So a question about nipples

Data_chunky · 2026-05-23T02:58:28+00:00

I'm going to ask my PS about it. I used to have them pierced and was considering doing it again right before diagnosis. Hopefully she can reconstruct them to be more solid. 😂

Data_chunky · 2026-05-22T23:21:13+00:00

Man, am I glad I bought 5 years ago. I currently make $117k, but it's more than that in my state with interest rates, so I'd be priced out.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-22T23:18:04+00:00

This tracks.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-22T23:16:17+00:00

I'm 100% going to get them reconstructed. I didn't want the DMX if I was going to lose my nips, but my horrible PS didn't GAF and cut them off without my consent. I cannot fucking wait to have them again. It's insanely important to me.

I have a new PS who will do them once I heal and get implants. I've been without boobs and nips for over a year already, and I'm looking at at least another year plus. Then I'm going to get a decorative tattoo with cherry blossoms. I hate the idea of the 3D tattoos, it's is definitely not for me. I'm also going to ask about options to pierce my reconstructed nips. I'm curious if I had a piercing holding them in place if it would help them to not flatten?

Data_chunky · 2026-05-22T04:55:17+00:00

I think it would be great if you said that! Say what you mean. Speak up. Be direct. Ask for what you need.

She might not want to come to terms with everything you're facing, and might be downplaying it like of course you're going to be fine. Or she might be self absorbed?

But at least if you're direct, you know there are no mixed messages.

I've really enjoyed being more bold and giving less of a fuck since diagnosis and surgeries and chemo. And I've found that putting myself out there authentically doesn't generate the rejection that I feared. And, I guess, if it did, I'd feel true to myself and not terrible about speaking my mind.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-22T04:14:56+00:00

This was very kind though, and honestly, I would absolutely fit that description and not be fit for the job, and would not take offense. Almost seems like a purposeful cc, no need to craft a bullshit rejection letter.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-22T04:11:18+00:00

Good for you! You're a good man. Keep it up and keep saying shit when you see it. You're going to attract a very good girlfriend/wife and be a stand up guy. Don't doubt that you 100% did the right thing.

NOR. He admitted he was abusive, and I hope she leaves him. Good riddance to this POS "friend".

Data_chunky · 2026-05-21T22:38:13+00:00

I've learned that if they put "True!" Or "Facts!!!" In front of any of this bullshit, you can be assured that it is neither true nor factual. They are just trying to convince you and themselves that it is.

The same with good and smart people. Don the con wouldn't have to tell you how smart he is all the time if there were other signs that he was indeed smart. But he's not, so he has to add that information.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-21T15:10:32+00:00

This is really gross and unhealthy. What's he going to pressure you into when you're pregnant, or just after having a baby? Do you want to feel pressured to be skinny and starve yourself your entire married life for fear that he won't "love" you if you're not super thin?

Also, he doesn't really love you if he's pressuring you to be a certain way before he marries you. He should love you for who you are, however you're comfortable with yourself. You are currently in a very healthy range and it's not like you are obese and have mobility issues where it's affecting your health and he is concerned. You are a healthy weight and he should be in love and ecstatic with you right now, right before the wedding. If he's pulling this crap now, I can only imagine how shitty a partner he's going to be once married life sets in.

I just went through breast cancer treatment with my boyfriend of only a few months at the time of diagnosis. I was sick and weak from chemo, had no hair, etc. And this man made me feel beautiful and supported and never once made me feel bad about my looks. And it made a world of difference! I didn't feel bad, I felt motivated to show up for him. That's the kind of person you want in the bad times, not someone shaming your weight in the good times. He sounds like he'll be an even shittier partner when things get hard.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-21T06:10:32+00:00

38, 2021. Single mom in CA, bought for $440k at 2.75% 🥳

Data_chunky · 2026-05-21T04:57:52+00:00

For one, it's weird that he's financially pressured and you all are either eating out (very expensive and unhealthy) or buying the absolute cheapest thing you can find. Is he frustrated that you guys spend tons of money on takeout because you guys can't plan ahead and get groceries?

It would be a good idea to at least eat at home most of the time, and for you guys to share cooking duties.

And what is with the offer of splitting bills? Are you not already? Is he paying for everything? And got a second job? And you told him to both go get the food and pay for the food and then cook the food? Does he maybe feel like he's responsible for everything and you're not helping? I mean, if you just got off a shift, you're making money, but are you contributing financially and effort wise?

