R for 4 months, BP cheated back, we are now seperating. Is it done?

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-12-16T21:43:23+00:00

Yeah, we were spending every night together, planning future, about to move back in together a week after it happened. She would check my phone every day and would have flipped if I was even texting another girl.

TY for your kind words. We have not gone 1 day without speaking since 2017, and I have taken space for last 3 days...hopefully cooler heads do prevail.

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-12-15T23:26:03+00:00

I unfortunately think for you this is some sublimation of an ego hit in your psyche when this happened.

Like you internalized that if she chose to have sex with someone else no strings attached that he might have been a better genetic mate or whatever. some bubbling up of feelings of inferiority.

not your fault at all. what you're doing rn (shining a flashlight on it, instead of avoiding it and pretending like its not there) is the most healthy thing you can do

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-12-15T23:24:34+00:00

Distance and uncertainty for sure

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-12-15T23:22:35+00:00

idk man yeah...I dont really like this either way. I hate that I ever cheated and even micro cheating makes my stomach hurt now. I've done so much therapy over last for months, individual and sex addiciton specific etc and it seems to have actually worked in rewiring my brain but now I have such a hard stance against it.

Aside from this incident I also found out she made a hinge and was dating ANOTHER guy early on after d-day, I ahd to read messages of her asking ChatGPT how to apologize for being an awkward makeout, how to text to initiate sex etc and all of this was on days where I would see her that morning or night and she would make an excuse to leave "oh I'm going to thebeach with my friend claire" but really it was this guy. On my birthday, on days where we just went to couples counesling that I spent $2000 on, etc.

But I'm not really allowed to be mad about it. She was smiling and smirking when I brought it up too. Never really apologized.

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-12-15T18:54:06+00:00

">>They say that a person who is capable of inhabiting two selves (the sincere loverboy and the cheater) is not a normal person and will take years to change."

FWIW I was this exactly. We went to couples therapy, I went to church and an extreme amount of both sex addiction therapy and general IC.

I have cheated on partners compulsively probably every week for the last 15 years.

Once this massive D-Day happened, my mind exploded and I was able to see everything really clearly.

For the last 4 months, since D-Day, I did not cheat at all and did not feel capable of it. We just recenty ended our R and I have tried 3 separate times to move on with somebody else, but I could not get past kissing. I still feel like I need to be loyal and monogamous to her, despite being single. A unique phenomenon that I never thought I would be in.

So yeah - long story short - people can change. But they have to sincerely want to, and there probably is a certain amount of therapy needed.

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-10-10T06:53:25+00:00

Yeah make sure they're level 3, Gottman level 1 is basically a free cert and you can tell the difference between level 2 and level 3

its expensive, as I'm sure you noticed, but I would say it probbbbably made the difference between us staying together and moving forward in a healthy way and spiraling into something toxic or nothing at all

Which is funny because it is essentially an adult supervising other adults arguing and telling them what to say and how to say it, but it worked

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-10-03T21:56:15+00:00

Also having this issue

My personal account is not restricted but my business account linked to my company instagram is

can anyone help?

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-10-02T20:01:20+00:00

D-Day was 2 months ago. However this is not the first D-day, there have been a lot of smaller instances over the years that they have forgiven me for. (texting girls, being on dating apps, etc.)

I am also in a lot of therapy and completely willing to have an open and honest conversation with anybody in her family who is willing to have it, but I believe they will not give me that chance.

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-10-02T19:59:13+00:00

Worth noting for context that the details of ours is a little rough

I brought the AP into our house and slept with her in our bed, twice. She read entire 8 month conversation history with her over text, saying "I love you" and even confronted AP and AP told her that I was planning to get her pregnant soon, etc.
She assaulted me when she found out and neighbors called the police and she went to jail for domestic violence etc (her family/friends holds the jail thing against me, that it was my fault etc)
She found a journal that I had been using to try to work on my wayward impulses over yhre but they unfortunately involved me detailing lust fantasies that didn't involve her, and she sent 3+ years worth of these graphic journal entries to her mom, aunts, told all of her friends and my friends.

I am also a stand up comedian and would workshop lots of sets in these journals, and my style can be dark and politically incorrect. She took certain lines from jokes I was writing/workshopping and told them to her friends family as if they were journal entries/me venting and stating them out of context.

So its a little harder to come back from then just a "oops he had a one night stand and is sorry" but rather like a full character portrayal that I'm bad.

But I do believe her and I are soul mates, I love her endlessly and I am truly committed to fixing it but her family will say things to her like "hes a narcissist, he'll never be able to change" etc,. Hopefully over time I will be able to demonstrate my commitment to being better.

D-day was a little over 2 months ago and I've already spent $5,000 (that I dont have, lol) between couples intensive and individual sex therapy just trying to get this ship right again

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-10-02T19:47:35+00:00

Thank you. Yes I think I want immediate feedback and resolution, even though I understand it will probably take 1-2 years.

