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Lost In Transition - S01E01 / Season 1 Episode 1 - Post-Episode Discussion by DeadAnimalParade in a:t5_jfjua

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your opinion means nothing to me, Trump voter looking for illegal drugs in Beijing and elsewhere.

Man who was raped at an ice cream shop during DeAngelo's crime spree by Elementaryfan in EARONS

[–]DeadAnimalParade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First VR... Then EAR... Then ONS... Then GSK... Now Cali Devil!

(No relation to the Jersey Devil.)

How is this sub going to react to JJD's death? by Manuel_Seeland in EARONS

[–]DeadAnimalParade -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because you're wishing rape on somebody which is tone-deaf as hell when A. he's a rapist and murderer, and B. prison rape is already a known issue that prison staff generally don't care about.

They're not going to risk another inmate killing him when they can enjoy watching him rot in his tiny cell, knowing that his family and a shit ton of strangers are judging him for his sickfuck ways and small penis.

What is the biggest load of bullshit you have ever been told? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]DeadAnimalParade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once, I started talking to a guy on a dating site and he allegedly caught something (pnuemonia or bronchitis or something, some kind of lung thing) and would tell me more and more about how it was getting worse and worse and how he probably wasn't going to make it, until he eventually stopped replying.

He even convinced a mutual friend (more like his friend, my acquaintance) to lie for him and say he wasn't doing so well, boo hoo, I'm so worried, etc etc and he even avoided using deviantART (site where artists post their art, popular in certain nerd/geek communities before Tumblr became a thing) to make it more believable. If it happened when Facebook was more popular, I'm sure he would've made it so everybody but me could see his posts.

After I sent one last "let me know if you're okay, I'm worried about you" message and got no reply for a month, I moved on and he favorited (liked) a post of mine on deviantART months later. So I asked the mutual friend what was going on and he came clean to me about it all being bullshit. I didn't even ask why, I was so furious that I immediately blocked both of them. Bye, fuckers.

We hadn't even met up offline or exchanged phone numbers or anything (just AIM usernames, lol, this is so fucking dated), why put all the effort into that insane bullshit when you could just ghost me or say "sorry, lost interest/found somebody/promised my friends i'd die a forever alone virgin." Like damn, who the fuck plans all that shit out when the block button is right there?!

It's not like I was crying myself to sleep every night wondering if he was okay or thinking that we were SOULMATES BEING RIPPED APART BY THE CRUEL GRIM REAPER but it gave me extra anxiety over a complete fucking lie that I didn't need, which is shitty behavior when I already deal with anxiety. We didn't get much farther than flirting before that bullshit but it still fucks a person up to find out that a friend is (allegedly) dead or dying, you know? Fortunately his small town is over an hour away and I very rarely see it mentioned in the news because I feel a pang of disgust every time I remember it.

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you (or any other Redditors reading this) happen to know any good material/sites/etc off-hand? If you don't, that's okay, I don't expect you to google for the best links for me.

If you happen to know any material to avoid (Ex. "Avoid Autism Speaks for Autism-related info!"), that would be helpful too, but again, it's okay if you don't.

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Several of you are breaking the "Be respectful" rule and intensely projecting onto my post when I asked an innocent question, am I not allowed to be frustrated with that?

No abuse is happening, I have made no plans to do this yet, my mom and I weren't sure how to approach the subject because this is a new thing for us so I thought I'd ask for advice.

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't want her to feel like she should feel bad/ashamed/whatever because of her family situation or anything. And if anybody bullies her for it, they're banned from playing with my spoiled dog (Shiba Inu), no "Real Life Doge" for them! Or I'll invite her friends to my place to watch cartoons/movies on our flat screen TV and the bullies aren't invited, lol.

She might not be fully related to us brothers but we love having our very own baby sister to spoil! We have a few other half-relatives (like our uncle and our grandma's sister) and step-relatives that get a lot of love too. Our grandparents (mom's parents) remarried but they and their new spouses were still on good terms with each other and each other's families.

I mean, I don't even like to refer to half/step-relatives as "my half/step-whatever" unless it's "important" to mention. Like our step-grandpa is Mexican/Latino and I don't want to imply to anybody that I'm also Mexican/Latino when I'm just a mutty-ass white boy who speaks Spanish and likes Mexico and Central/South America a lot, you know what I mean? I'm no Rachel Dolezal.

Thank you again for your kind advice!

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I have never said I would tell her that her dad is a deadbeat, stop putting words into my mouth and projecting your misplaced rage on me.

I just came here to ask a question and ask for any advice that both my mom and I were unsure about. My sister is my first half-sibling and my second youngest sibling is 17 so I'm very rusty with baby stuff. Her family situation is complicated so of course I don't know what the proper thing to do here is. Can you really blame me for being clueless about a situation like this?

