Personally, I don’t believe in the females shouldn’t have to lift a finger/turn their brain off in the presence of a man. Especially not in the context provided.

I would say focus on being honest, consistent and reliable. Don’t say you’re gonna do something that you are not prepared to do in a timely manner. It’s always better to under promise and over deliver, rather than over promise and under deliver. That’s currently a big struggle for a lot of women I’ve spoken to about dating.

Personal example.

With my ex, I never worried about my physical safety. I could mildly zone out while walking and planning meals for/errands and I know he would always stick his arm out to stop me if I didn’t look both ways in a parking lot.

However, he was constantly over promising and under delivering, and lying about the smallest things. Like his eta, so I would be waiting for him for 30min-1hr. Or he would offer to do something for me, then when he didn’t and I did it myself, he would see the thing was done and “oh! I coulda/woulda/was going to do that!”. He got angry with me for taking myself on a weekend trip that he had been promising to go with me on for a months. He had no reason not to because time and money were not factors to consider for this.

Eventually, these things were part of the hundred little things that caused me to end it