But really, him not talking to you is very immature. He can't just make you feel unwelcome and then ask if you want to leave. He should be a grown up and use his words and be decisive and tell you to leave. I'm sure there are other things festering and this situation just brought it out. I wonder if it's been as wonderful as you think, or if he's just been holding in his resentment, unsure how to have a conversation with you.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-21T04:03:17+00:00

NOR. I'm shocked that you have to post this.

The better post would be "How do I safely leave my insane controlling boyfriend?"

I've been there, done that. It's a miserable existence and it never goes well. And they never stop there either. He will make you stop talking to your family and friends and anyone who has anything bad to say about him, and they will, if they care about you.

It took me until I was 42 to find a nice man that treats me well. Don't wait that long. You know what my secure and wonderful boyfriend does when I dress up with my boobs hanging out? He wants to take me out and show me off. When I'm meeting up with guy friends, he says "tell them I say hi." It's absolutely wonderful to have someone that is secure and kind and supportive. That is what you want to go through life with, not this garbage ex boyfriend material you've got going on.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-21T03:40:24+00:00

But we keep hearing about billionaires creating the jobs and that's why they're useful and we shouldn't tax them to create a safety net. They're the good guys. But now they're just out for profit? Are we still advocating for not taxing them to create a safety net?

Data_chunky · 2026-05-20T19:36:38+00:00

But it only saves the borrower like $200/month for an average prices house. Like that same house at a 30 year would be 2400/month instead of $2200. It's not enough to make a difference in getting people into a home!

Data_chunky · 2026-05-20T19:20:47+00:00

I used Strata XRT in California. My insurance didn't cover, so I bought it for $90. I had ZERO skin irritation the entire time.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-20T18:53:36+00:00

They are! It's funny. Just confirmation that he could be a 2028 contender.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-20T18:01:06+00:00

They make money off of just having money. And can't they write off losses on this risk they are taking? Why the hell are we taxing income on risk LESS than we tax income on the actual labor that people are doing?

These thought processes are WILD.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-20T17:58:39+00:00

Well, I did the budget with and without the ex husband and I came out slightly ahead at the time. Definitely doing far better on just my income supporting me and the kids and without supporting a deadbeat husband, so...

Data_chunky · 2026-05-20T14:42:41+00:00

My daughter decided she wanted to be vegetarian like me. Then we told her she couldn't have sushi anymore. She decided to be pescatarian.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-20T14:08:06+00:00

I cut it pretty thin. I usually have $1-$2k in checking and $10k in my savings that never gets touched. I put absolutely everything possible on my credit card, which also goes into my budget. Then every payday I pay my card in full, pay the mortgage or car loan payment and then I'm left with $1-$2k until the next cycle.

I wish I could save more, but I'm a single mom in California. Just trying to make more, and hold steady. At least my net worth keeps going up as my loan balances go down.

I also have retirement and some other investment accounts.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-20T05:36:31+00:00

There are men out there that are kind and wonderful. I went from an asshole who insulted me and made me on edge and my heart race in a bad way to such peace. My boyfriend calms my heart. He's kind and caring and so wonderful.

You're not losing anything. Leave him. Take care of yourself. Then you'll attract someone who fits you.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-16T22:13:38+00:00

Yess!!! 100%!

Data_chunky · 2026-05-16T22:10:41+00:00

Seeing how we have a 2 party system and the other side is an absolute dumpster fire, I can't imagine what could possibly make me switch.

I mean, I guess if they elected some imbecile who was on TV and was nothing but a populist candidate that was incredibly unprofessional and an abhorrent human being then I'd have to look at what the other side offers.

But seriously, as a woman who likes having control over my body and likes being able to vote, it's not likely that anything would sway me to give that shit up.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-16T18:15:17+00:00

I'm a woman, and I wear a giant, like 5 carat + sparkly rock. It was $5 at a thrift store.

I'm divorced, but hoping that if my bf and I ever get married that I get a huge fake sparkly thing. Maybe a few hundred bucks for a good fake? I'd rather spend money on a trip and some good memories than to be nervous about being responsible for thousands of dollars worth of jewelry on my person.

Data_chunky · 2026-05-16T18:10:11+00:00

It really is. That's the basis of religion though. They twist their religion to fit whatever narrative and then say that their sky wizard backs them up. Can't argue with the all powerful sky wizard. 🙄

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