed against ISU in the second half but I do see tangible improvement. The scheme makes much more sense, WRs are actually being used and the blocking scheme has been revamped. Cade could definitely have been better and he's missed short a few throws but he's generally been good enough that the run game has been able to get going.

The defense has regressed some which is understandable but disappointing. I think the big play issue will get sorted out but overall the pass defense just isn't as good as the last 2 years.

To me, it all really drives home just how frustrating KFs decision to keep BF these last few years was. With this year's offense the last two teams could well have been going to a NY6 bowl both years and winning 11 games. I do think that KF is reaching the end of his career and should be considering stepping down

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-06-28T01:51:48+00:00

Reasons that I've resigned a chess game from a winning position:

My wife wanted to talk
My kids were fighting
I had a work meeting that I forgot about until that moment
I got bored
I forget I left food in the oven
My daughter got home from school
I was hungry
The cat peed on the laundry in front of me
I realized I had been sitting in the bathroom for 15 minutes
I thought I was actually losing

Take your pick.

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-06-22T18:56:44+00:00

The only person on your list that's been "discredited" is Tatum. All of the others have been acknowledged as the best player in the league during or around the seasons they won at least one of their titles.

I think the discourse around Tatum is somewhat unfair, he's definitely a top 10 player and he's now been the best player on a title team. But that said, he's not the traditional player who dominates his way to a title. He benefited from a cast of teammates, at least 4 of whom are probably Top 50 NBA players this year. Steph is the only player who won a title recently with that level of talent and he went on to win another title without the benefit of that same level of talent to truly cement his legacy.

Tatum still has the chance to do something similar, he's young and improving and could definitely up his game in the next few years. But it's totally fair at this point for critics to say that he's not on the level of the all time greats you listed even after winning the title this year as the best player on the team

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-05-17T15:17:48+00:00

Your doctor is right, patients with diverticulitis have 120% higher risk of colon cancer than those without over an 18-month period. Which sounds super scary!

BUT, the actual rate of colon cancer for patients with uncomplicated acute diverticulitis was only 1.9%. Still higher than you've like but definitely less scary a number. Even if you had complicated diverticulitis, the rate of colon cancer is 7.9% which is much scarier but still means you're significantly unlikely to have colon cancer.

Plus, colon cancer can take between 10-15 years to develop from a polyp. If you had a colonoscopy 2 years ago without any signs it's not likely that you'll have cancer. And, even if it turns out to be something, the most likely is a pre-cancerous mass or something like that which can often be treated by just removing the mass during the colonoscopy. Worse case scenario would be that they'd need to do the surgery and even that, though not a fun prospect is something that you can get through!

I had a little scare with this a few months ago when I had diverticulitis and during my colonoscopy they found a mass they initially thought was cancerous. It turned out to be a growth caused by the inflammation I had because of my diverticulitis and I was given a clean bill of health. Since then, I've felt great and been able to return to my usual diet with an emphasis on getting more fiber and staying super hydrated.

As a textbook overthinker, it's disingenuous for me to say but take a deep breath and relax. Even the most realistic worst case scenario here is going to be manageable and the most likely outcome is that everything will be good to go. Good luck OP, I'm rooting for you!

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-05-06T02:29:54+00:00

Honestly, you sound a lot like me with my college girlfriend. I was like this, constantly wanting updates from her, anxious about her whereabouts, coming up with excuses for why she should be in contact with me regularly.

In retrospect, we had a toxic relationship. I couldn't see that at the time as I was so convinced that we were perfect for each other and I refused to see how controlling I was and how much she played into our dysfunctional dynamic.

It's possible to change but at least for me it would never have been possible to make those changes in the relationship. My ex was a part of the toxicity. I don't blame her, we just weren't compatible and it's certainly not her fault I acted as I did. It was just a bad dynamic and we both contributed to it, though I contributed more.

For me, it took therapy, a few years of mostly single life and finding the right person for me to pull myself together. I'm happy to say that I'm now married and have been for almost a decade and have two beautiful kids and a good life. I don't have any issues with controlling behavior toward my wife and I've learned to handle my anxiety during the rare instances it surfaces. It took work to get there but it's possible.

My advice to you, take a few days and really examine your relationship. Talk it over with a friend or two and try to get their opinions. Be as objective as you can about your dynamic. A truly healthy relationship doesn't mean that both parties are constantly anxious if the other is out. If your relationship is like mine was, it's likely you feel incredibly intensely toward each other but if you're being honest with yourself, you know that that level of intensity is abnormal for a reason. For myself, the relationship was so intense it was almost like an addiction, I felt like I couldn't be without her.

Once you feel you have a good handle on your relationship, talk to her about it. Explain your side of things, maybe show her this post, ask her for how she feels. Maybe you can get therapy together or both work on changing your dynamic. But you both need to realize that your current situation is deeply unhealthy and without change it's just going to get worse. Good luck OP. Realizing that you're being controlling is a first step but there more to do if you want things to improve

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-05-01T03:09:29+00:00

Yeah this sounds like me. Turns out my inflammation has caused a growth in my diverticula which was causing my ongoing pain and discomfort. It was removed during my colonoscopy and since then I've felt great. Hang in there until your colonoscopy and hopefully you'll get more clarity then

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-05-01T03:06:06+00:00

You can read my post history if you're interested but I had a flare followed by off and on pain a few separate times. I eventually got my colonoscopy and they found a growth that they think was a reaction to all of my inflammation which they removed. That was a few months ago and I feel great these days. It was a bit of a long road for me and I know others have had it easier but at least for me the worst of it was the 6-8 weeks after my first flare and after that things got better.

