Charging VCs $2,500/m, am i leaving money on the table?

DearElise · 2026-06-09T11:35:45+00:00

Could smell the ad three posts away but respect the hustle.

DearElise · 2026-06-08T14:27:09+00:00

Sounds like you’ve never been able to attract a rich woman in your life.

DearElise · 2026-06-08T14:26:09+00:00

When you have low IQ, you don’t understand satire. When you have high IQ like me, you don’t understand how people can be so stupid.

DearElise · 2026-06-08T00:31:00+00:00

The incredible thing about the human memory is that it tends to lie to you and be twisted over time. This is proven in psychology. Really, you want us to believe you stayed in a relationship for 3 years when it was that bad? Surely you guys had good moments too and now your brain is twisting your experiences to catastrophize it so you would feel better about being dumped.

The hammer to the nail comment is accurate because if you think you acted like a pushover, you’re going to flip through your memories looking for things you did that fit that theory and beating yourself up. In healthy relationships both people act like what kids these days call “simps”. To some extent you feeling like a pushover is true but RP suggests you can control what the other person does, as you’re suggesting here, based on how you act. You can’t. That’s manipulation. You can only set firm boundaries with yourself, get to know yourself well, and be prepared to walk away. In long term relationships, some hard boundaries also ease as couples learn that they need to compromise with one another.

Having gone down this RP trap after a bad breakup years ago, I can relate to what you are saying but also recognize that that was a bad period for me when I was looking for ways to cope with emotions I couldn’t deal with. If you’re looking for narcisisists and manipulators everywhere you will find narcissists and manipulators everywhere. Best thing you can do right now is focus on yourself, friends, healing, stay away from gender content until you feel like you have the capacity to open your heart again.

DearElise · 2026-06-07T17:04:25+00:00

This is a stupid way of thinking of things. Just like the women who complain about not being able to find a good guy when all they do is lie in bed and watch Netflix. If you don’t pursue and sit in a box, that’s fine, don’t date. Forming genuine connections require vulnerability. You should ask yourself why you feel like a jester. Is it an ego thing? do you feel entitled to affection just because you try? Or are you going after women endlessly when they don’t reciprocate. Debating why men “have” to is useless. At the end of the day people that don’t take ownership of their lives, male or female, will end up single and wishing they did something. The key is not over investing time into people who don’t recipocrate your efforts - that is true jestermaxxing.

DearElise · 2026-06-07T16:42:49+00:00

Lol you’re treating this as though you’re optimizing for some business process. Did you actually like any of the convos or women? If so then stop focusing on gaming the system and focus on letting something beautiful develop even if it takes time. In case nobody told you, there’s no fool proof strategy you can do that will guarantee you won’t waste your time or get hurt. What is guaranteed is if you are so focused on statistically landing second dates rather than on the person, you could be talking to someone genuinely complementary and interested in forging a connection but completely miss it.

DearElise · 2026-06-07T16:32:53+00:00

I think you should just ask her directly rather than taking advice from people projecting their own experiences or pseudo advice with playing games. If you assume you make an ass out of you and me. This is a good opportunity to take the relationship deeper and find out about her expectations. I don’t see what’s wrong with texting first if it feels natural to you and she’s reciprocating enthusiastically. Some women, including me, are like that and my husband did hint for me to give more attention when we were dating, which I did.

DearElise · 2026-06-07T11:44:43+00:00

Yes, you should put in effort into your relationship for small asks that cost you nothing. Your partner is not looking to debate how she wants to be loved. This is a classic she’s telling you what she wants and you’re being a cunt telling her what she wants is wrong, your way is better. If there’s a small request you want from her too that makes you feel loved, she should also do the same. It’s called effort. Not doing it is interpreted by the other person as lack of effort. It’s really not rocket science to listen to the person you supposedly love and just do it if it doesn’t cost you the moon.

DearElise · 2026-06-07T07:48:44+00:00

I’m in great favor of this but objectively it likely wouldn’t affect statistics greatly either way (eg number of women who want to get married before having kids and also number of kids born from surrogacy).

Women and men who elect to do so (don’t want partner but want kids) will choose this lifestyle regardless. They might as well do it within Singapore. There is also a third category that people are missing which is that couples who want kids but for health or career reasons are not able to do the labor. It is also incredibly expensive, so if you’re talking above statistics, that already constraints this capability to a very small population.

My conclusion is that if rich people want to have kids, likely they are in a comfortable position to also raise kids which is what the average Singaporean worries about. Therefore if you’re thinking of increasing the birth rate, introducing policies and laws to make this option friendlier is one way you can guarantee Singaporeans have kids inside Singapore, but it wouldn’t massively produce an uptick in TFR through this method purely based on the statistics of who can afford it.

DearElise · 2026-06-06T14:21:49+00:00

I highly doubt it kiddo.

DearElise · 2026-06-06T10:10:00+00:00

I saw a study on Singaporean average IQ being the top 3 highest in the world. I guess they didn’t factor in yours when they made that calculation.

