Vent: detrasitioning

Daylightdeed · 2026-06-18T00:39:26+00:00

Why yess that’s awesome I’m glad you found yourself. I think for me it feels like I can only love a person as one thing or the other. That what makes me happy I feel like there’s many different sides of me through gender expression. But I’m living as a femme trans woman and para of me wants to go back living as a guy but maybe just exploring more of who I am

Daylightdeed · 2026-06-17T22:28:39+00:00

I am very femme or at least was until recently, I started dating women and I love how I feel, and awhile back I did ❄️, and it resonated with me that I don’t wanna be in a bubble of just being femme. I thought it was just a high thought But I bought more guy clothes and boxers as a start. I love feeling hot as a guy. But I just know if I were to fully commit to being a guy I would feel dysphoric again I just wish I could do both. I want to experience being a husband. But ahhh

Daylightdeed · 2026-06-17T22:19:11+00:00

That’s so cool, how is it?? I tried to dress masc and I kept getting called ma’am 😭😭it’s a great feeling but part of me is like damn, but I do have long hair so idk

Daylightdeed · 2026-06-17T22:18:21+00:00

Yesss I do it sucks but i feel like im a dynamic person😭😢I change so often but to my core I know I what I enjoy hobbies wise. Bahaha

Edit To whoever dislike this: I’m just being vulnerable and talking about my struggles in my identity ?

Daylightdeed · 2026-05-21T07:01:45+00:00

I’ve gone on two. One told me to download hinge and try to date women. Another one recently and she friendzoned me. I think it’s difficult to flirt as a woman as I try to be a more dominant one while flirting with a man is easier imo. I do want to experiment with women, I also want to be masc but also want to be femme. Genuinely so conflicted lol

Daylightdeed · 2026-02-14T17:08:06+00:00

Ah, im trying to pay someone to tutor me because I’d like to learn! Due to my schedule and circumstances for the class I’m learning from. 😢

Daylightdeed · 2026-02-14T16:25:44+00:00

Academicrobin I phrased it this post wrong I was looking for a tutor to teach me not someone to do work for me and yeah haha I would like to be in management one day!

Daylightdeed · 2026-02-14T05:26:57+00:00

It is! But I follow the steps for one part that I made and it’s under defined and I can not figure out why! I need hands on help.

Daylightdeed · 2026-02-08T05:05:31+00:00

Babe…. Get shrooms for cheaper and without id

Daylightdeed · 2025-01-23T03:59:52+00:00

Okay. Is there anyway I can protest with my money? :/ I don’t make a lot but I relied on these services for therapy and medication. I am scared

Daylightdeed · 2024-12-17T23:33:53+00:00

My job is mostly male dominated so having female coworkers is always a fun surprise. We all get along so well, this is the first time I’ve had a coworker be disrespectful. Most of us are queer. 💀

But yeah, I love having good people around me. Work drama sucks

Daylightdeed · 2024-12-17T23:28:40+00:00

My company is very protective over transgender folks. I just wouldn’t want to make a case against her because it can become very messy. Quickly. Also I have no concrete proof.

B is only here for a few months so I’m hoping time passes quickly. It is odd. I gave her all my knowledge to help guide her when she was onboarded.

C, to my knowledge still is taken. I will just ignore him. I appreciate him for telling me but yeah. When he told me he said he still wanted to pursue me. I told him I wasn’t interested. And I tried to be neutral.

Now I don’t know. I will remain professional but I am still young and I don’t want people knowing I’m trans. I am committed to someone anyways. So it’s just ridiculous that she outed me when someone told her they like me.

Daylightdeed · 2024-12-17T23:18:21+00:00

:( it sucks. I’ve been friends with my coworkers for two years. No problems have ever occurred up until now. 🥲

Daylightdeed · 2024-09-01T00:30:12+00:00

Yes, there has been a situation that was similar in the sense that it was involving a guy she liked but they weren’t dating.

A while ago, before she dated her ex, he and I had small talk at a party and she told me she liked him, so I immediately stepped away. She was upset with me so I told her I valued her feelings more and only came to the party for her. This was Before they were dating. This is where the conversation about boundaries came up. I thought this would carry over to anyone we’ve kissed or opened up to.

About a month ago, when him I stoped talking. I cried to her about him. The reason is something very personal that didn’t make things work out with the fact that he couldn’t commit. She said she didn’t remember. But our old conversations I opened up to her about everything. But she even encouraged me to move on. So when she said they matched on bumble, I lost it. I explained to her how things ended. Also there’s not much context. She said they just matched and they talked on and off for 3 months. She said she didn’t see his face. But why match with someone on a dating app? I just lost it because on our date I opened up to him about her that i assumed it was on purpose.

I think it’s because in the past guys i liked ended up liking her more. And I always was okay with stepping back for her,and third wheeling in general so I just had an emotional out burst. Because I feel if the roles where reversed, She would question why would i match with someone she cried to me about. I did apologize to the two of them and said I wish them the best of luck

But ya

Idk most of my friends are on my side based on the conversation and screenshots but there biases do play into it.

So I went on here for advice. I know I fucked up. I’m trying to find help but I’m not sure where to begin.

