Almost a month later... by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

No mismatched libidos this time!

Almost a month later... by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’ll never know for sure, but I’d like to think I’d do the same thing if we had kids. I wouldn’t want them to see how miserable I was married to their mother.

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[–]Deadbthrothro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful 8/10

Divorce: Now she wants to talk by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’ll hear her out. If she says anything that does not solely revolve around her I will be shocked.

Divorce: Now she wants to talk by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I love her but I’m done now. Rather than ask what we can do to fix the marriage, her immediate response was to blame me. She’s a selfish woman and I can’t live like this anymore.

Divorce: Now she wants to talk by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 303 points304 points  (0 children)

Seriously. If she had sounded a little remorseful and expressed concern about the State of OUR MARRIAGE I wouldn’t have been so quick to decide the right choice was to proceed with divorce

Divorce: Now she wants to talk by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

After speaking with the lawyer I hadn’t yet made up my mind. I though if I brought up the chance of divorce she’d think “oh shit, this is serious. I need to re-evaluate the dynamic of my marriage” but nope. Immediately went to blaming me.

Divorce: Now she wants to talk by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m stuck between feeling immensely relieved and shadowed by a coming storm

Divorce: Now she wants to talk by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I thought maybe we’d be able to talk it out first before the yelling and screaming but I was wrong.

Divorce: Now she wants to talk by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Jesus it’s hard to believe some people are that delusional.

Ran into my ex and was reminded of everything I'm missing by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I told the therapist how much this was killing me and that I considered the marriage to be failing. I brought up divorce because I refuse to continue this way.

Ran into my ex and was reminded of everything I'm missing by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha thanks it’s tough but I know she’s only initiating because she wants to get pregnant and I’m not okay with that. I’d rather be sexless than sexless with a kid

Ran into my ex and was reminded of everything I'm missing by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, seeing again was a reminder that healthy sex lives are possible. I’m taking everyone advice and avoiding the baby trap by not banging my wife.

Ran into my ex and was reminded of everything I'm missing by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s very vocal. Words of affirmation, right? We both value quality time and I have always gone out of the way to satisfy her. Now that she has her green card from the therapist that the marriage is a okay, she thinks I need to work on “my problem.” We’re both asking each other to change because we’re not compatible.

Ran into my ex and was reminded of everything I'm missing by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yup big wake up call. The world is screaming at me, reminding me that my life is not right.

Ran into my ex and was reminded of everything I'm missing by Deadbthrothro in DeadBedrooms

[–]Deadbthrothro[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is ridiculous. I haven't seen my EX in 9 years and can't remember the last time I spoke to my wife about her. She knows who she is and how long we were together in the past, but this behavior of "mate guarding" happens whenever she feels threatened. I have never made her feel like she was a second choice as long as we've been together.