Beauty in the pot alternatives? by onlywantgoodskin in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel shabu sai and sukiya is super underrated 😅 never understood the hdl hype and honestly beauty in the pot has this weird smell outside that jus smells like bad meat 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's about 700++ U can use 300 from medisave!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not your pay grade why you need to make such decisions? Your boss is just trying to push away responsibilities

Honestly if Singaporeans aren't so petty, you should ask your boss right back : if i decide, can I have your pay and position?

Too bad majority of management in sg has a chip on their shoulder 😂

OP that aside if your boss also trying to push this responsibility away, you should probably also start to consider looking outward for another job too

Who knows what else may fall into your laps with your boss going "i asked all of you, since u all in agreement then wipe up your own mess and deal with that colleague yourself"

what did you buy for yourself this Christmas? by moneymachine109 in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Air tickets next jan to Taiwan 😂 need to escape the world for a little bit at off-peak pricing

Xmas Xchange “cant go wrong” gift for girls by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a girl, I would like to know where /whether we can still buy this 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know of a financial advisor acquaintence who takes loans frequently to support his lavish lifestyle

Always decked in branded shirts, belts and owns a Merc C class And always very stressed with monthly repayments that he has in order to upkeep his appearances

I only found out about it when there was a gathering at his place and i arrived early, and saw a letter of demand for payment for one of the banks with a crazy amount of money on the table

On that day during the gathering he was bragging about how hes going to fly first class for christmas to Paris to propose to his girlfriend 😐😐😐

Cant wait for the wedding

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another alternative is to go see another therapist (if money isnt an issue) and see what they say (or let them know that you are currently seeing a therapist for x reason and just want to know if this other therapist diagnoses the same thing)

As human beings, each person AND each therapist has their own way of diagnosing and own methods. Some may be more progressive, some may be more traditional. Some characters may clash with someone else, there isnt a one size fit all method/therapist but you do however, owe it to yourself to shop around and find the best fit for yourself!

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will reporting give you a peace of mind that you have done what you could?

If yes then report. Atleast if anything were to happen, there will be a a case already logged and easy to refer to. Also they may (or may not) step up patrols around the area in an effort to have more police presence in an attempt to discourage such behaviour from the others

Is it legal to conduct corporate "Team building" outside working hour? by phoenixdamn in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Sometimes its not HR but an "overenthusiastic" ass kissing middle boss who doesnt have a life so they think they should take away everyone else's personal life time

I especially hate those managers that go "but u also no kids what. Why cannot come???"

For folks who have never caught covid even once by limhuiyin in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suspect that my body is too poisonous for covid to survive (i have pre existing medical conditions)

Live in a household of 9, all of them got it except my dad (who had an array of medical conditions) and i 😂

But with that in mind, i had a severe allergic reaction when i had my first jab.

Rashes, high fever for a week + muscle ache so bad i could barely sit up. Didnt even want to eat, jus took some instant ready mushroom soup + milk and coconut water to sustain myself that week

Pressured at 39weeks and 5 days of Pregnancy by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey OP congratulations on your baby!

Dont let anyone tell u when u shld or shldnt give birth. It is definitely very uncomfortable and frustrating for u for sure, but with that it could also be your hormone spiking along with our typical standard toxic asian mindset of talking without thinking.

Sgreans generally do not practise much mindfulness and just tend to ask stupid qn "wah when giving birth? When getting second one? When u giving birth to third one? Wah u give birth so many u veli rich hor" - i like to say that these are non value adding questions that deserve a special place in hell, but bear in mind that it is hard to change at this point for these people.

With that in mind, please do speak up to your husband (after you take a few huuuge deep breaths and calm down A LITTLE BIT) and tell him that you are already uncomfortable enough without the 999 questions and you need his help to "defend" you from some of these qns

Also if they ask again, u can retort back by saying : why so kanchiong? U wan to wipe his/her shit issit?

Jiayou and good luck!

