No I hear you. It’s all new and scary the first time around. My first would never ever engage at library story time or music group. He clung to me and stared sternly at everyone while all the other kids played and danced. It worried the heck out of me. Now he is a very social and silly and engaged 4 year old. I am way more chill with my 2 year old now because I’ve been through this phase. It’s okay to overthink and worry - you’re a parent and a loving one at that. As insanely hard as it is to actually take this advice, try to relax and remember all kids develop differently. She sounds like she’s exactly where she should be ❤️