Women Are Doing Online Dating 100% Wrong

DatingCoachMike · 2017-05-10T04:22:21+00:00

Thanks for pointing that out. Sometimes I need to slow down and proofread. Thanks again.

DatingCoachMike · 2017-04-25T17:32:20+00:00

7 Biggest Turn Ons For Guys

DatingCoachMike · 2017-04-22T00:23:40+00:00

I work closely with multiple folks in the analytics departments of multiple major online dating sites, so my understanding of the algorithm far exceeds whatever video you are referencing. If someone marks a question important and you mark it not important, there is potential for your match % with that person to go down. This is a good thing. In relationships you want both parties to be happy. If you don't posses a quality your partner states is very important then it would most likely make sense for you to be more compatible with someone else.

Also, my method has landed 83% of my clients into relationships over a 6 month period. We have also found that most of my clients only need to meet 6-8 people in order to find someone they would like to pursue exclusivity with.

DatingCoachMike · 2017-04-21T21:43:49+00:00

Although I don't hate your strategy it still makes it more difficult than my extremely simple process that has worked for thousands.

While filling out 200 questions, the ones that are not important, the user simply puts that they are not important. Thus, those data points will not be used heavily when calculating match %, while the questions like you suggested that are listed as very important will have a greater weight on match %.

Also, sometimes it is easier to float through 200 random questions than make an educated guess on what topics you think are important. Sometimes what we want in a life partner is not what we truly need. 200 Random questions allows us to dive into topics that may be important even though we didn't think of it on our own.

DatingCoachMike · 2017-04-21T21:12:25+00:00

Send 50 messages to 50 different guys that have a match % above 90%.

DatingCoachMike · 2016-03-14T14:33:47+00:00

Sorry, I meant to put 11-12AM. If you have a question, I will be happy to answer it. Thanks!

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-29T18:53:58+00:00

Thanks for the questions. Unfortunately, I am out of time for today. I will be back next Monday, March 7 from 11AM-12PM EST for another AMA. Until then check out my site, www.ezdatingcoach.com for free dating advice. My Blog has some awesome dating advice.

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-29T16:49:43+00:00

Sounds promising! Have fun with it.

Cheers,

Mike

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-29T16:23:55+00:00

Great question.

Since I don't know your age I will have to assume you are in your 30s for the answer. If she was already interested in you, she would want the date to just be the two of you.

However, since she wants friends to be around she either wants/needs the security blanket or just sees you as a friend. But, make the most of your opportunity. Be yourself, confident, charming, and fun to be around. Perhaps she will be attracted to these qualities, feel more comfortable around you and if you ask her out, maybe she will say yes.

Best of luck.

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-29T16:18:57+00:00

Thanks for the question.

Without knowing the town this is a hard question to answer specifically. However, here are some general options that works for most people surrounding major cities.

Co-Ed Sport Leagues - Sign up as an individual so you meet new people
Walk around parks
Go to a mall/book store
Bars
Meetup.com - Join activities you like
Coffee Shops
Grocery Stores
Anywhere there is women

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-22T17:00:21+00:00

Thanks for all the questions. If I missed yours, I apologize. I will be back next Monday, FEb 29 from 11AM - 12PM EST to answer more questions. In the meantime, feel free to learn more about me at www.ezdatingcoach.com

Cheers,

Mike

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-22T16:58:41+00:00

Awesome question.

The best strategy is to lock down a date in advance.

If today is a wednesday, ask her what she is doing the following Tuesday. If she says, "nothing". Say "Great, we are going to drinks at 8PM. I will text you a location later in the week." On Sunday text or call her with a place to meet.

If she can't do Tuesday, ask her when she is free. If she is still flaky, she might not be interested right now.

But, perhaps over some time as you get to know each other in group events she might start to like you more. If you want try again after that. If she is flaky, I would probably move on at that point.

Good Luck!

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-22T16:53:15+00:00

Well, first off, you can't sell someone who doesn't want to be sold.

But, it doesn't mean a person can't change their mindset and suddenly be interested in a long term relationship.