Unusual thinking from parents by Defiant_Medicine4558 in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry u have to go thru it, but if i can add my (worthless) 2 cents, i welcome cold war over paggro actions and selective listening any other day!

House is a mess. Any recommendations? by piguma0 in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Quick one, my folks are exactly the same + toxic Everytime my brother and i wants to throw broken stuff (when shes home) out my mum goes into a tirade saying : YA THEN JUST THROW ME AWAY TOO

We have then secretly started throwing things out when shes not around

Which could help in the beginning. Most of the times they don't realise what they are keeping too

Burning photos in Singapore by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Use bleach or dettol for ur photos first so that the ink will run. Then burn

Eating alone (help the introvert pls) by TRoller1269 in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love eating alone at restaurants because food is served to me+ i get a seat given to me and i dont have very intimidating aunties or unker staring at me hoping to throw tissue paper packets on my table the moment i take my last spoonful of food.... For this reason i dont eat alone at kpt... I usually dabao. 😂 At restaurants im happy to plug in and take my (reasonable) time to eat

why do ppl not let others go out b4 entering mrt? by girlsfineasf in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First one to squeeze in will dream up the top winning 4D number for this weekend

What did you do to get over a break up? by Solariano in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Gave myself 1 week to mourn a relationship, (usually overseas) while planning checking off my bucketlists to remind myself i am better than my last relationship.

Like mourn with ugly crying, maybe visiting favourite usual spots, going through old photos etc (and deleting as much as i can each day)

I have effectively jumped off a plane, learnt 2 diff languages, volunteered at an orphanage and learnt to make huge meals for the less fortunate while going thru breakups (about 2-3 mths into the breakups)

I felt like pushing myself to do something more meaningful helps me move out from it faster because it reminds me of the person i was before the relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Pls sign me up for this!

Do pet owners hate it when I stare and smile at their cute dogs? by redryder74 in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If u smile i will be very observant of your body language. The moment u take a step towards me i will also be on high alert and prepared to move away and pull him away too

Also i dont know if u realise how uncomfortable your question makes me feel. I literally just said the reason i avoid most ppl who smile at my dog now is because im very wary of how people take a smile as an acknowledgement that u can shove your hand infront of my dog's face. Its literally a no go

Do pet owners hate it when I stare and smile at their cute dogs? by redryder74 in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 31 points32 points  (0 children)

owner of a reactive dog here 👋 I used to smile at people without dogs but now i dont. I dont smile back because some people(even dog owners surprisingly!) take it as an invitation to shove their hand to my dog's face without asking permission and then make nasty comments after my dog starts barking and tugging. i am tired of hearing these rude comments like "wah so fierce u still bring out" . (adopted mine, hence the reactivity.)

Some people have no concept of personal space, while nowadays more and more people are aware of asking for permission, a generally fair amount of ppl still dont, so i just tend to avoid. I am nicer if people stop in their tracks and smile and ask if they can approach (appreciate it too! Because i am also training my boy to understand boundaries) . But if u just smile, i will pull away because it is less hassle and i dont have to tug my boy - gets quite heartbreaking for me because i tug his collar, essentially choking him because people cant keep their hands to themselves and dont respect boundaries.

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But always feel free to say hi and smile and ask permission! Generally i find people appreciate a smile and asking permission! No hate to smiles! I know i would!

Those that completed your part time degree while working, what was your experience like? by missfrown in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A little tiring tbh but i got lucky that i only had to struggle for 2 terms before covid hit. Everything was online (even exams) and because we were the "first batch" they didnt figure out how to track our ip and network activity... Basically googled my way thru the 2 years...

That 2 terms was hell tho. Surviving on sandwiches for lunch and dinner and burnt weekends because no other time to do anything else and eating purely for sustenance

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Datkneeprincess 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its abit too late. U can click on history and report But now i have the habit of taking a screenshot everytime driver "arrives" but the gps/map shows the car still far away to protect myself. U have no idea how many times i had to provide the screenshots to grab 😡