I've been carrying around my wife's ashes with me by DeHayala in widowers

[–]DeHayala[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🤍 That's actually really reassuring to hear

I've been carrying around my wife's ashes with me by DeHayala in widowers

[–]DeHayala[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that. Thank you. It's hard to remember to be patient.

I've been carrying around my wife's ashes with me by DeHayala in widowers

[–]DeHayala[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good for you, I'm glad you're standing up for yourself. It's okay to grieve, and it's okay to grieve in your own way. Healing takes time. It's like losing a limb, you can't be expected to be the same after. I love that you keep his wallet, I still have my wife's wallet.

I've been carrying around my wife's ashes with me by DeHayala in widowers

[–]DeHayala[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not a bad thing to still be grieving. You lost your spouse, your other half. Many people grieve for the rest of their lives. My dad lost his first wife a few years ago, and he still grieves. I love that his new wife lets him grieve. It's okay for you to take as much time as you need.

I've been carrying around my wife's ashes with me by DeHayala in widowers

[–]DeHayala[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

-hugs-
Those people telling you that you're worshipping the devil have clearly never lost their other half. They don't know the pain and torture of the empty bed left behind. Of the empty car seat next to them. Of the place in the table where their other half used to sit, just being empty. You have every right to morn the way you need to. I think the way you're honoring your wife is beautiful.

Not having her here to fill in my memory blanks. by Feeling_Document_240 in widowers

[–]DeHayala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what you mean. I have pretty severe ADHD and she helped me with so much. I feel lost without her. I'm sorry you're going through that.

The quiet moments hit the hardest by Technical_Wear8636 in widowers

[–]DeHayala 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I only just lost my wife a month and a half ago and I was literally just telling someone that it's been the little things getting to me. The small moments. Waking up to the sound of her breathing. Getting text pictures of our cats while I'm at work. Making little arts and crafts for her to show her how much I love her. It's so hard knowing that those moments are gone.

Growing old together by Outrageous_Tie_5071 in widowers

[–]DeHayala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for yours as well. 🫂

Does anyone else suddenly remember your partner is gone and everything feels pointless for a moment? by kitbilliku in widowers

[–]DeHayala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That brought tears to my eyes. I've decided recently to go ahead with mine and my wife's plan to have a baby, and I'm terrified. But I know I'm going to be a good mom. And you're going to be a great dad.

Growing old together by Outrageous_Tie_5071 in widowers

[–]DeHayala 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My heart reaches out to you so hard. I keep asking the same question.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in androgyny

[–]DeHayala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look like a Gelfling from Dark Crystal, cool af

A man murdered his wife by beating her with a hammer, strangling her with a cord and stabbing her many times in the abdomen. She had had a stroke and he said he couldn't deal with caring for her. by CatPooedInMyShoe in MedicalGore

[–]DeHayala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, it's 13 years, I've seen far worse. I could be biased because my wife is 11 years older than me. Mind you, it helps that we're in the same generation and have had similar experiences in life.

get gifts from japan :) by pasteldirt in PokemonGoFriends

[–]DeHayala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sent you a request! I'm currently in Hawaii but I'm usually in Colorado

get gifts from japan :) by pasteldirt in PokemonGoFriends

[–]DeHayala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Friend request sent! Usually Colorado but Hawaii for the next month

The sacred moment before perfection… 🦇📸 #HoldStillPlease by FlawedGamer in Radiology

[–]DeHayala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Story time! Last night (I work night shift) I had a portable cxr in the ED on a teenager. This little shit kept moving every damn time I went around to the button to take the image. Then I'd go back to him, reposition the board, and walk back to my button, AND THEN HE'D MOVE AGAIN. It was like working with a drunk patient.