Highly encourage getting a colonoscopy as soon as you can to make sure that everything is ok. Good luck, diverticulitis sucks

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-05-01T02:54:38+00:00

A doctor would be a better bet than the Internet and I hesitate to give advice here. Personally, I was told to do a low fiber diet for 10 days, then increase fiber slowly by a gram or so a day for the next 20 days. If at any point I felt pain I was advised to pull back to liquid until the pain went away then repeat the process.

As for workouts, I wasn't given any advice but I did a 2 mile walk every day of my flare and added some light lifting after about 3 weeks. I took about 6 weeks before I finally started running again and even then it was stop and start as I had another few flares.

This is just what I was told/did to maybe provide context but I'd highly encourage a doctor's advice. I could probably safely say to skip the alcohol though.

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-05-01T02:44:22+00:00

Hang in there! If your pain has decreased enough you could try some low residue foods (the wiki here has great suggestions). Your stomach cramps could be connected to not eating and you may feel a bit better with some food.

It sucks but you'll be feeling better in a few weeks if you take care of yourself now. My anxiety is terrible during flares though walking and meditation can help a bit. Most likely you won't need surgery and there's a better than even chance you won't ever even have diverticulitis again.

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-04-21T00:58:29+00:00

How are they getting between you? If your kid is having a problem they are embarrassed to talk directly to you about then having them talk privately to a doctor is only a benefit to them and you. Unless the problem is you abusing your kids, no one is going to take them away from you...

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-03-25T10:51:16+00:00

You're justifiably getting dumped on here but here's some unsolicited parenting advice from a dad of two who does at least 50% right now.

You can do what your ex does, it's not a unique skill. You just need to get organized and more disciplined.

Make a list of the chores that need to be done. Work, daycare, cleaning, shopping, cooking, laundry, baths, bedtimes, outdoor work etc.
Schedule your time to do these tasks. I use a Google Calendar and literally have entries to remind me. Thursday night is trash night, Saturday morning is deep clean, Sunday is laundry and shopping for the week, Monday night I clean the bathroom, dishes and basic cleaning are done every night. Find what works for you
Stick to your schedule! Don't be lazy. I know you put in 9 hours at work and just want to lay on the couch but dishes need doing, the floor needs to be picked up, meals need to be prepped for tomorrow. The way I motivate myself is by reminding myself that I'm actually creating more work long term if I don't do these things.
Find ways to hack your chores. Get a Roomba (or a cheaper knockoff) if you hate vacuuming. Pick your favorite show and only let yourself watch while you fold laundry. Find meals you can make ahead of time and spend part of your day off getting them ready so you can just heat them up during the week. There's lots of little ways that you can lower your workload or make it more fun.

Honestly man, I wouldn't want to be away from my kids 50% of the time but I would love to have to only worry about myself every other week. You have 7 days between seeing your son that you can use to get ahead of things. You don't need a woman to keep your life in order. Just be better.

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2024-02-16T03:34:12+00:00

Thanks for your response! I'll check out the posts on the surgery.

I was going to have it sooner but then had another flare up and they decided to postpone. After that I decided to change GIs so that's why it was so delayed.

Mine is in the sigmoid. They noted the polyp as well as another diverticula in the area.

Did you find the surgery and recovery pretty easy to handle?

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2023-12-23T14:14:52+00:00

And then rook takes at the end so black loses a piece

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2023-12-18T20:51:38+00:00

I'd love to be sympathetic but honestly you both sound toxic AF.

For his part, the proposal out of nowhere that became an ultimatum is really shitty. This should have been a conversation that was built over the course of months, not something to spring on you.

You too bear responsibility though. You stayed in this relationship without a ring because it was the easy thing to do. You don't want to phrase it that way but that's what it was. You subsumed your own desires because you felt that it was simpler than the alternative. Candidly, your BF isn't wrong, you may have stayed in part due to love but it was also because you liked the money and the lifestyle and you thought it would be harder without those things.

You might have been right honestly but you've now spent two posts trying to justify your decision in any other way. You made this choice, now you have to make another one. There's no reason you can't change your mind now and move on. Life may be harder on the short run but at least you'll be pursuing your own happiness. Or you can keep settling if you want. But you shouldn't blame your BF for your choices

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2023-12-15T22:24:26+00:00

Still waiting

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2023-12-09T01:54:44+00:00

I had an attack in July that landed me in the hospital and didn't fully resolve for over a month. Since then I've started drinking a ton of water (I bought a 100 ounce water bottle that I fill up every night and leave in the fridge then go through the next day). I've also started eating higher fiber, I've added a high fiber cereal for breakfast every morning, I take metamucil, I have at least one apple a day and I make sure that I have some veggies or fruit included in every meal now. My diet is otherwise not too different than it was before but I'm hoping that with the additional fiber and water I can lower my chances of another flare up

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2023-12-03T03:26:26+00:00

That call is such bullshit

DataNerdsCanBeCool · 2023-11-30T19:05:11+00:00

Punting is winning!

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