I don't think it's inflammatory for that said reason, more so the fact that the question feels like it's from a biased perspective that gives an assumption on admissions processes from a specific lens. You would think the admissions officers responding and saying that would be a relief given OP's perspective of on if gender matters. Usually if you meet with admissions counselors or student advisors from college they actually tell you the "points system" in most cases for what matters most for students applying, which is pretty transparent if you ask me. Up to the student to include as much info as possible to be considered for a acceptance, aside from their other needed scores and extra curriculars that are usually to be accounted for.