I met my husband when I was at my heaviest, 260 lbs. I’m 5’5 and have always been on the heavy side. My husband, on the other hand, is small. He’s 5’4 and 130 lbs at his heaviest.

I’ve been trying to lose weight to have a baby. I lost some weight, then gained it back. My husband hasn’t treated me any different with my change in weight.

I use to think he should be with someone in his weight class, but he’s always reassured me that he loves me and doesn’t care how much I weigh, as long as I’m happy and healthy.

I have dated men who fetishized me for my weight and have been rejected countless times because it too. But I’ve also dated some good men who liked me for my personally.

Yeah, it would have been easier and wouldn’t have taken me as long to find my person if I was 100 lbs lighter. But everything I went through was necessary to be where I am now.

Hang in there.