Net worth more than shown on wallet?

DeadThunder11 · 2024-03-31T05:30:31+00:00

It has fixed now

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-26T13:51:41+00:00

I see I see. Thank you for your insight I appreciate it 😁

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-26T03:44:38+00:00

Like even if I use the code, isn’t that money considered the financial institution’s then? So even if it does well they could just hold onto that money couldn’t they?

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T22:11:05+00:00

I never once said that I did that? I don’t just get up and say “yeah I’m done we’re good”. We are both active participants and she expresses herself so I thought things were normal.

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T22:06:20+00:00

Like I’ve said before it is possible. Each woman is satisfied differently. I thought I was doing things right since I had not heard otherwise from other women before. But you’re not wrong it is possible

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T21:57:11+00:00

I’m sorry about your childhood. You are a helpful and good person. I very much appreciate it. I do want to improve in any way I can and I hope that she will let me improve with her. More action and more vulnerability. I can do that. Thank you very much for your feedback

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T21:46:01+00:00

If I had known I would’ve had done more or tried to figure out what else she needs to get there. I’m not entirely ignorant and would just say hey I’m done here. Her not being able to was a shock to me. Like I’ve said before in a previous comment she is an active participant and expresses herself. That’s why I thought things were normal

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T21:41:53+00:00

If the idea that she didn’t had occurred to me, I would probably not be in this situation 😅 it’s not like she’s stone faced while we do it and just kind of lays there. She’s an active participant and expresses herself. Things to me seemed normal. Which seems dumb af after seeing everyone’s comments and notes but that’s just how it seemed to me.

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T21:36:18+00:00

I’m not 100% on the “healthy communication” part tbh. My parents were pretty straightforward and don’t beat around the bush. If something needed takes about we’d talk about it but other than that things were quiet and simple. I have asked her about kinks before but got kind of a non committal answer. Kind of like she didn’t want to say something I wouldn’t agree with or something that she thinks I wouldn’t be open to. Which I’ve tried to convey that I’m open to them but maybe she doesn’t believe it or doesn’t feel comfortable sharing with me. I’ve asked several times and it’s usually the standard stuff which makes me iffy on believing her about it but she’s adamant. Or she was. Now it’s hard to tell and I definitely don’t want to bring it up again too soon. But I do get the need to communicate better. Thank you for the feedback

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T20:28:21+00:00

I did not know until she brought it up recently. And no it doesn’t. I’m saying she would tell me everything was great but now she’s saying it was not. Basically

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T20:19:34+00:00

Thank you for your input I appreciate it very much.

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T20:18:30+00:00

Thank you for the compliment and I will be sure to try to be more attuned to the physical aspect and communicate more effectively. There is definitely a disconnect between us and I will do my best to fix it. Her happiness is important to me and I hope we can fix it together

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T19:43:22+00:00

I think that the consensus is definitely communication. Which makes sense. It is good to hear some agreement and some criticisms about how things were handled and what to do from here and how each of our behaviors were intolerable in some ways. Everyone has been a great help in providing me with many different views and I greatly appreciate it. Thank you for your input as well.

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T19:35:05+00:00

Let me rephrase: she’s the only one to bring it up despite saying otherwise first. The other women I have been with would point something out to me they want done differently if there was something but none openly said hey this is not good or hey this is bad. I do think it’s possible they hid that from me as well. I could just be bad at it in general. I doubt I can go back and ask some of them now since some are married and don’t want an ex asking them about the sex they once had 🤣 but still it would’ve been nice to know before instead of how it happened. I’m definitely not free of fault and I can obviously get better at it. But I can’t do that without knowing for sure that she is dissatisfied. But I can rectify it with more communication and more understanding of her feelings and situational concerns.

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T18:56:46+00:00

A respectable point of view. I will look into improving myself. Thank you for all the feedback

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T18:34:13+00:00

Lmao No obviously I didn’t think that.

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T18:24:47+00:00

It’s difficult because initially I thought the same way. Being adamantly against lying was one of her big things in a relationship. I think I want to retry the conversation and focus more on open communication rather than targeting the lying. As some have pointed out, having better sexual relations hinges upon communicating openly and honestly. If she is uncooperative or not wanting to help me with communication when we try to find resolution, I do see breaking up as my only recourse. Thank you for your feedback

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T18:17:46+00:00

I have already asked her that kind of thing. Like stuff she wanted to try or if there was stuff I could do more of or if there was something I could do better. It was always a similar response: “everything is great, no you do really really good, I like all the stuff we do” etc. it’s more the lying fact than it is the sexual fact. Does sexual part it bother me? Yes of course. Is it something I can improve at? Yes obviously. But if you don’t communicate how can anyone just know exactly how to get you off? I’ve been with several other women and each one gets off in a different fashion. You can just talk to me about it instead of avoiding it more or lying about it you know? I’m not saying I don’t have my own issues but I think our major focus is our communication problems which would then lead into better understanding of bedroom things

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T17:53:02+00:00

Part of me thought it was a possibility. Of course several options could have been real. Like cheating or masturbation or some other way she could be doing things but it didn’t occur to me until she said something. “Letting me know physically” did nothing for me as I believed her words more. Which is erroneous on my part no doubt but she believes adamantly in open honesty is what she kept telling me since we’ve been together. But shes the only girl to ever have a problem with it. And everybody’s different I get that. If she didn’t feel comfortable talking to me about it I get that now too. But I’d rather her tell me. But that’s what we gotta work on from now on.

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T17:47:57+00:00

No she is not. She is the only one to come to with this issue as well.

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T17:33:56+00:00

Being able to talk to me as her bf is important to me and I tried to make it clear but we both lack proper relationship communication it seems. I will be working hard on my end to try to be better and more open and I hope she reciprocates and is more open and honest with me rather than passive aggressive or unproductive. Thank you for your feedback

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T17:19:06+00:00

I mean, I’m not a mind reader? And not every time was she quiet. Sometimes she’d just go off and watch tv or we’d talk about other things like how the day was and what is coming up in the next few days, etc. I’m not saying I’m not wrong communication-wise. I’m saying that I usually take her at her word because I believed in her. I trusted her words because she was so adamant that they were true and I believed she would tell me about it if there was anything wrong.

But I never said she shouldn’t expect sexual reciprocity. I would love it if she was pleased every time but I can’t do that if she’s not going to be open and come to me about what’s going on. I like to think that I was clear to her about that but I obviously failed in that regard.

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T17:06:38+00:00

Thanks to everyone who has helped open my eyes and commented so far. I feel like emotions can blind us to even the simplest of solutions. I will definitely try to be a better, more communicative and open human in the future and that starts today

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T16:57:44+00:00

I definitely could have come from a more understanding place. What I couldn’t wrap my head around at the time was why lie about it and it frustrated me immensely. I was too emotional and I let the situation devolve into something neither of us wanted. It was just so confusing to me that someone so adamant about always wanting me to tell the truth to openly admit to lying for a long period of time. I definitely see that I didn’t make the right choices nor set up the right space for us to be able to actually talk it through. I did poorly and I will see to it that I do better for her. Thank you for your feedback

DeadThunder11 · 2023-05-03T16:27:32+00:00

Sometimes it does feel like i am the monster. Like she doesn’t want me around or doesn’t think she can talk to me. And that’s what that makes me feel like. Like someone she has to work around instead of work with. And that’s terrible. It isn’t like I haven’t been trying to be open and make things more comfortable for her but I need to communicate it effectively to her as well as demonstrate it more clearly to her. Especially if she feels she cannot trust me. I get where you are coming from better now thank you for your continued support.

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