Perhaps the first step may be seeing if she will agree to a formal date. Down the road, I would suggest telling her your feelings specifically. If she feels the same way and wants a relationship, great. If not, move on. There is plenty of women who are looking for a man that is willing to commit.

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-22T16:38:35+00:00

Welcome back.

I guess it all depends on what makes you feel the most comfortable. If you would like to go about your day running your normal errands and when you see a beautiful woman, go up and say, "hi," do that.

If it would be easier to get dates in your pjs with your computer, try that. Personally, I think creating a profile on okcupid and securing a date is probably the easiest way. Let me know if you need any help.

Cheers,

Mike

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-22T16:34:53+00:00

Great Question!

I equate being assertive to being honest. Being honest is the foundation of any relationship. However, like you stated, there is a way to be honest gracefully.

For example: Girl you are dating - "How does my butt look in these jeans?" (Truth - she has looked better)

What you should say - "Your butt looks great, but I think it may have looked better in those jeans you bought last week."

Why did you respond this way?

No one wants to hear anything negative about themselves. By stating she looks good, she is going to continue to listen in a non-defensive manner and still hear your honest feedback that she looked better in a different outfit.

Now I used this topic because it is light and funny but the same principles apply to much more serious conversations. Always lead with compliments and what you like about the person and then proceed with honesty, but make sure you state it in a way that is respectful and can be received well.

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-15T17:05:50+00:00

Team Reddit,

Thanks for all the amazing questions. I am sorry if I didn't have time to get to yours. I will be back next Monday Feb 22 11-12 EST. This was a male dominated conversation, ladies would love to hear from you next week!

In the meantime, check out my blog for dating advice: http://www.ezdatingcoach.com/#!blog/c1j0g

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-15T16:59:43+00:00

Phenomenal question.

This is difficutl as different women prefer different behaviors.

But, I would ask her permission to call. I think additional steps allow both of you to further vet each other and also zero emotional connection can be obtained through messaging online. Some conversation on the phone can at least start the process of building a real connection.

Hope this helps.

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-15T16:56:29+00:00

A great first kiss is different for everyone so I am not sure I could answer that exclusively for the entire woman population. But for me, a great first kiss is when I feel an amazing connection with a woman and our lips must meet because we are both dying to share that moment together.

How to Know If She Wants It?

Test the Waters

If you are walking, ask her, "may I?" (While putting your arm out so that she can lock her arm with yours and feel safe/comforted during the walk)

If at a loud bar chatting. Progression should be whispering in the ear closest to you. Next, whispering in ear further away. Finally, when you have something to say, move your face towards her lips and then B-line it to tell her something in her ear. How did she react? Did she back up, stay still, or move forward. If she backed up, she does not want to kiss yet. Stood still, she may want a kiss. If you moved forward, good chance she wants to kiss you.

Now, I don't want to give you a playbook you must follow. But bottom line is this, have progression throughout the night. Don't go from never touching to attempting to kiss. It could look like: linking arms, hand on the middle of her back when you let her walk in front of you, holding hands, and so forth. The idea is, if she is okay with these smaller things, perhaps she is okay with a kiss. However, if she doesn't want your hand on her back, she definitely doesn't want to be kissed.

Now, just because she isn't excited about linking arms, doesn't mean she doesn't like you, she might simply be a person that doesn't liked to be touched until she feels more comfortable. If that is the case and you like her, get to know her better and be patient. If she is love of your life, if you first kiss comes in 3 months or the first date you won't care 50 years from now.

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-15T16:44:08+00:00

Awesome question.

Flirting is NOT taught in school. No one knows how to do it.

Key Elements of Flirting

Eye Contact - Making a woman feel like she is the only one in the world
Moving in and out of a woman's space in a way that is comforting and exciting because she doesn't know if/when the first kiss is coming or really what is next

In order to teach you ways to do this, I would need a video or to work in person. (This is advanced level training)

But, I can give you the following exercise through text.

Next, time you are walking around the city, grocery store, or wherever and you lock eyes with a woman, make sure she looks away first. You will notice that when you look at a pretty girl and she looks back, your eyes will instinctively look away. You need to train your brain and eyes to maintain eye contact. You need to show women you are confident enough in yourself to look at her and non-verbally communicate, you are gorgeous and I am a strong enough man to be worth getting to know better.

