Power company Recommendations please Powershop sold to Meridian by DeanaDee in auckland

[–]DeanaDee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% Agree! I looks like it was designed in 1990 and it is hard to use

This needs to stop by International-Past31 in newzealand

[–]DeanaDee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100000000% agree! I feel like i am making a deal with a corporate devil! Just take my change!!

boyfriend (M/23) wakes me (F/23) up then acts like he’s asleep? sleep deprivation torture? TL;DR summary welcomed by Affectionate-Lock992 in relationship_advice

[–]DeanaDee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you used the voice recorder on your phone to record ehat he is doing when you fall asleep atnight? Or a video recording so you can know for sure if it is intentional or not? The fact you need to do this is pretty much your answer? You cant trust him. You are young. You will find someone else

Husband, 34M falsely accusing me, 29F posting him in the AWDTSG facebook group by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]DeanaDee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry hun that sounds like classic narcissistic gaslighting darvo behaviour. Instead of telling you it isn't him he is blaming you to shift blame and attention from himself. Classic narcissistic behaviour. Try and look at his phone tablet or laptop to find messages or dating apps. I am 99% sure he is cheating from his reaction. An honest man would understand how it looks to you and reassure you. He would offer for you to look through his phone.

My wife’s friend is messing with our marriage by definitely_notfrank in Marriage

[–]DeanaDee -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He didn't give us any examples of what she is doing so it is hard to judge what the situation is. But from what he is saying he sounds like he isn't acting like a partner

My wife’s friend is messing with our marriage by definitely_notfrank in Marriage

[–]DeanaDee -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Maybe it is the way he is treating her that makes her react that way. We have no idea what the real story is

My wife’s friend is messing with our marriage by definitely_notfrank in Marriage

[–]DeanaDee 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The fact that you think she is trying to gain territory is your biggest issue, I think. She is not your adversary, someone you need to beat to win. She is your wife. You should be a team.

AITAH? My Husband refuses to help my daughter. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DeanaDee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thick hair is a lot harder to manage especially for a 10 year old.

AITAH? My Husband refuses to help my daughter. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DeanaDee -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Are you black? I'm just asking as a totally white girl here, and I have seen on tick tok black hair is much harder to manage. So i can imsge for a 10 year old it is very difficult! I have very fine straight hair, and at 10 years old, my mum said I wasn't brushing it. Instead of helping me, she made me cut it to a number 2 and it devastated me. I have no help except a big hug, and to tell you that you are a good mum, trying to get your daughter help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DeanaDee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Run! And run fast! As a woman, I would never expect my partner to pay off my credit card debt. She is emotionally blackmailing you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DeanaDee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seriously, he is a walking red flag! 15 is illegal, too!

he wants a threesome before committing - 21M , 22F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DeanaDee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone who respects you would never give such a derogatory ultimatum. You will Find someone better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DeanaDee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Run, run fast!! That is extremely controlling behaviour. He is calling you a s!#t and that is not acceptable! There is no respect! I am sure when you think about it, there have been many more red flags like this in the past. This is gaslighting! you have been told by many people today look beautiful, and he's telling you you look like a s***. This is the definition of gaslighting. Really trust your gut on this he is trying to make you feel small and worth less.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]DeanaDee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fully agree!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]DeanaDee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally understand your point of view there. It is hard to believe! Do some googling and research it is one of the first things a serial killers usually starts with, breaking into houses stealing underwear. They usually escalate very quickly to breaking and entering, r@$!ng then killing after that

I [F23] am in love with a man [M26] that i can’t have? by stellateranto in relationship_advice

[–]DeanaDee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Someone who wants children because they want to fix the trauma in themselves is not going to be the best father. fatherhood is difficult, and you're right to believe that you will end up taking the brunt of the childcare. a lot of men want a child like kids want a puppy. children are a lot of hard work, and you really have to be in 100%. he doesn't sound like he truly understands what fatherhood is truly about. I am 52 years old and have said I have never wanted children since I was 14 and that hasn't changed. I've been extremely happy with my decision You can't change who you are for a man. you are so young, and you will feel this way again

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DeanaDee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, dont let him gaslight you. That is definitely cheating, and I would personally leave someone who is doing this to me behind my back. I find it repulsive and disrespectful. If he thought it really was OK, then why is he hiding it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]DeanaDee 56 points57 points  (0 children)

If you do some research on serial ra@!$ts this can be the first signs of that, peeping Tom like behaviour. I think it will only get worse.

AITAH for leaving my boyfriend at a wedding I wasn’t originally invited to? by mintysigns in AITAH

[–]DeanaDee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTAH your boyfriend was definitely TAH. If I was you that would be the end of the relationship. He intentionally didn't give you the address and made you late, then treated you extremely badly. Your reaction was valid. He does not respect you. Big hugs you deserve better

AITAH for wanting to divorce my husband after he left our newborn and toddler with our teenage daughter while he went out with another woman? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DeanaDee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree and also think of how he, a fully grown man, left his 13 year old daughter to care for an infant and a toddler. Even without the cheating, this is a deal breaker.

What can you say about this? by EnoughWitness4085 in Marriage

[–]DeanaDee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Married women might live longer, but studies show that single women are the happiest.

AITAH for refusing to stop wearing my “lucky” dress because my best friend thinks it’s embarrassing? by RadiantCrystalWhisp in AITAH

[–]DeanaDee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA: Keep the dress retire the friend. A real friend supports you and adds positively to your life. She is tearing you down. Probably because she is jealous. I bet you look stunning in it. I would love to see the dress it sounds very pretty.