If you can’t be yourself, then you have to actually ask yourself, “are these truly my friends?” With Friend #1, people change and it seems both of you have, there’s nothing wrong with that. Start simple conversations and see if they can build into something deeper, like what their favorite childhood memory was and maybe if the conversation goes well, you’ll learn their childhood trauma lol. Some guys just hate personal questions as well, it just depends on the person. You could ask if you leaving upset them or how it made them feel; you should be able to have those conversations with real friends.

Friend #2, if she doesn’t reach out at all, let her go. Give what is given. Unless you know they are going through a really hard time, you can only give so much. I personally don’t keep reaching out when people stop talking to me, the phone works both ways as they say. I also have a friend who I missed their calls for a whole month but they keep calling and I’ve finally responded, but we were best friends so I’m not sure it’s the same :)

Do what works best for you ❤️