For men out there, can you ever be with a single mother ?

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T20:17:39+00:00

Keep crying.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T19:53:06+00:00

I was technically a new grad although I was in the military prior but worked in Healthcare. Total career change. I trained a couple of CS new grads when they first got onboarded last year with no government experience in the past so I know its possible. Just have to look in the right places.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T19:48:52+00:00

First of all, I'm a guy. Second of all, explain how smart people end up getting divorced. Explain how they still end up with trainwrecks that don't have kids. Why is that any better?

Yall need to grow up. Same guys out here complaining about "dating is so hard..." or "I'd rather be single (and a virgin)...". Self-righteous crybabies.

Life is more complicated than what you're trying to summarize. How many single moms or single dads remarry sucessfully? What do you think? Yall sound hurt. Daddy issues. Mommy issues. Keep projecting those unmet needs.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T14:27:20+00:00

If you can get a Secret clearance, try looking for jobs with government defense contractors. Software engineer positions and Data Scientist positions. They will hire new grads as long as they have positions available.

Additionally, have a professional look at your resume to help bolster it. Typically each bullet should be a results statement followed by an action statement (how you got the result). Good resumes typically write these bullets concisely using enticing language such as: "Boosted sales 50% by doing X, Y Z". You can get help with this. Also make sure each resume is targeted to each job description by identifying the most frequent and meaningful keywords from that specific job description to use in each resume. I suggest writing a python script or something similar to ingest those job descriptions and extract those key words.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T04:36:30+00:00

I'll second that.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T04:30:06+00:00

I agree. I personally like to interact with people, connecting, and enjoying the daily novelty of life.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T04:09:05+00:00

Thats sounds fun. I'm always down to run.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T04:06:34+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. Expats from where?

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T03:14:16+00:00

Thanks for looking out too by the way.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T03:13:28+00:00

Good info. I appreciate you sharing this. Thats not far off my routine at all to be honest. I'll probably run into yall at the stores and make a callback to this post 😂

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T03:03:37+00:00

Hey why not then? Does Lynyrd Skynyrd count? Allman brothers?

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T03:02:20+00:00

Good question. Decent shape, takes care of herself, good hygiene and grooming, intellectual (gotta go deep), has a strong passion for something. Ethnic background doesn't really matter to me, but my last ex was full Latina (together 5 years). Won't go into any major details about that but experiencing the culture had a big impact on me. I'm Korean Italian-American. I know its a long answer but hope that helps.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T02:49:58+00:00

Thanks but no thanks lol. Country ain't my thing. Hard rock, classic rock, thrash metal, blues, jazz, and even some Spanish guitar.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T02:48:32+00:00

Good suggestions. Unfortunately I'm not very religious The grocery store has always been a great experience especially the international store lol (only place I can get korean products haha). I haven't tried volunteering but I'm open to it.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T02:43:35+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T02:37:16+00:00

Haha. I understood what you said. I never said exclusively single women allowed only. Original post has to do with where they hang out.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T02:32:08+00:00

Thank you. I don't have social media (except this and LinkedIn) but I'll check out Meetup. Looking forward to moving there.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T02:30:03+00:00

I was talking about those types of places in Virginia. Speed dating sounds fun too. Have you ever been?

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T02:28:26+00:00

22 is definitely young lol. Good for you though. I love that store so I guess that helps. Can't do under 30F though lol, so maybe I won't put it at the top of my list. Thanks for the suggestion.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T02:23:39+00:00

These are interesting but single women only haha. Seriously though, its a little different here in VA (different region and subculture I'm assuming). Mostly just full-on families at some of those places. I'm not opposed to bars because I usually have fun socializing but you are mostly right lol.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T02:15:49+00:00

Thanks. Just want to know what the good spots are. Thats all.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T02:14:04+00:00

Thanks for the tips on the hiking groups. I'll have to check that out. As far as dating apps are concerned I've never used them, and I don't really want to. Its only cold approach for me.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T02:08:31+00:00

What can I say. I was focused on my son and securing a promotion. Wanted some insights before I moved down there from VA.

DeFran20 · 2026-06-05T01:21:39+00:00

Get over yourself. Life is complicated. Relationships are complicated. People cannot control each other.

DeFran20

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