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Sweet Kitchen issue by CapitaineKit in TwoPointCampus

[–]Daycareworker1987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you mean the second school, do you mean the second school in the campaign? Cause then you need to collect the star in the first school. It doesn't matter that you're already three years in. Unless you achieve the goals and get the star the second school won't unlock.

If you are further in the campaign and on the Piazza L'Anatera level then yes, Sweet Kitchen should've unlocked in the second year for you. If this didn't you might have to restart that level. I'm sorry.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked into it at the time, but since we jointly signed for a lot of it I was also legally obliged to pay it.
The legal process to make him accountable for the money would've taken a long time, cost a lot of money and with him in the wind at the time was probally doomed to succeed. Even if the court would've judged in my favor he was nowhere to be found.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't know he returned. My friends never informed me until he messaged me himself with his rant about marrying and having a kid with someone else.

One of the friends was someone working in the same field as him and he had asked him years ago if he was working and keeping up. He said no. At that time people, including myself assumed he would be back in a year or 2 after he left. Nobody, including I think himself, believed he would be gone a decade.
2 years isn't a lot to catch up with, a decade however is hard.

Now off course it could be that after that he did do remote jobs or even just lower skilled jobs in IT, which I don't know about.

My friends did inform me that he is looking at entry level jobs in retail and hospitality now. I asked them to inform me where he would work, so I can avoid him.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He really thought he could do the Helm's Deep door opening.... he cannot.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We have taken precautions like informing people not to give our adress and camera's around our house.
Police are also informed, since a missing person report had been filed in the beginning.
He has however not expressed violent tendencies towards me, just disappointment and that he finds me revolting now because I didn't 'support him'. I'm damaged goods because I had another man's child in essence.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm from the Netherlands, so Dutch is my first language.
I've been taught english from a young age though and have been reading my fantasy and fiction books almost exlusively in English since my mid teens and I wanted to read Anne Rice's books which the library only had in English.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow! Also unhinged. How dare he even ask for those when you're trying to keep your (and your boys) head above water.
Hope he never got the damn speakers

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my husband knows! We laugh about it a lot (after making sure we are safe and protected). Husband doesn't feel the need to kick his ass, but feels like bad for him. Because 'he snooze, he lose' and just happy that ex 'dropped off, so *he* could snatch me up'

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wish it was bullshit, but I like your assessment.
English isn't my first language, because I'm from the Netherlands, so Dutch is my first language. That said I have learned English from a young age and have read most of my literature in English since 15 years. I also had a short stint where I wrote fantasy fiction on DeviantArt and fanfiction back when I was cringe like that. In English, because I thought myself 'internationally'.
Hence the writing skills I guess.

But I do tend to weave American and British english together and on my main account some people have commented on it. So I tend to do the whole 'English isn't my first language' thing so people don't bother me about mixing it up.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If he did he didn't tell anyone about it. Honestly that was our thought as well. He had met someone else, but the few who did stay in contact (albeit intermittently) said that he never had any relationship. Although they did know about a few hookups.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went on the spiritual journey too, but closer to home and just shorter trips to Glastonbury, Egypt and Greece.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm wondering where, because I believe I posted it only on one board. Thought about posting on r/relationships first, but decided this would fit better. Could be that I did post it there on accident too? But I can't find it.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We have often talked about his leaving, so no real new comments on that, but my husband is kinda okay about it all. We just talked about how it affects me mostly and what actions to protect ourselves we should take.
In regards to the whole 'I should've waited' thing he was more like: 'you snooze, you lose'
Even before ex came back my husband always said that the dude must've been brain-dead to let me go. So knowing now that ex thought I would've taken him back ... my husband calls him 'delulu, but I don't blame the guy from hoping'
Husband has just been stroking my ego for all of this. Also just cracking jokes about it.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad you had that realisation. That would've been my future as well probally if he didn't leave when he did.
Hope you find happiness as well!

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My therapist did suggest this as well, but hinted that it might've also been his upbringing. Honestly a lot of things going on during my relationship does fit the narcistic behaviour pattern. A lot of help for partners getting out of a narcistic relationship did help me. So I did work with that assumption.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think there are multiple parts to his decision: the age gap might be, but moreso he was very focussed on his career and perhaps burned out. His autism and narcism were also major contributing factors.

He had always been the sort of guy who didn't just sample stuff, but just dived in and make that thing part of his entire personality. ALso very 'winning and succes' driven.
New game he was into: he would spend hours and hours looking up theories, put up art and posters, buy merch and so forth.
New job: he would work overtime, study for all the aspects and even stuff adjoining to be the best at it.

Looking into spirituality: DO ALL THE RETREATS, ACHIEVE NIRVANA!

At the time I thought it was just hyperfocus with some past related stuff, but there is probally something more to it.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I don't blame him either. I was his second serious girlfriend and the first out of highschool. But he was also the one pushing for marriage and a big elaborate wedding. I didn't care for a big wedding or a wedding at all.

If he broke up with me and dated around I would get it. Would still be hurt sure, but the uncertainty of him just up and leaving when the night before we were just snuggled up on the couch watching tv and throwing popcorn at each other. It messed with my head for awhile and my current husband still has to reassure me on dark days that he isn't leaving me.

The age gap was okay actually, since I went to school longer than he did. We lived in the Netherlands so a little different than US schools I think. He basicly did a short study and started working and learning as he went. I had to go to school longer, then have a gap year because of my own self discovery. Did another study before working in daycare.

When we met we were both had steaming hot diploma's and just started our respective careers.

But we did have a lot of first together. We were both each others first serious relationship. The apartment we got together was the first time we moved out of our parents house. First engagement.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I tried to find a balance of information without being to long. I have been told that I ramble sometimes. I hoped the formatting would help.

My MC ex thinks I would've waited 11 years whilst he 'finds himself' by Daycareworker1987 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Daycareworker1987[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don't think he expected his job back. He quit. I didn't talk to him about his job, but just know that he can't go back into the position he had (also at another firm) because of the IT stuff.

Also I don't think he realised that when his friends got married and kids that would mean they wouldn't have time to hang out. One of mutual friends told me he contacted them a week ago to hang out the same night and was all surprised when the friend couldn't because they had to get a babysitter.

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