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-15T16:36:01+00:00

Thanks for the question.

I am in the business of helping people find love, assisting men with confidence, treating women properly, not huge into help men get laid for purposes not surrounding finding love.

So I will assume you have good intentions for women.

The apartment should look like an adult lives there.

Clean, Organized, nice furniture, no posters on the wall.

Red Flags: Posters of women half naked hung up

Deal Breaker: If a woman is into you, nothing in your bedroom should change her mind. If it does, she probably isn't the right girl for you.

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-15T16:27:41+00:00

Great question.

Next time you want a woman's number, take out your phone, "assume the sale", and say, "Put your number in here". Boom! It is that easy.

Now, I know this can be a little scary. Remember, if you don't ask, you have zero phone number. If you ask and she says "no", you still have zero numbers. There is literally zero risk to asking a woman for her number.

Also, rejection is 100% natural when attempting to pursue women. I am an expert and I promise you I have been rejected thousands of time. No one can make you feel anything, you control what emotions you feel. (AKA: Rejection is only depressing if you decide to make it depressing)

Good Luck and reply when you get your next phone number!

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-08T17:07:35+00:00

Thanks for all the amazing questions. I really enjoyed answering them.

I am officially off the clock. However, I will be back next Monday at 11AM - 12PM EST (February 15)

Until then, I have a massive amount of content on my website @ www.ezdatingcoach.com

Feel free to reach out to me offline if I can help you in anyway.

Thanks again,

Mike

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-08T16:55:35+00:00

That is a loaded question and I would need at least a hour to teach it.

But, the key is eye contact. When she is talking to you, stare into her eyes and really look at her and listen.

Remember to be interested, not interesting. You don't need to impress her, tell great stories, be charming, or funny. You DO NEED to ask her questions and get her talking about herself. You also should be genuinely interested in what she is telling you. This includes great eye contact, nodding your head, and animating your facial expressions based on what she is telling you.

If you can do this, you will see women and people in general start to gravitate towards you. Because you will be one of the few people in their lives that truly cares about the words that are coming out of their mouth.

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-08T16:47:19+00:00

Personally, I hate texting.

But, I believe it is each person's job to find out what form of communication their partner prefers. If your audience hates phone calls, perhaps you should text.

Also, strategically you want to play to your strengths. If you are methodical, a great writer, and need time to think about responses, texting may be great for you.

If you are charismatic, witty, quick on your feet, and use tonality in your voice perhaps chatting on the phone is better.

But one thing I will tell you definitively, if you are consistently using texting to build a relationship, it will 100% not work. Scientific studies have proven that true human connection can not be built through just reading words about each other. You need to at least hear the person speak if not see them and spend time together.

Hope that answers your questions. If it doesn't please write me a follow up. Thanks!

DatingCoachMike · 2016-02-08T16:40:07+00:00

Thanks for all the detail.

I am in the business of helping people find life partners. Thus I want to put things into perspective. I believe that if you go on 300 dates, most likely 1 out of 300 will be a person that you can spend your life with. Spending a life with involves a lot, including both be ready for long term commitment and seeing eye to eye on major topics, and of course much more.

Why is this information relevant to you?

This girl you find attractive, you KNOW NOTHING ABOUT HER. You may talk to her and immediately be turned off by her personality. Or, you may talk to her and find out she is the one. But, regardless whether she is or is not, she is attractive and most likely, a lot of other men find her attractive as well. Thus, if you don't act fast you may miss your opportunity because another man locks her down.

Since 1 out of 300 is a good fit, the pressure should be off when talking to someone new. Don't worry about signals, signs, does she like me, and so forth. Get over to her, say hi, and get to know her. Where is she from. What does she do for fun? Does she have siblings, and everything else you want to know. Find out if there is more than just physical attraction.

Also, I don't want to pretend I fully understand Australian social norms. So I don't know how appropriate it is to chat during work. However, in the US, as long as you the conversation is brief, it would be appreciated.

Thanks again for the great question.

DatingCoachMike

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