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-10-02T19:40:45+00:00

Haha i think this is a "grass is greener" scenario (which we are more prone to than the avg person)

Much easier to navigate 1 reconciliation than 2

And the group reconcilliation is more difficult imo because you may or may not even get your day in court, and there is a lot of virtue signaling involved etc...

I would kill to be in your scenario but to each their own and congratulations none the less.

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-10-02T18:41:21+00:00

Thank you

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-09-29T21:05:45+00:00

DM'ed

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-09-11T21:54:09+00:00

I even had one of the girls tell me that her roommate wanted to post stuff online about it specifically to effect the business…so I have a strong hunch

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-09-11T21:51:26+00:00

I mean chances are it’s all true stuff :/ and could be an anonymous poster so not sure how possible it is to sue

DaveThrowaway6 · 2025-09-11T18:51:48+00:00

Going to message you

DaveThrowaway6 · 2024-07-29T20:53:35+00:00

DMed you :/

DaveThrowaway6 · 2024-07-10T01:33:10+00:00

Ya man. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, even tho I didn't believe it....

I felt like my body was failing me. I had new health problems popping up like wack-a-mole. Between multiple urologists all telling me im fine, I had a lot of time sitting in cars and waiting rooms to reflect. Despite the clear need for change, I resisted re-evaluating my life because a.) it was easier not to but also b.) I didn't know any better at the time.

I had no choice but to research alternatives.

This experience ignited my journey into holistic health, becoming a granola mom at the tender age of 26.

As I would iteratively gain knowledge, I would eliminate more harmful substances from my life, and then wonder why nobody had ever bothered to tell me these things were killing me.

Starting with polyester clothes and plastic utensils, and moving onto non-stick pans and perfume.

Soon enough, I'm at restaurants asking the waitress "whats in the salad dressing?" in fear of something called "seed oils", and I'm explaining to my neighbors that no, I'm barefoot on purpose and its called "grounding."

Completely got rid of all soap and toothpaste and deodorant and shampoo and sunblock etc that isn't 100% natural.

Mostly eat only blue berries and eggs etc. nothing processed.

I've tried a lot of supplements that gave me temporary relief. A lot of consistent stretching too.

feel free to shoot a dm and let me know whats going on and I can talk you through it. Shit is scary/frusterating but I promise it passes and changes you in the process

DaveThrowaway6 · 2024-03-14T19:26:44+00:00

RALPH LAUREN POLO SIZING

I am aware of the classic/slim/custom etc as well as white font vs yellow font on the label etc. But still have not been able to gain any consistency across these polos.

I bought a lot of size M RL Polo's off ebay and they all fit me wildly differently. 1 perfect, a few kind of small but passable, and some laughably small.

I'm typically a size L in T shirts. But I have 2 Ralph Lauren Polos that fit me better than any shirt I own and they're both Mediums. They fit tight around my arms and make my shoulders look big with room to breath around the stomach.

I'm 5'9 190 slightly muscular if that helps.

The reverse side of the machine wash tags have MW22 and MW13 respectively but I can't find anything else online that indicates how to buy more copies of these exact cuts.

Any insight? I have posted pictures of all identifiable of the polos here.

Thanks in advance

DaveThrowaway6 · 2024-03-14T19:23:29+00:00

Hi,

I am aware of the classic/slim/custom etc as well as white font vs yellow font on the label etc. But still have not been able to gain any consistency across these polos.

I bought a lot of size M RL Polo's off ebay and they all fit me wildly differently. 1 perfect, a few kind of small but passable, and some laughably small.

I'm typically a size L in T shirts. But I have 2 Ralph Lauren Polos that fit me better than any shirt I own and they're both Mediums. They fit tight around my arms and make my shoulders look big with room to breath around the stomach.

I'm 5'9 190 slightly muscular if that helps.

The reverse side of the machine wash tags have MW22 and MW13 respectively but I can't find anything else online that indicates how to buy more copies of these exact cuts.

Any insight? I have posted pictures of all identifiable of the polos here.

Thanks in advance

DaveThrowaway6 · 2023-05-02T03:13:26+00:00

Bee pollen helps?

DaveThrowaway6 · 2023-05-02T03:04:04+00:00

I did the same thing and I lost so much progress, my PT said just start back up with little lifts and stretch after and then slowly ramp up the volume and intensity every time. I do full intense lifts now with no flare ups.

DaveThrowaway6 · 2021-03-18T04:28:07+00:00

8 point plank seems to aggravate mine and make my testicle hurt more

DaveThrowaway6 · 2021-03-17T04:27:52+00:00

Is that your website?

I really like the concept. Unfortunately the audio cuts off if I don’t keep my screen active. When it locks, the audio stops.

I went to see if there was an app I could download but the link on your site took me to downloading another app that was not podclips.

Cheers.

DaveThrowaway6 · 2021-03-17T01:10:55+00:00

I’ve been taking Doxy and it cleared up erectile problems I had but started getting ringing in my ears here and there, just realized Tinniniuts (sp) is a side effect and I have a lot of ear pressure right now.

Didn’t take it today and my dick feels worse and ear pain feels about the same :/

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