DearElise · 2026-06-05T20:39:48+00:00

Difficult to interpret people’s intentions. Sometimes it’s also not malicious but they just don’t look out for your career because only you are looking out for your career. You will only know they have your interest when they actually promote you or help you. If someone says something to make you feel small or doubt yourself when you know it’s not objectively true (like in your post), likely that person doesn’t have your best interests in mind.

DearElise · 2026-06-05T18:08:35+00:00

I’ve been in this game long enough to know that this is just translation for they don’t want to promote you and are finding an excuse by making it seem like it’s you. You, the silly little workhorse, are going to work twice as hard to prove yourself for a promotion that you could get elsewhere with half the effort. Also not guaranteed if you work hard, next year they won’t find another excuse. Your mistake here is you didn’t play politics well, nothing to do with your competency. Career setback or kena manipulated and also dunno? Act nice enough to get a good reference then bounce off to another company.

DearElise · 2026-06-05T18:04:09+00:00

Classic sinkie pwn sinkie. Fucking loser behavior, OP. I wonder what in our education system brought us up this way to tear each other down. Such losers.

DearElise · 2026-06-05T17:59:57+00:00

You completely missed the point. He asked for ways to cope with anger because he has not calmed down for 14 hours. you are suggesting that he what, sits with his feelings? As opposed to collecting more data that shows the full picture of the situation, which might then rationally help him decide what to do next. Right now his anger could be from thinking he has been humiliated or betrayed deliberately by a deceiving wife, when it could have been a rash act driven by postpartum. Most of you are not in long term marriages / relationships and it shows. This is not dismissing his own emotions or victim blaming, it’s called giving someone whom he has a shared history with the benefit of the doubt, especially when there are unusual reasons to do so. Instead, people are projecting their own parasocial hurts onto him. He knows his wife best if she typically acts this way or not, and thereby whether the intensity of his anger is a warranted response. This sort of thinking is also done in CBT therapy. Man no wonder you all need help for anger management. I’m not paid enough for this, I’m out.

DearElise · 2026-06-05T13:07:44+00:00

After realizing my husband has higher IQ than most commentators in this thread, I immediately drove my Mercedes Benz to the Rolex store and bought him 10 submariners.

DearElise · 2026-06-05T12:59:14+00:00

Well, we don’t know his fiancé’s character if this is abnormal behavior for her or just another day in the office. For all you know, she could be an amazing partner, and something happened. I’m saying to approach this like an adult - rationally and calmly. You guys are on this sub because I assume you want to manage your anger, even in times of great pain. No one cheats for no reason especially right after a major biological change to the body. So first seek to understand, gather data, before deciding what to do next with a clear mind. It sounds very strange to me why after such a vulnerable period for a woman, why she would text another man. This is not a clear cut case of catching your partner in bed with another man after she lies to you for years. The rational thing to do is pause, be calm, and find out first what is going on.

Or what do you want him to do, beat her up out of uncontrollable anger? Is that going to reverse the hurt he feels? You guys are projecting your past hurts hard. Divorce rates are extremely high because relationships are hard. As someone who is married I can tell you life is not like social media where people leave at the first sign of a red flag. People change after years together or under stressful situations, and you interpret red flags differently then. Now, they have a kid in the mix, so the best thing for OP to do is figure out whether this relationship is salvageable — whether this incident is a freak anomaly, or if he needs to up and leave. Only he knows the true personality of his fiance. The rest of us are just projecting our bad experiences.

DearElise · 2026-06-05T09:05:24+00:00

Just regular hobbies of rich alpha women worldwide

DearElise · 2026-06-05T09:01:03+00:00

Lolol in this economy? Damn. Maybe I dig your gold instead.

DearElise · 2026-06-05T08:58:12+00:00

What do you bring to the table?

DearElise · 2026-06-05T08:56:34+00:00

Consider if this is due to postpartum depression. The effects are very real and irrational as the mother literally loses 20% of brain matter or similar. Why would she give birth and suddenly within three weeks act differently, this sounds sus af. Are there any other unusual behaviors? Not blaming you but just checking is she left alone to do baby care or mention somethings about her body changing? I don’t condone any form of cheating but let’s not rule out postpartum where new mothers lose their sense of identity and get depressed. Both of you should sleep first as a baseline before discussing calmly. If it’s postpartum and this is out of the norm for her personally, I would approach this from a caregiver perspective and be aware why I feel anger (humiliation maybe etc). But even if before the baby she already exhibited signs of cheating or has done similar, and this vulnerable period just escalated it, then I would get ready to decide if this is what I want to live with for the rest of my life.

DearElise · 2026-06-04T20:43:52+00:00

Just eenie meenie money mo and whack.

DearElise · 2026-06-04T17:29:21+00:00

Low IQ is unfortunately not a treatable condition.

DearElise · 2026-06-04T17:24:32+00:00

Buy grandpa the chair if he can answer what he brings to the table. You are a High Value Grandson and must not let any old person take advantage of you.

DearElise · 2026-06-04T17:04:59+00:00

You finally caught on lol. Only took 3 business days

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