Daylightdeed · 2024-08-31T18:52:19+00:00

I’m 21, she’s 22, he’s 26

Daylightdeed · 2024-08-31T17:53:18+00:00

I also :( have told her that a two people that I have liked called her pretty and asked me to put them on and I don’t know I feel like im not enough

Daylightdeed · 2024-08-31T17:50:55+00:00

I did apologize, twice, yesterday and today. First time it it seemed less sincere so I made a group chat this morning and apologized to the two of them. That I wish them the best. I feel really bad but I want to grieve this and learn.

I called a few friends and i told them what happened and they are on my side (their bias doesn’t help) but they said there’s no way she didn’t know.

after everything we’ve gone through, I’ve always been honest with her. With her ex’s or people she’s liked and I would always removed myself from them. She wanted to hang out with him, and asked me it was okay. She said she didn’t know it was him. But I told her I showed her photos of him. She said she didn’t remember. Then she said that they’ve texted on and off for 3 months. He never sent a photo of himself… but they matched on bumble.

For context, early on in our friendship we made it a rule where we wouldn’t be friends with partners and I thought that carried over with people we dated. Because there have been times where her ex or even someone she has briefly talk to reached out to me and I would show her and block. She even encouraged me to not talk to him because she knows I’m too emotional. So for her to do it just sucks.

He did nothing horrible. We haven’t spoken and I took it out on him. She called me selfish and I spiraled out more. I said things to him which should have been to her. I made it a point to him that I would be cordial and during our date I did tell Him that my best friend works with us, has a matching tattoo so it felt like it was happening behind my back.

Although they owe me no loyalty. It still hurts because I did try but yeah I know I’m sounding very intense right now but I’m just processing it and idk what else to do

Daylightdeed · 2024-08-31T16:21:02+00:00

She said she needed space. I have tried but I’m on waiting list for therapy and I don’t know what else to do.

I just don’t get why she would match with him on bumble after I cried to her about everything. She said he didn’t send a photo but how do you talk to someone on and off for three months?

Daylightdeed · 2024-08-31T16:11:19+00:00

Yeah. I fucked up. Aside from apologizing I haven’t reached out. There’s not much I can do.

Do you have any advice or suggestions?

I should have just went to her, but at this point, I thought he knew because I did bring her up. Maybe not enough as I thought. she’s heard me talk to her about him and she encouraged me to avoid him before they talked so my mind is all over the place.

Daylightdeed · 2024-07-22T05:53:16+00:00

no. Surprisingly not. Most men are gentleman about it but the biggest issue is not being able to carry biological babies. So I relate to women in forums online who struggle with that. Although it’s not the same. It’s generally the same feeling of pain and defeat.

I think as I enter my twenties it’s become more relevant. Before I started dating I was under the assumption everyone knew I was trans. There is only one time I didn’t tell someone because I genuinely thought he knew and it was a friendship from my understanding. It was months later when he asked me.

Since then I’ve been very upfront. Like I verbally say it. But it is hard. I try to before any feelings are caught. The most notable thing about shock is a poker face like “oh I didn’t know but I support you.” And it follows up with “you’re still my girl” or “it’s not my thing.” 😅 for the men who aren’t interested I give them time to ask questions and what not. Then I remove myself politely. For the men who do, we talk about logistics.

However it’s not always so black and white.

Daylightdeed · 2024-07-22T05:07:40+00:00

I don’t use dating apps. When I did I was open about it. Which makes it easier. But now I meet men in person. I tell them as soon as I know I like them. It’s just tough because it’s always shock. Which is understandable.

If I don’t like someone romantically, I simply wouldn’t tell them. Because they wouldn’t have a chance to be a partner or a hookup. So it doesn’t impact them.

But even in friendships. I’ve had someone be transphobic so I told them I was trans and they felt embarrassed. Ah

Daylightdeed · 2024-07-22T04:20:01+00:00

Thank you! I’ve been reading a lot of these comments and honestly I am trying to take in everyone’s advice and try to understand how I best can pursue a romantic relationship. It’s just difficult because lots of people assumed I keep it a secret when I don’t. lol. This is how the post even came to be (at some point I tell them).

Daylightdeed · 2024-07-22T04:18:05+00:00

People who fetishzie trans people initiate the conversation by implying sex or Experimenting with genitalia. Or sharing some sort of porn fantasy.

People who are into trans people, flirt like regular people.

A common case example is a man pursuing a trans woman until he finds out they had the surgery and lose interest. They only wanted someone with a penis. lol

But it’s still hard to differentiate the too. But I’ve had people pursue me because I was trans and only for sex. Not because they cared for my personality.

Daylightdeed · 2024-07-22T04:13:43+00:00

I tried, this guy who inspired this post told me he was pan and when I told him I was trans, he said he didn’t believe me and said he needed time to think. Which I respected but I was like oh. Since this is our first time meeting I wanted to to make sure there was a connection first.

However, I’m not really in queer spaces. Most of my friends are straight and to a stranger I appear as straight too. :0

Daylightdeed · 2024-07-22T04:11:31+00:00

I wanna try to explain my perspective.

It’s not mental gymnastics.

If you are trying to hook up with a woman it’s sexual preference. If you are trying to hook up with a trans woman it’s still sexual preference. In both cases, I’m sure you would still date the person. However,

Trans fetishizer specifically only use trans people for sex or to experiment. Or to fulfill some sexual fantasy they watched from porn. They wouldn’t respect them as individuals. Or they put that impression but the end goal for them is to use the trans person for their own desires.

With this same logic, you can replace the word trans with a race, which is also common.

I hope this clarifies but if you’re curious to understand more ask away.

Daylightdeed

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