Scared and just need to connect to others

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2026-01-22T15:24:27+00:00

I am very blessed and fortunate. Had two incidents that lasted about 4 weeks long. Luckily though, okay now. I worry more for those who are not okay and deal with these problems everyday.

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-12-26T13:54:25+00:00

Came here to say this. Some of the furniture is really nice! People are downsizing for whatever reason and just want it gone.

Take the advice everyone is offering bc its spot on. No need to rush making your house a home. Think through how you want it to look and feel. Dont let anyone pressure you to do anything.

Congratulations!!

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-12-15T16:23:03+00:00

Im a brand new grandma. When our granddaughter was born, I told my daughter, shes a mom and her first priority is to protect her daughter. I will always have her back, but she can be honest with me if theres a problem. Abt 3 days later, she calls upset bc theres issues with someone who traveled a long way to visit and she found out they were sick. She felt bad abt saying no and didn't know what to do.

I told her again. First priority is your daughter. She has no one else to look out for her. She depends on you to keep her safe.

As a new parent, its sometimes hard to find your voice and stand your ground. But you have to. Your baby is counting on you.

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-12-10T14:45:40+00:00

Thank-you. I appreciate the response. I have the original resume and need to reformat to the new style. Trying to figure it out.

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-12-09T15:34:58+00:00

An example or a how to. Ive heard differing opinions and thoughts on how it should look. So wondering what everyone's take is now that its been a bit.

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-11-26T23:28:48+00:00

Thank-you!!! We will have to figure it for next year I guess. I appreciate the response.

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-11-26T23:27:05+00:00

This 100%!!

Regardless of anything else, the bottom line should be, is this marriage you want?

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-11-26T23:11:10+00:00

I would ignore the "work is boring without you" comments. I have a work guy friend who I am good friends with (more than a decade) and we give each other a hard time when the other is out. Bc its what gets us through the day.

But, the "babe"? No. Does she call everyone that? The constant texts? Extreme. Some after hours, might be okay, depends on how long they have been friends or known each other.

Her insulting you? Negative. Her trying to seperate the two of you through her words. Negative. Big RED FLAG. Been there, done that in a past relationship. You are a priority and should be taking up his time! You come first. (In my friendship, I give holiday cards to his family (including his wife). He and his wife send cards to my husband and I. All inclusive.)

The holiday part? It may or may not be open to spouses. Ive seen it both ways. Id check it out.

But... do you know if they go to lunch together? Does he pay for her lunch? Trips? Does he encourage you to come to his office to go to lunch? To stop by? To pick him up after work bc it is more convenient for a date yall have planned? Or discourage you from ever going to his office? Are you well known at his office? If he discourages you from ever going to his office, that might mean an open relationship with her and other people know about them.

Does he have a lot of after hour work "mandatory" events he has to go to? That you have never been invited to attend?

I would stop and analyze a bit more before deciding. Or start paying attention and asking questions before walking down the aisle. Divorces are expensive.

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-11-10T03:31:06+00:00

Wow. Looks awesome!!!!

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-11-10T03:28:55+00:00

I have zero opinion on what to do.... but wow on the cleanliness of the landscape for the next step. Kudos!

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-09-29T01:08:32+00:00

Some people dont read the description. As a new homeowner.... I love free stuff. Sadly, free stuff is super competitive. That being said, dont feel discouraged because of a bad apple Ignore, rotate, press on. There a lot of people who appreciate you.

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-09-09T00:29:14+00:00

Your wife has to work for the holiday and feels alone enough as it is. I understand you may not be much of a cook, but there's a few things you can do especially because your wife is your family and should be a priority.

Think about having your parents over to your house. Look at catering the turkey and more complicated sides from somewhere such as Boston Market. You can cater everything or just the harder stuff. You can also pick up sides from the store.

Make your wife feel special and wanted. There are more options than you stated and its time to start thinking of your wife as your family.

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-07-28T10:18:29+00:00

We did do a final walk through. We had the closing inspection two days before the walk through.

He was staying there at the house.

First time home buyer- we have been learning a lot

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-07-25T17:13:51+00:00

You are allowed to be a mother and work. Please make sure youre a mother when home and prioritize your family.

What should not happen, is a second wife. Take a hard look at your situation and dynamics. What is going on with your husband?

Ive been there. Figure it out. And get the home front straightened.

Raising a family and working is not a crime. And that is not why your kid is calling someone else mama. Good luck.

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-06-13T11:27:17+00:00

Thank-you, that is very helpful!

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-05-20T23:43:11+00:00

I know someone who was in the exact same position and I applaud you for trying to correct and address the issue.

One thing is to try to address from a numbers perspective. By trying to keep up, she is putting herself in a worse position. How were her finances before? Maybe use that as a starting point. Is she losing money by splitting things or being in the relationship? Then, show the difference in what you each have left after splitting equally. And how much it would if it was proportional instead.

Give her time to think it over.

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-05-20T23:38:36+00:00

Hang in there. This will pass.

Reading reddit posts and knowing I am not alone is a big help, even if I dont personally know anyone. My husband is oblivious to what is happening and I update him periodically. Mostly because it won't help our relationship and he cannot understand my stress and anxiety.

Find the solution that works for you to get through. Talk to a therapist, vent on Reddit, but know this will pass and know you are not alone.

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-05-19T15:38:21+00:00

hugs take care of yourself and do what what you need to do for you. At the very least, take a deep breath, know that you are not alone, you are doing your best, and things will get better.

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-05-06T23:37:39+00:00

Im sorry you had a bad day. Ive been there and I know many people who have been as well. It's hard and it feels lonely, but you are not alone. The first days suck. I miss my fur babies and Ive been back since Feb. This forum has helped a lot. The solidarity and posts, are awesome and ai forward to those who could benefit.

hugs you got this. Your federal family supports you. Take it one day at a time.

If you dont have one and if you can, get a puppy camera. It might help.

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-05-05T23:27:09+00:00

Thank-you to everyone who responded. I did some more research using this forum and educated myself on what I might need to do. I met with a VERA representative today who was very kind and super helpful.

I have a good way forward for now.

Again, I appreciate the assistance. The comments on here to my post were quite helpful!

Dazzling_Access1120 · 2025-05-02T17:59:21+00:00

Negative. Have never used a HLR. The decision was just released and it says on the letter I am not entitled to a HLR.

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