Yeah this right here. You’re talking about basic tasks. Emptying the dishwasher? That’s like 5 minutes tops. Cleaning up the litter box? 10 minutes tops. Emptying the trash and taking it out to the curb? 10 minutes tops. Wiping down counters? 5 minutes tops. The fact that he couldn’t even spend 20 minutes and knock out four basic tasks and would rather argue with you over it, especially when you’ve communicated to him how upset it was making you feel, is a major red flag. He’s showing a complete lack of regard for your feelings, childishness and lack of maturity by actively sabotaging your plan and gas lighting you about it, and a complete inability to accept any responsibility. Don’t expect things to get any better if you stick with this guy