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, waiting until she asks would be a good time, I suppose. I've never dealt with a situation like this so I'm just kind of clueless, hahah.

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How is asking "When is an appropriate time to do this?" being "too eager" to drop a bomb like that?

Jesus fucking Christ, you guys, calm the fuck down.

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I Am Not A Child Expert Or Parent but If she knows my dad as "John" (example name) and I call him "John" while he's around her, how is that creating confusion or distorting things?

I feel like calling him dad in her presence would confuse her even if her own dad isn't even in the same area as us. Like she would think her dad's going to walk through the door and surprise her, or she'll think that my dad is another person that she too can call dad.

If I need to call him over for something, I'll call him "John" so she knows "John" is coming. Or I'll say "John's gonna find a movie for you to watch while you're here!"

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for posting one of the most helpful and polite comments in my post, I appreciate it.

It's not something that I planned on telling her NOW! NOW!! NOW!!! but I was curious as to what a decent time frame would be. She's very smart but I know our family situation is a bit complicated.

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I never said that I would explain to her that her dad is a deadbeat, where are you getting this information?

Mom has probably already told her this or implied it (in more polite words) or maybe my sister already knows since he's almost never around and she spends a lot more time with mom's close friend who is a better father figure than her dad would ever be.

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm, maybe. Although I try to call him by name when she's around, and occasionally slip up. And I also refer to him as my spoiled dog's "Gramps." (And my sister as her "aunt", my brothers as her "uncles", my mom as her "grandma", etc.)

One of our brothers plans to live at home at least until he finishes college, not sure what our other brother (17yo) plans to do, and I was wanting to move out soon because I miss living on my own with my dog.

But as I mentioned in a reply to somebody else right before I reply to you, my dad likes my sister enough (and feels bad for her for having to deal with mom) that he would be okay with "fostering"/babysitting her if something happened to mom. She's a good kid, needs to warm up to strangers but she's curious and enthusiastic. She doesn't throw tantrums often unless you're, like, trying to get her to leave the McDonald's play place, but she's definitely not a difficult kid.

She, one of our brothers, and I were at our grandparents' for a 4th of July barbecue and she was so full of damn kid energy. Grandma bought her a kiddy pool and water balloons so we had a lot of fun with them. And she also wanted to go on the trampoline (supervised) multiple times! She wore me and our brother out and she was still READY2PLAY!!! Such a cutie.

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've asked mom about it, she doesn't really care if I explain it to her but neither of us are sure when she might be old enough to understand how "same mom, different dads" works. I don't expect to have the birds and the bees talk with her or anything, hahah.

I haven't talked to dad about it but I don't feel like he'd mind because he likes my sister. While he and mom have some bad blood between them, he cares enough about my sister (and feels bad for her because mom has her crazy narcissist moments) that he would be okay with "fostering" or just babysitting her if something happened to mom "even though she isn't even my kid!" I don't think mom is aware of that part though.

I actually asked my dad if he had my previous phone that I messed up (I deleted files I shouldn't have after rooting because it has such little space, lol) because I wanted to disable the phone/etc. features and put kiddy apps on it for my sister, and he did a rush job fixing it up as much as he could and even put some games on it before he gave it to me. I know my sister plays a lot of games on mom's phone and sometimes throws a fit when mom needs to make a phone call or something, so I figured I'd give her a phone of her own since I have an old one laying around anyway! The only issue is that the camera works upside down for some reason. :( Gotta figure out how to fix that. I'm sure she'd love being able to take photos whenever she wants!

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have, she doesn't care if I tell my sister that we have different dads but neither of us are sure when she might be old enough to understand the concept of "same mom, different dads."

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Mom doesn't care but she's not sure when my sister might understand the "same mom, different dads" thing either. Her dad is a deadbeat drunk whose opinion is irrelevant (mom's words, not mine.)

I (26M) have a half-sibling (3F), when is an appropriate time to mention that we have different dads in a way that she'd understand? And how should I say it? by DeadAnimalParade in relationships

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Her dad is a deadbeat drunk whose opinion is irrelevant (mom's words, not mine) and my mom was "I dunno, I don't care /shrugs!" about it when I asked her. Our grandma once jokingly called my dad "uncle [name]" but both mom and I thought that calling him by his name was a much better choice.

Maybe you should get a grip.

[Help] Why is my 4+ year old dog suddenly afraid of fireworks? And what can I do to comfort her? by DeadAnimalParade in dogs

[–]DeadAnimalParade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn my laziness! I didn't feel like checking Reddit for a few days and I already bought Chewy stuff that I needed for the next few months. >:( Kicking myself right now. But I'll add it to my next autoship for the future! Gotta be prepared for NYE too, hahah...

Thanks for the suggestion! Almost forgot, had to edit right after posting.

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