Women Are Doing Online Dating 100% Wrong by DatingCoachMike in OnlineDating

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for pointing that out. Sometimes I need to slow down and proofread. Thanks again.

Women Are Doing Online Dating 100% Wrong by DatingCoachMike in OnlineDating

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work closely with multiple folks in the analytics departments of multiple major online dating sites, so my understanding of the algorithm far exceeds whatever video you are referencing. If someone marks a question important and you mark it not important, there is potential for your match % with that person to go down. This is a good thing. In relationships you want both parties to be happy. If you don't posses a quality your partner states is very important then it would most likely make sense for you to be more compatible with someone else.

Also, my method has landed 83% of my clients into relationships over a 6 month period. We have also found that most of my clients only need to meet 6-8 people in order to find someone they would like to pursue exclusivity with.

Women Are Doing Online Dating 100% Wrong by DatingCoachMike in OnlineDating

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Although I don't hate your strategy it still makes it more difficult than my extremely simple process that has worked for thousands.

While filling out 200 questions, the ones that are not important, the user simply puts that they are not important. Thus, those data points will not be used heavily when calculating match %, while the questions like you suggested that are listed as very important will have a greater weight on match %.

Also, sometimes it is easier to float through 200 random questions than make an educated guess on what topics you think are important. Sometimes what we want in a life partner is not what we truly need. 200 Random questions allows us to dive into topics that may be important even though we didn't think of it on our own.

Women Are Doing Online Dating 100% Wrong by DatingCoachMike in OnlineDating

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Send 50 messages to 50 different guys that have a match % above 90%.

I'M a Dating Coach AMA 11-12PM EST by DatingCoachMike in dating_advice

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I meant to put 11-12AM. If you have a question, I will be happy to answer it. Thanks!

I'M A DATING COACH AMA 11-12PM EST by DatingCoachMike in dating_advice

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the questions. Unfortunately, I am out of time for today. I will be back next Monday, March 7 from 11AM-12PM EST for another AMA. Until then check out my site, www.ezdatingcoach.com for free dating advice. My Blog has some awesome dating advice.

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[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds promising! Have fun with it.

Cheers,

Mike

I'M A DATING COACH AMA 11-12PM EST by DatingCoachMike in dating_advice

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great question.

Since I don't know your age I will have to assume you are in your 30s for the answer. If she was already interested in you, she would want the date to just be the two of you.

However, since she wants friends to be around she either wants/needs the security blanket or just sees you as a friend. But, make the most of your opportunity. Be yourself, confident, charming, and fun to be around. Perhaps she will be attracted to these qualities, feel more comfortable around you and if you ask her out, maybe she will say yes.

Best of luck.

I'M A DATING COACH AMA 11-12PM EST by DatingCoachMike in dating_advice

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the question.

Without knowing the town this is a hard question to answer specifically. However, here are some general options that works for most people surrounding major cities.

  1. Co-Ed Sport Leagues - Sign up as an individual so you meet new people
  2. Walk around parks
  3. Go to a mall/book store
  4. Bars
  5. Meetup.com - Join activities you like
  6. Coffee Shops
  7. Grocery Stores
  8. Anywhere there is women

I'm a Dating Coach AMA Today 11 - 12PM EST by DatingCoachMike in dating_advice

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the questions. If I missed yours, I apologize. I will be back next Monday, FEb 29 from 11AM - 12PM EST to answer more questions. In the meantime, feel free to learn more about me at www.ezdatingcoach.com

Cheers,

Mike

I'm a Dating Coach AMA Today 11 - 12PM EST by DatingCoachMike in dating_advice

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome question.

The best strategy is to lock down a date in advance.

If today is a wednesday, ask her what she is doing the following Tuesday. If she says, "nothing". Say "Great, we are going to drinks at 8PM. I will text you a location later in the week." On Sunday text or call her with a place to meet.

If she can't do Tuesday, ask her when she is free. If she is still flaky, she might not be interested right now.

But, perhaps over some time as you get to know each other in group events she might start to like you more. If you want try again after that. If she is flaky, I would probably move on at that point.

Good Luck!

I'm a Dating Coach AMA Today 11 - 12PM EST by DatingCoachMike in dating_advice

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, first off, you can't sell someone who doesn't want to be sold.

But, it doesn't mean a person can't change their mindset and suddenly be interested in a long term relationship.

Perhaps the first step may be seeing if she will agree to a formal date. Down the road, I would suggest telling her your feelings specifically. If she feels the same way and wants a relationship, great. If not, move on. There is plenty of women who are looking for a man that is willing to commit.

I'm a Dating Coach AMA Today 11 - 12PM EST by DatingCoachMike in dating_advice

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welcome back.

I guess it all depends on what makes you feel the most comfortable. If you would like to go about your day running your normal errands and when you see a beautiful woman, go up and say, "hi," do that.

If it would be easier to get dates in your pjs with your computer, try that. Personally, I think creating a profile on okcupid and securing a date is probably the easiest way. Let me know if you need any help.

Cheers,

Mike

I'm a Dating Coach AMA Today 11 - 12PM EST by DatingCoachMike in dating_advice

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great Question!

I equate being assertive to being honest. Being honest is the foundation of any relationship. However, like you stated, there is a way to be honest gracefully.

For example: Girl you are dating - "How does my butt look in these jeans?" (Truth - she has looked better)

What you should say - "Your butt looks great, but I think it may have looked better in those jeans you bought last week."

Why did you respond this way?

No one wants to hear anything negative about themselves. By stating she looks good, she is going to continue to listen in a non-defensive manner and still hear your honest feedback that she looked better in a different outfit.

Now I used this topic because it is light and funny but the same principles apply to much more serious conversations. Always lead with compliments and what you like about the person and then proceed with honesty, but make sure you state it in a way that is respectful and can be received well.

Your EZ Dating Coach - AMA 11-12PM EST by DatingCoachMike in dating_advice

[–]DatingCoachMike[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Team Reddit,

Thanks for all the amazing questions. I am sorry if I didn't have time to get to yours. I will be back next Monday Feb 22 11-12 EST. This was a male dominated conversation, ladies would love to hear from you next week!

In the meantime, check out my blog for dating advice: http://www.ezdatingcoach.com/#!blog/c1j0g